Do I deserve a girlfriend?

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Well what am I supposed to say, your website your forum post. Guess I get insulted for commenting. Hmm... ok man I'm just gonna block you, like the women in your life. Thank you for the insults in response to attempted help.

In that case you need to be able to agree to disagree and you need a partner who is able to agree to disagree.
Constantly having to lie about your opinions and even things you know for a fact would not be a healthy relationship. Constantly feeling a need to argue till your partner budges wouldn't either.

That there are people whom you wouldn't get along with and would argue with too much doesn't mean you are unfit for a relationship. It only means you are unfit for a relationship if there are no people you can get along with and don't argue with too much.

Um, excuse me? Mods? How is it that my recent posts have all been deleted,but the whiny, lying little cuss I was responding to is all still there? That kind of favoritism is the kind of stuff that'll make a guy quit this website for good.

@Adam you seem to enjoy getting into arguments with people. That's not going to serve you well if you bring that with you into a relationship. If you're going to argue your point to the death like it's the only one that matters, and not consider the feelings or perspective of a potential parter/try to keep the relationship on as amicable terms as possible even whilst in an argument, your relationships aren't going to go well (not saying you WOULD do that, but from the few arguments I've seen you enter, it seems you tend to think your side is the only one that matters). You come off quite defensive/combative when you're arguing, and I can tell you that's not how you win people over to your side of thinking. You may have the most spot-on points in the world, but I very much doubt combative arguing wins many people over.

To really win people over to your side of thinking, you need to hear them out, demonstrate that you've heard and understood their point of view, and then explain why yours makes more sense logically. Arguments dont have to get heated, but if you're going to get heated in every argument, even ones about mundane things, I can't see many women sticking around for that.

You know, I think that perhaps you have some pent up anger/frustration, and this heated online arguing, as well as potentially giving you a rush of adrenalin, provides you something of an outlet for that anger/frustration. Maybe I'm completely off the mark, but if not, maybe that's something to think about.

If you suspect that due to your poor impulse control and difficulty managing your anger and aggression you would inflict harm on another, then you absolutely should not put another person at risk by trying to initiate a relationship with anyone other than a therapist.

In this case I'm pissed off because Mohammedwasapedo got so offended that I asked him not to derail my thread that he used the link to my website in my tag and started leaving insults like " This book is sh*t because this author is a psychopath" and "the author won't post a picture of himself because he's a hideous monster." I'll argue with people on here, but when they take it to my personal website, which is like a business, they're making it personal. That's like writing a dishonest review for a small business on Yelp or Google--incredibly childish, and they might not be able to afford that kind of bad publicity.

I agree with you Adam, he was out of line. I took it like I thought you meant, with a hint of humor. I honestly don't understand how someone can have an account name like that to begin with and then troll someone into an argument and nothing was done about his inflammatory remarks. He didn't even deny attacking you on your personal website! Perhaps you could visit this link and plead your case.

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100% honest I personally wouldn't date a guy who gets into fights a lot. I rejected a guy a while back who said that he often ends up fighting with people online, i've had bad experiences and I don't wanna date someone who easily gets into fights all the time - I view those people as agressive, and i'm the furthest thing from agressive.

If I have different opinions from someone I let them have their opinions and views on things, you can't change someones opinions usually and if you can't stand what someone believes to the point where it makes you agressive then I suggest just respectfully telling them that we're all different and then leave... There is no point in fighting. You could work on this. I was that way as a teenager i'd get into lots of fights in forums and people would get angry or make fun of me eventually I left that specific forum where that kept happening because it turned into me getting bullied on there, even by people in their mid 20s and I was about 14 at the time which was no secret. Pretty horrible, but that's what happens if you can't stay out of trouble.

I discussed this with a friend the other day actually and we slipped into the subject of religion and she's an atheist while I am not religious but very spiritual. We did not fight and we listened to each others viewpoints and then agreed to disagree without the conversation ever turning into an argument. Different opinions, man. We all have them because we're humans not robots.

I don't think anybody "deserves" another human being in the same sense that some people may be said to "deserve" a holiday, for example. This is the problem many people on this site make; a human being is not an object to be owned, but a "soul" to be respected. This erroneous view is more likely to be the source of your problems.

You only read the title of the thread, didn't you?

I read the title (obviously) and the original post, but I'm not going to read three pages of posts in order to write a response, nor is there any reason I should do.

If you had read the first post, you would know that this has absolutely nothing to do with owning anyone or feeling entitled to anything.

In my opinion, one is neither deserving nor undeserving of being in a relationship. If you wish to be in a relationship with another consenting adult, no-one has the right to stop you.

I used to get into fights on the internet all the time. One thing to remember is that people on the internet are no different to you: there are just ordinary people behind screens, and once you stop responding and paying attention to them, they lose the power to do anything to you.

Hey Catlover!

Hey, long time no see