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Uuuuh, I find this hard to believe. Every website is now setup that females must initiate conversation or it can't occur?

That doesn't sound right.

BS,try OA or POF.

Because I love muffins (the cake), so I got baited on that.
lol


Besides, I don’t judge character based on grammar or the way one chats. Otherwise I would date zero girls, seriously.

‘ud’ is an abbreviation of “you would” - so it’s not intended to be grammatically wrong, just a lazy way of texting.

I certainly did, especially on eHarmony. Whenever I did that guided communication thing and would get back one word answers to my well thought out questions I knew it was pointless to meet them or even continue the conversation. If they are that lazy looking for a boyfriend (and eventual Husband) imagine how lazy they would be in a marriage.


I would say Catholic is probably about my limit but it's a moot point now. There have been zero issues in our marriage so far about this and I suspect her parents (and mine) have a very similar dynamic. I actually got married in the church as a non-believer and the deacon actually told me that while they don't normally promote inter-faith marriages, this one was a "easy call". I will give the religion full credit that they take marriage VERY seriously and interview and screen you to ensure you understand what is expected.

One thing that I did find very surprising was how many believers were openly skeptical about certain parts of the religion, including of some of the core beliefs of the faith. I realize now that the line between "believer" and "non-believer" is not nearly as defined as you might think. Without getting into a religious discussion its important to understand who someone is as a person first not what church/mosque/synagogue they attend.

On IRC, back when it was the most widely used instant-messaging protocol. I had people ask me if I was a bot, and dismiss me in the middle of a heated argument by saying they didn't talk to smug people or bots. I also saw people explicitly saying you could recognize bots because only they put periods at the end of their messages.



Of course, but never expect people to bother to think through the implications of the offhand excuse they use to disqualify someone. As you can probably tell by now, this was a hard lesson for me to learn.

The fact that you gave this any thought at all shows that you're overthinking it. I've had plenty of times where I was talking to a girl on a dating app and got bored by the conversation and forgot about it and stopped responding. There was no reason other than something else came up, someone more interesting messaged me, or life just happened and I got busy. Girls get even more matches than guys so if I'm overwhelmed by the amount of matches I'm getting, imagine how overwhelmed the girl is.

I match with many people every week. When I was in NYC, I'd go to bed and in the morning wake up to 50+ people who liked my profile. A girl who is attractive probably gets at least double that number.

You're worrying about the wrong thing here. The real question is why you're getting so few matches. You may need to tweak your profile and choose better pictures and create a more interesting profile.

At least the girl wasn't mosting you

The free ones are. OkCupid and pof were the last now OkCupid has joined the rest. Says it keeps women from getting tons of messages that they don’t want.

I said except pof. What’s OA?
I haven’t gotten a message on pof in years. I rarely ever get Matches.

Weird.

Although, I suppose it's also somewhat irrelevant now that from what I hear from others using dating sites/apps etc (trends change) it seems that most straight people are all about Tinder these days. Maybe it's time to ditch the websites that dictate who can send messages or not and join the app world?

I always make effort to reply to anyone talking to me.

I’m ugly and low paid without a car. That’s why. I can’t wfford plastic surgery and I was t born with good looks.

They copying the bumble app. It’s a tinder app that wanted to challenge the society idea of men initiating first and only allow women to message first, it also puts a 14 hour time limit on the guy replying, I failed to reply to a lady cause when I got up it’d expired. Though not sure how to respond to “respond with the best 5 emogies describe you.”
Pretty much all the free sites went tinder by the way and all have apps. It’s all swipe left or right now. People are picked or thrown away solely based in their looks, which is how it works in person so was only a matter of time I guess.

It's somewhat how it works in person. In some ways sites and apps are cold and impersonal, but in others they're superior because they're so efficient. People can scroll through hundreds or thousands of others & either initiate contact or rule them out - it opens up so many more choices, options, and opportunities that generations passed wouldn't have had.

Related: I just read an article that due to a new US anti-sex trafficking law where websites can be sued if users facilitate prostitution on them that craigslist just got rid of their personals section and said they hope to bring it back one day if possible. The article was on gizmodo so seemed true.

*shrug* w/e just use whatever site/apps are popular in your area.

Or just make people mor superficial. People look at others as objects in a retail store,


Craigslist no that was my best results for dating
I’ve never got a dat from pof and now it’s all I’m left with.

Won’t it also mean same for dating sites, so is online dating sites going go down, what about Facebook I’m willing to bet prostitution goes on there too.

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I think what Sly is trying to communicate is that he wants to be seen as a serious potential date, and is kind of worried that his mannerisms, political beliefs, and social beliefs don't match up with autistic personality.

I hear ya on the superficial bit.. my people are very much all about that. There's MUCH more of a hookup culture based on appearances & body type than there is a dating culture. Personally, I'm okay with that as it suits me just fine. I'm somewhat interested in an actual relationship someday, but don't mind having the sex life of a pornstar with no strings attached so I can pursue other interests in life like education/career goals & time at the beach after work, or kiteboarding in the Summer w/o the burden of accommodating anyone else' schedule or wishes. It's why a number of my straight friends & coworkers envy gay guys to some degree.

So yeah, I agree, people ARE superficial both in person and on sites/apps. If that's not your thing then w/e carry on chatting and dating - there are bound to be other non-superficial people out there.

Here's the article about the craigslist shutdown:

https://gizmodo.com/craigslist-is-shutt ... 1824011480