Finding love

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In the real world I find there's too few opportunities and when there is potential, guys are the ones who mostly have to make the move. That is very tough for an Aspie or someone with anxiety. It's hard to read the signs and I normally don't ask anyone out because of this. If I did on a whim and they turned me down, this is a small town and people can be pretty cruel..... "There's that guy who asked me out.... I can't believe he thought he would ever have a chance with me".

Online, it's a minefield. Generally speaking guys are there in large numbers (easily 20 guys to every woman). I'v noticed because of this women are very picky on dating sites, perhaps going for guys usually way out of their league in real life.

Unless a guy drops his standards massively online, there's nearly no hope. Personally I wouldn't do that because if I don't find them attractive, what's the point? I can't ever truly love them.

Lot of older generations find getting along with Aspies pretty well compared to current generation. Many are married, got a family, jobs and that etc. There are fewer late bloomers, virgins, dateless and unemployed ones in older generations. I am not sure how this relates to the increasing diagnosis, but from my perspective I am seeing increased stigma thanks to technology, societal expectations and media influences.

Gen Y is changing their mindsets on finding romance and love but towards sex hasn't change despite more promiscuous and unintelligible than before. My friends, from 19 to 33 are mostly in dating casual relationships more than who are quality focused on long term relationships. I say 10 to 1 per friends/people I met. Older ones are easily split between who are single and other are married/family/de facto etc.

So is it the technology and media are to blame on causing stigma or changing thoughts of young minds today. Is Tinder helping us? Why it deserved it today than 2004 when Facebook released?

What about expectations? Lot of people don't understand the difference between introverted and extroverted. Yes more than half of my friends never heard of those terms! How surprising this is. Is it to do with lack of opportunities for themselves to learn about life skills?