When do you deserve to be single?

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It would have been much nicer to forgive her and tell her to pay more attention with her dog, but I think even the way you handled was perfectly justified, given that she also got people to yell at you for something that was her fault.
You didn't really do anything wrong and you don't owe her anything, if anything she was the one getting you into trouble.

Most things are not about being right or wrong, and it's usually possible to agree that you have different opinions, which is a way to show them respect and avoid arguments that cannot be won. A prime example is politics. Just because two people have different political preferences doesn't mean one is right and the other is wrong. IMHO, the most non-productive arguments are about politics, and nobody ever wins them.

Maybe it would be worth your while to hunt down a compatible neurodiverse partner. And have one of you move to where the other lives.

I considered this myself, but I spent so much time together with an NT that it isn't necessary. My neighbors like me.

When you finally realize and accept that you are either unwilling or unable (or both) to become the kind of person that you want to attract.

If you want a healthy, athletic, educated, well-employed celebrity for a girlfriend, then you had better be both able and willing to become a healthy, athletic, educated, well-employed celebrity yourself.

Otherwise, you can only settle for someone who is your female counterpart. Look in the mirror, and imagine yourself as a woman -- THAT is what you deserve, and nothing better.

Yes, that is typical standard. There are lots of women who aren't gold diggers. They aren't looking to move up by hooking up with someone. But, just about all of them don't want to be dragged down by a partner. Either socially or financially.

Some people will "settle" for someone they love, regardless of any "flaws" that others may perceive. Some people will settle for nothing less than the best without first being one of "the best" themselves -- these are the miserable people who whine and cry about not having a date or being able to attract only those people that no one else wants ... people who start those "I can't get a date" threads...

As for the dog, the lady, after some thought, realized that she should have kept the dog on her leash.

It was very big of her to admit this to Mr. Adams.

But it's true: yelling in the street like that could cause panic, and could cause lots of trouble.

It is very rare for someone to publicly apologize. I would have accepted her apology and moved on.

This wasn't a sincere apology. This was an "I have people watching so I'll start crying and acting dramatic get their sympathy" apology.

Trust me...it was better than nothing.

Most people, probably, would have been too much into "saving face" to apologize.

The way to get along with your neighbors....is to bite the bullet sometimes as long as no harm was actually done.

Perhaps I should point out to some people here that if she were so nice and sincere in her apology she wouldn't have shouted "Oh yeah? Well ---- you too!" just because he had ignored her.

Sometimes, it's just best to "move on."

It really is.....

I still wonder what he was supposed to do. He may have overreäcted; I usually do, too, when I see myself cornered, with no acceptable way to behave. But should he just have left his dog on the ground so his neighbor's dog could maul it to its heart's content without being inconvenienced, hoping the neighbor wouldn't chew him off anyway for having the temerity of walking a dog her own dog couldn't help attacking? Or was it acceptable for him to take the liberty of picking up his dog, provided he stood there quiet and still, letting her dog bite him at will, so the poor thing weren't scared into running back across the street? I doubt any of these options would have earned him much sympathy—if he was blamed for scaring off his neighbor's dog across the street, do you expect them not to think it was just as much his fault to attract it in the first place? It was sheer luck that it nearly got run over precisely on the way back.

I can see this leading to one of those logical conclusions noöne bothers to acknowledge: either have a bigger, stronger, scarier and meaner dog or don't you dare walk it. Or simply he is screwed no matter what he does. You know, the neighbors are loyal among themselves and behave like all those people polled on the streets who proudly claimed they'd vote for Mr Trump regardless of what he did, period.

This seems pure bullying by proxy to me. The other neighbors' judgement reminds me of the typical situation of having ten co-workers who are too busy bullying you to get anything done. It's not their fault that you make such an irresistible target, is it? So you get fired for compromising the whole team's productivity.

Me

I deserve to be single.

I'm not good enough.

I never have been

I never will be.

I give up.

No point me using this forum anymore.

Goodbye all.

Why do you say that you're not good enough? What is your problem exactly?

Darn it. You drew me back in peacesells.

Because I keep accidentally pushing people away. If I knew what my problem was maybe I could fix it.

I am too passive I think. Now this is a cop out, but growing up with a volatile mother I learned to keep my head down and stay out of the way. An ideal survival technique for a child, a major flaw as an adult.