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30 Jul 2018, 10:08 am

All that doesn't matter....if a man is able to find a great woman...and vice versa.



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30 Jul 2018, 3:32 pm

I wouldn't have the confidence to make a move on someone 8-10 years younger than me. What bloke wants an older woman? I'd feel like a fool.

The annoying thing is I keep meeting younger men ... and they're lovely, but I don't think they would want an older woman.



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30 Jul 2018, 3:49 pm

hurtloam wrote:
The annoying thing is I keep meeting younger men ... and they're lovely, but I don't think they would want an older woman.

I'm having the opposite problem...older women keep hitting on me =| It's probably the grey hair and the beard.

A lot of guys have no problem with older women, but I know for me personally, my maturity level is just too low. And I am definitely not looking for a weird "motherly love" sort of romance. Because that's what would happen.


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30 Jul 2018, 4:39 pm

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Everyone does have standards. And for those who claim they don't... I know a wheelchair-bound, schizophrenic, short-tempered, toothless, blind, bald, 80-year-old, pro-Nazi widow who just got out of prison and is looking for a date. Are you interested?


Is she rich? With all those ailments, it doesn't seem she'll live much longer as a pro-Nazi. Oh, and it doesn't sound like it'd be very hard to cheat on her with the woman I truly wanted to share the rest of my life with once we inherited her fortune :P


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31 Jul 2018, 12:40 am

hurtloam wrote:
The annoying thing is I keep meeting younger men ... and they're lovely, but I don't think they would want an older woman.

And those men similarly will not make a move on you, because who would want to date a younger guy.



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31 Jul 2018, 1:48 am

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I wouldn't have the confidence to make a move on someone 8-10 years younger than me. What bloke wants an older woman? I'd feel like a fool.



me.


i've never found younger women/girls interesting. in my experience they're too bound to their sh***y controlling parents to really hang out or do anything.


i have the most attraction to older females but they never find me interesting so, eh. don't know why they would anyway because i'm not.


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31 Jul 2018, 1:52 am

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hurtloam wrote:
The annoying thing is I keep meeting younger men ... and they're lovely, but I don't think they would want an older woman.

And those men similarly will not make a move on you, because who would want to date a younger guy.


Who wouldn't want someone younger?!?

Yes please

I met someone recently who is younger than me and I didn't do anything about it because I figured he'd think I was too old. Great guy as well. But when there's 100s of single 25 year olds around what would he want me for. I figured he'd be horrified. I used to have a great body as well, but now im pudgy round the edges which makes me feel unattractive.

Go one tell me he'd be interested. it'll distract me from the current relationship disaster I'm in. Maybe I should date younger.



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31 Jul 2018, 2:06 am

Females rarely go for younger males, they're even so picky about it as well, been rejected more than once before just because I was 1 year younger.

My gf is 1 year older and yet she feels too old for me. Duh.



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31 Jul 2018, 2:12 am

100% of women older than me who were interested in me were manipulative and lying about it.


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31 Jul 2018, 2:17 am

Asians tend to age better than us Caucasians.



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31 Jul 2018, 3:50 am

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Sure, some reasonable standards are important -- for instance, dating only legal adults who are not married and who have no prison records, no drug addictions, no gang affiliations, and no psychoses. Everyone should have these as reasonable "Red Flag" conditions, in my opinion (your opinion may vary).


That's where I do have to agree with you. I try myself not to set my standards unrealistically high when it comes to potential partners, but I certainly don't set them so low as to qualify literally everyone as a potential partner either. One such standard I have regards weight - being slightly "round" is something I don't mind, but I wouldn't date anyone morbidly obese. That was my main point with this thread, but I guess it got overlooked. Then again, I suppose I didn't state that clearly enough either. My bad.


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31 Jul 2018, 4:04 am

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Well, DUH! If it's on-line dating sites that are the problem, then stop using on-line dating sites! Set up a neuro-diverse dating site of your own -- THAT will solve the problem!


I've thought about the possibility, but I have not acted on it. It's not as easy as it seems because such a site needs to recruit people from the general population that are neurodiverse, and it is not sufficient to market it as an autistic dating site. Which means it ideally should be integrated into some major dating site like OkC or similar.



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31 Jul 2018, 1:07 pm

hurtloam wrote:
314pe wrote:
hurtloam wrote:
The annoying thing is I keep meeting younger men ... and they're lovely, but I don't think they would want an older woman.

And those men similarly will not make a move on you, because who would want to date a younger guy.


Who wouldn't want someone younger?!?

Yes please

I met someone recently who is younger than me and I didn't do anything about it because I figured he'd think I was too old. Great guy as well. But when there's 100s of single 25 year olds around what would he want me for. I figured he'd be horrified. I used to have a great body as well, but now im pudgy round the edges which makes me feel unattractive.

Go one tell me he'd be interested. it'll distract me from the current relationship disaster I'm in. Maybe I should date younger.

I won’t lie. I find women older than I to be most attractive. Older single women seem to know what they want and can either take it on their own or can clearly instruct a man exactly how to give it to her. I’m used to being in charge, so I’d enjoy having someone take the wheel for a change. Just for fun I’d have a great time heavily flirting with the occasional grandmother divorcee or widow on SecondLife, but it never went beyond that no matter how over the top I went.

And that’s where you have to take a giant dose of reality. If a woman is old enough to have wiped your butt when you were still in diapers, chances are they aren’t seriously interested in a romantic relationship or sex with you. Maybe there are some out there who are, but I’ve never met them. Oldest woman I’ve been with wasn’t more than 3 years older.



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31 Jul 2018, 1:21 pm

AngelRho wrote:
hurtloam wrote:
314pe wrote:
hurtloam wrote:
The annoying thing is I keep meeting younger men ... and they're lovely, but I don't think they would want an older woman.

And those men similarly will not make a move on you, because who would want to date a younger guy.


Who wouldn't want someone younger?!?

Yes please

I met someone recently who is younger than me and I didn't do anything about it because I figured he'd think I was too old. Great guy as well. But when there's 100s of single 25 year olds around what would he want me for. I figured he'd be horrified. I used to have a great body as well, but now im pudgy round the edges which makes me feel unattractive.

Go one tell me he'd be interested. it'll distract me from the current relationship disaster I'm in. Maybe I should date younger.

I won’t lie. I find women older than I to be most attractive. Older single women seem to know what they want and can either take it on their own or can clearly instruct a man exactly how to give it to her. I’m used to being in charge, so I’d enjoy having someone take the wheel for a change. Just for fun I’d have a great time heavily flirting with the occasional grandmother divorcee or widow on SecondLife, but it never went beyond that no matter how over the top I went.

And that’s where you have to take a giant dose of reality. If a woman is old enough to have wiped your butt when you were still in diapers, chances are they aren’t seriously interested in a romantic relationship or sex with you. Maybe there are some out there who are, but I’ve never met them. Oldest woman I’ve been with wasn’t more than 3 years older.


Goid grief... how old do you think I am exactly??



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31 Jul 2018, 3:13 pm

hurtloam wrote:
AngelRho wrote:
hurtloam wrote:
314pe wrote:
hurtloam wrote:
The annoying thing is I keep meeting younger men ... and they're lovely, but I don't think they would want an older woman.

And those men similarly will not make a move on you, because who would want to date a younger guy.


Who wouldn't want someone younger?!?

Yes please

I met someone recently who is younger than me and I didn't do anything about it because I figured he'd think I was too old. Great guy as well. But when there's 100s of single 25 year olds around what would he want me for. I figured he'd be horrified. I used to have a great body as well, but now im pudgy round the edges which makes me feel unattractive.

Go one tell me he'd be interested. it'll distract me from the current relationship disaster I'm in. Maybe I should date younger.

I won’t lie. I find women older than I to be most attractive. Older single women seem to know what they want and can either take it on their own or can clearly instruct a man exactly how to give it to her. I’m used to being in charge, so I’d enjoy having someone take the wheel for a change. Just for fun I’d have a great time heavily flirting with the occasional grandmother divorcee or widow on SecondLife, but it never went beyond that no matter how over the top I went.

And that’s where you have to take a giant dose of reality. If a woman is old enough to have wiped your butt when you were still in diapers, chances are they aren’t seriously interested in a romantic relationship or sex with you. Maybe there are some out there who are, but I’ve never met them. Oldest woman I’ve been with wasn’t more than 3 years older.


Goid grief... how old do you think I am exactly??


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31 Jul 2018, 3:14 pm

hurtloam wrote:
AngelRho wrote:
hurtloam wrote:
314pe wrote:
hurtloam wrote:
The annoying thing is I keep meeting younger men ... and they're lovely, but I don't think they would want an older woman.

And those men similarly will not make a move on you, because who would want to date a younger guy.


Who wouldn't want someone younger?!?

Yes please

I met someone recently who is younger than me and I didn't do anything about it because I figured he'd think I was too old. Great guy as well. But when there's 100s of single 25 year olds around what would he want me for. I figured he'd be horrified. I used to have a great body as well, but now im pudgy round the edges which makes me feel unattractive.

Go one tell me he'd be interested. it'll distract me from the current relationship disaster I'm in. Maybe I should date younger.

I won’t lie. I find women older than I to be most attractive. Older single women seem to know what they want and can either take it on their own or can clearly instruct a man exactly how to give it to her. I’m used to being in charge, so I’d enjoy having someone take the wheel for a change. Just for fun I’d have a great time heavily flirting with the occasional grandmother divorcee or widow on SecondLife, but it never went beyond that no matter how over the top I went.

And that’s where you have to take a giant dose of reality. If a woman is old enough to have wiped your butt when you were still in diapers, chances are they aren’t seriously interested in a romantic relationship or sex with you. Maybe there are some out there who are, but I’ve never met them. Oldest woman I’ve been with wasn’t more than 3 years older.


Goid grief... how old do you think I am exactly??

IIRC you’re younger than me. I’m 40. But I’ve always been more attracted to women older than me. That’s my point. Maybe not a ton of men are into older women, but a few might be. Depending on that woman, I might be attracted to someone as old as 75.

Everyone ages differently, hence why the older women get the more variable I find the attraction. I know a beautiful woman I believe is in her 60’s. I’d totally ask her out if it were appropriate. I don’t find her mother to be quite so attractive, but given her personality I doubt I’d feel differently if she were 30 years younger. But she’s older than another one of our friends, an elderly lady we sometimes take care of, and this other lady you’d think was well past 100 just by looking at her.

I don’t exactly believe in limiting datability to age necessarily, but talking long term and/or marriage, depending on what you want out of the marriage age becomes more of a concern.

No, I’m not on the market. But, hurtloam, just judging from what I’ve seen you post to WP, I really like you and would totally ask you out on a date. You’ve impressed me enough. I have no doubt you’ll eventually find exactly the right man for you.