Rant about being single
We're in an odd place right now to be honest. We have this idea about the man chasing, yet, everyone knows that the female is actually the selector. Women are also way more selective than men(this is incredibly well documented).
I think for some men this can feel like being a sales assistant in a clothing store, and in walks this incredibly picky customer, but he won't tell you what he wants or likes. And now you have to run around the store for clothes, to ask him if he like them or not, but he likes none of them.
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I think for some men this can feel like being a sales assistant in a clothing store, and in walks this incredibly picky customer, but he won't tell you what he wants or likes. And now you have to run around the store for clothes, to ask him if he like them or not, but he likes none of them.
How hard is it to figure out that women want the same thing they always have: the best possible mate.
They’re typically going to choose the healthiest/fittest/strongest highest social/economic status mate who’s a provider & protector etc etc. This is not rocket surgery stuff here...
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I think for some men this can feel like being a sales assistant in a clothing store, and in walks this incredibly picky customer, but he won't tell you what he wants or likes. And now you have to run around the store for clothes, to ask him if he like them or not, but he likes none of them.
How hard is it to figure out that women want the same thing they always have: the best possible mate.
They’re typically going to choose the healthiest/fittest/strongest highest social/economic status mate who’s a provider & protector etc etc. This is not rocket surgery stuff here...
Well, I'm a woman and I did not marry the healthiest/fittest/strongest/highest SES mate. I didn't even try to date those types. Because, what would we talk about? I looked for guys who shared interests with me and seemed likely to be loyal and loving. The second marriage I picked better than the first, but with both marriages I'm an exception to the "rule" (which I don't see as true) that goldfish stated.
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^^ & ^, Uuh, you're both autistic. Typical NT social rules don’t exactly apply. But in general, the list I posted is a fair representation of what typical women want, and the phrase “best possible mate,” kind of applies to everyone - only your criteria are atypical because you are.
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That's ridiculous, the probability of meeting one in any given geographical area is very low.
No, THAT's ridiculous. With technology we have much better chances now to zone in on a person with particular characteristics.
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That's ridiculous, the probability of meeting one in any given geographical area is very low.
I've met lots of young women on the spectrum in my area!
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I think for some men this can feel like being a sales assistant in a clothing store, and in walks this incredibly picky customer, but he won't tell you what he wants or likes. And now you have to run around the store for clothes, to ask him if he like them or not, but he likes none of them.
How hard is it to figure out that women want the same thing they always have: the best possible mate.
They’re typically going to choose the healthiest/fittest/strongest highest social/economic status mate who’s a provider & protector etc etc. This is not rocket surgery stuff here...
Well, I'm a woman and I did not marry the healthiest/fittest/strongest/highest SES mate. I didn't even try to date those types. Because, what would we talk about? I looked for guys who shared interests with me and seemed likely to be loyal and loving. The second marriage I picked better than the first, but with both marriages I'm an exception to the "rule" (which I don't see as true) that goldfish stated.
Wait so what it mean if I'm dating someone with whom I have almost no shared interest?
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I can't say, because you're not dating me. Lots of people date someone with whom they have no shared interest. I'm just saying, I'm not one of them.
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Whenever I see a couple walking by or sitting, being cute, I cant help but get a mix of feelings.
1: "aw, cute. i want that" (jealousy)
2:"f**k them and their happiness"(anger)
3: "goddamnit, i'll never have that"(sadness)
anybody else have that or am i just a special kind of crazy? xD
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I think for some men this can feel like being a sales assistant in a clothing store, and in walks this incredibly picky customer, but he won't tell you what he wants or likes. And now you have to run around the store for clothes, to ask him if he like them or not, but he likes none of them.
How hard is it to figure out that women want the same thing they always have: the best possible mate.
They’re typically going to choose the healthiest/fittest/strongest highest social/economic status mate who’s a provider & protector etc etc. This is not rocket surgery stuff here...
Well, I'm a woman and I did not marry the healthiest/fittest/strongest/highest SES mate. I didn't even try to date those types. Because, what would we talk about? I looked for guys who shared interests with me and seemed likely to be loyal and loving. The second marriage I picked better than the first, but with both marriages I'm an exception to the "rule" (which I don't see as true) that goldfish stated.
Wait so what it mean if I'm dating someone with whom I have almost no shared interest?
Opposites attract.
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Many women are not into the "social-Darwinism" thing.
They don't necessarily seek out the physically "fittest" guy. I've actually known women who are turned off to that type of guy.
I'm not 6 foot 2, 205 lbs. of solid muscle, with only 13 percent body fat. Yet, I've done okay.
I will never reach even to 5 foot 5, no less 6 foot 2. I'll never go below 20% body fat.
The mentality of the beach does not extend to most other places.
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I think for some men this can feel like being a sales assistant in a clothing store, and in walks this incredibly picky customer, but he won't tell you what he wants or likes. And now you have to run around the store for clothes, to ask him if he like them or not, but he likes none of them.
How hard is it to figure out that women want the same thing they always have: the best possible mate.
They’re typically going to choose the healthiest/fittest/strongest highest social/economic status mate who’s a provider & protector etc etc. This is not rocket surgery stuff here...
Well, I'm a woman and I did not marry the healthiest/fittest/strongest/highest SES mate. I didn't even try to date those types. Because, what would we talk about? I looked for guys who shared interests with me and seemed likely to be loyal and loving. The second marriage I picked better than the first, but with both marriages I'm an exception to the "rule" (which I don't see as true) that goldfish stated.
Wait so what it mean if I'm dating someone with whom I have almost no shared interest?
It doesn’t mean anything.
Do you want this person in your life? Yes?
Does she want you in her life?
Yes?
If that is true...
...what other shared interest do you need?
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1: "aw, cute. i want that" (jealousy)
2:"f**k them and their happiness"(anger)
3: "goddamnit, i'll never have that"(sadness)
anybody else have that or am i just a special kind of crazy? xD
I've so been there!
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