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28 Apr 2018, 2:31 am

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i'm still a bit baffled as to why so many right-wing men end up with left-wing women?


In my experience left-wingers have often cut me out if I say the wrong thing. Right-wingers can also be very judgemental, yet a handful of them I’ve argued with about their beliefs without being cut off.

the only time i'll cut somebody off is If they have the gall to tell me I haven't tried hard enough or worked hard enough without knowing my history.


I would never accuse you of such a thing, and I feel I’d have no right to. I get judged for being on benefits whenever I mention it to anyone. I’ll only mention it if I have to. I was told the other day that most people on benefits take advantage of them, I don’t know how true it is. I don’t recommend living in Essex for anyone on benefits, it’s like Essex peoples’ soul purpose in life is to have a go at people on benefits. I get sick of it. They judge you before they know who the Hell you are. “Oh, it’s nice weather isn’t it? Oh people on benefits stealing our money blah blah BS blah”. They’re obsessed with it. Someone made an implication about me the other day and I was furious with him. I made him panic though, lol!


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28 Apr 2018, 3:13 am

smudge wrote:
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i'm still a bit baffled as to why so many right-wing men end up with left-wing women?


In my experience left-wingers have often cut me out if I say the wrong thing. Right-wingers can also be very judgemental, yet a handful of them I’ve argued with about their beliefs without being cut off.

the only time i'll cut somebody off is If they have the gall to tell me I haven't tried hard enough or worked hard enough without knowing my history.


I would never accuse you of such a thing, and I feel I’d have no right to. I get judged for being on benefits whenever I mention it to anyone. I’ll only mention it if I have to. I was told the other day that most people on benefits take advantage of them, I don’t know how true it is. I don’t recommend living in Essex for anyone on benefits, it’s like Essex peoples’ soul purpose in life is to have a go at people on benefits. I get sick of it. They judge you before they know who the Hell you are. “Oh, it’s nice weather isn’t it? Oh people on benefits stealing our money blah blah BS blah”. They’re obsessed with it. Someone made an implication about me the other day and I was furious with him. I made him panic though, lol!

I hope you made him wish he was wearing his depends that day ;)



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28 Apr 2018, 6:02 am

auntblabby wrote:
smudge wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
smudge wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
i'm still a bit baffled as to why so many right-wing men end up with left-wing women?


In my experience left-wingers have often cut me out if I say the wrong thing. Right-wingers can also be very judgemental, yet a handful of them I’ve argued with about their beliefs without being cut off.

the only time i'll cut somebody off is If they have the gall to tell me I haven't tried hard enough or worked hard enough without knowing my history.


I would never accuse you of such a thing, and I feel I’d have no right to. I get judged for being on benefits whenever I mention it to anyone. I’ll only mention it if I have to. I was told the other day that most people on benefits take advantage of them, I don’t know how true it is. I don’t recommend living in Essex for anyone on benefits, it’s like Essex peoples’ soul purpose in life is to have a go at people on benefits. I get sick of it. They judge you before they know who the Hell you are. “Oh, it’s nice weather isn’t it? Oh people on benefits stealing our money blah blah BS blah”. They’re obsessed with it. Someone made an implication about me the other day and I was furious with him. I made him panic though, lol!

I hope you made him wish he was wearing his depends that day ;)



I made him all flustered and he tried to explain himself to me! :lol:


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28 Apr 2018, 6:07 am

If I read a book about linguistics and my partner reads a book about his interest. I don't mind, I even find it interesting.

Different interests can open both to different things.

However it is nice to share one or two interests. It is also important that the interest of one is not bothering the other.



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01 May 2018, 7:48 pm

nick007 wrote:
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Mutual interests are important. You don't have to have everything in common, but you should at least have several things in common.

Several? I don't have very many interests...if we have several in common then we probably have everything on common :lol:


Well if you only have like 3 interests, then I would say you need at least one or two things in common. :)
I only had about 3 main interests before me & Cass got together. They were spending time on computer, listening to music, & watching TV. My biggest interest now is spending time with Cass & if that means doing things I would not do on my own then so be it, she's worth it to me.


Variety is the spice of life, and it's always good to learn and try new things, because you might find another interest you like doing, as well, but if someone is the polar opposite of you, and don't agree with you on anything, it makes the relationship difficult, and usually doesn't last very long.



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01 May 2018, 8:15 pm

To me it's extremely important.


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01 May 2018, 8:30 pm

With today's announcement that Facebook is launching a dating app with matches based on pages you like, I'm very much looking forward to seeing how this service turns out.



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02 May 2018, 7:15 am

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I don't think it's that important that you share the same interests. My husband and I actually do not share any interest, now I think of it, and we've been married for nearly 25 yrs. It is more important to respect each other's privacy, especially when one or both has ASD.


While my relationship doesn't go that far, it is true my wife and I don't share a lot of common interests and there is nothing wrong with that. What if we got matched up only because we are both sports fans and I stopped being interested in sports for example?

It is far more important to have compatible life goals (financial, children, type of house, etc) than whether a spouse shares an interest in a hobby. Sure it would be nice if Mrs GHF showed more interest in my hobbies but it's more important that we share a peaceful and happy home: this is what dating sites are unwilling or unable to grasp.



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02 May 2018, 2:53 pm

From what I see on TV shows, guys have hobbies that women don't like so the guys have an excuse to avoid spending time with their women. The guy loses interests in his hobby 1ce his women tries to take an interests in it.


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