What are your superficial/physical deal-breakers?

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Superficial turn offs by ascending order:
- Gold digger
- Mean
- Religious
- Overweight
- Very bad in english, ingorance of english usually means they are ingorant in many other areas such as science.
- WP user!

sounds like my ex

I don't really consider this a superficial deal-breaker but since children were mentioned in here. I'll also list Has kids or insists on having them/having kids is a requirement for her. I have more than my fair share of issues I'm dealing with & I really cannot handle being a dad too. I'd much rather feel like a parent to my partner than having kids.

-Short hair
-No chest or butt at all
-Non-flexible taste in music
-Actually hates Top 40/CHR music
-Couldn't deal with raunchy or possible un-PC comedy or satire
-Is politically and socially a hard leftist
There might be some I didn't list

Obese, bad hygiene, shorter than me (I'm 5"11!), bad teeth, excessive body hair, unibrow, can't hold a conversation, living on permanent disability, no career, wants/has kids

A guy with a beer belly or who looks pregnant who isn't actively trying to work on their health (I'd like them to be around for awhile and support me in being healthy in the meantime). Someone who is ultraconservative/racist/judgmental in general (because there is NO way they'd ever accept me for me). Someone who isn't poly or who is super over the top possessive (once again, bad match). Someone who doesn't respect children and young adults as capable human beings (I will rant on this so no more explanation at this point). Someone more than an inch or two shorter than I am (snuggling doesn't feel right). Someone who has a distinctly submissive personality (I need dominant people in my life).

Dishonesty is not at all superficial but it is most definitely a deal-breaker.

Last edited by puzzledoll on 20 Nov 2018, 8:47 pm, edited 1 time in total.

i wouldn't be with someone who is very different from me. much taller or shorter than me, much skinnier or fatter than me, and so on. although my ex-boyfriend had much lighter hair than i have and it was a bit weird sometimes but i still liked and was attracted to him.

If she's collectivistic and acts like all her friends, that bores me. If she does drugs-particularly alcohol, weed, or opiates- hard next. If she is dumb, I'll pass. As for looks, obesity is the dealbreaker. If she manipulates her partners, run for the hills. Put those together and you got the wife they'd give me in hell.

Nit-pickers
Micromanagers
Sloppy dressers
People who dress like walking billboards (especially people who wear T-shirts with profane or sexually suggestive messages)
People who dress like advertisements for the circus
People who burp and pass gas noisily
Cruelty to animals
People who say, "I hate cats." Normally, these are people who can't love any animals and only own dogs for their own purposes, not as pets.
Arrogant people and glad-handing, politician wannabes.

I don't get the objection to alcohol. Admittedly, I wouldn't touch with a bargepole the sort of woman who gets drunk on cheap vodka and cider every couple of days in public, but a nice, cultivated woman with a refined taste for good wine would be right up my street.

I am just pretty straight edge when it comes to alcohol, and would prefer somebody like me.

Anthing that will be considered ugly, for the most part, by society. Women over say 300 pounds, unless of course they are like 6’9 or something. Psoriasis or any other serious skin disease. Anyone bad with hygeine obviously, or who can’t pass as NT for the most part. I have only ever dated NTs. As for anything else, I cannot abide racism. Anything else is a prefernce on my part. I love tall women, and in practice almost exclusively date black wonen, but to day these are dealbreakers is a bit much.

Also, no men. I am not bi, no matter what certain SJWs may say about all men. I know that isn’t really superficial, but in case soneone thinks it’s just objectifying genitals I will put it here.

Same on alcohol. I can tolerate a woman who drinks cheap, sweet wine, like white zinfandel occasionally. I dislike when a woman HABITUALLY overindulges in it. It makes her taste and smell “cheap,” too, and I’m turned off by that. Drink REAL wine, like at least a cabernet or a merlot. Or maybe mix it up one night and do a pinot noir, pinot grigio (personal fav if her breath smells like that), or...better yet, a Riesling or Gewurztraminer. Not all sweet wine is bad, and while I prefer reds, whites can be great, too. It can be cheap, too. Doesn’t have to cost much. But if it leaves that syrup aftertaste and that sick-sweet smell on her breath, I catch myself asking how much money I spent on her. That’s not really the kind of guy I am, and that’s not really the kind of girl I want to be with.

Hard cider is good as long as it’s actually cider. I used to enjoy Woodchuck. But after drinking it for a while, it seemed to just taste wrong somehow. Probably added sugar and artificial flavoring. It’s harder now to find where I live, and I think I like Angry Orchard better, anyway.

Otherwise, I’m a beer drinker. But I have to rotate beers. Local craft beers are a bit on the heavy side. Budweiser (not light) and Yuengling are my go-to brews, while occasionally I’ll have a Sam Adams or Foster’s to cleanse the palate. I HATE Belgian style ales. I honestly tried. It just doesn’t work.

But the BEST EVER is Yazoo Gerst Amber Ale. What domestic Belgian style ales attempt, Gerst nails it. Perfectly balanced, light and complex flavor with a hint of blackberry and raspberry, and smooth as effing SILK. I can’t decide whether to drink it or make love to it.

Can’t quite make my wife a beer drinker, unfortunately, but over time she’s adjusted to a small number of my sensitivities. She would go through an entire bottle of white zin and not even get drunk. Once she learned to appreciate wines with more substance, she scaled back her drinking. I didn’t marry a cheap drunk, she never wanted to become one, and even she will tell you she’s better now for giving it up.

My physical deal-breakers:
- very fat or very underweight
- covered in tattoos and/or piercings or those half shaved heads with unnatural hair-colors
- much older or much younger than me (though the reason isn't only physical)
- salivates or otherwise constantly has a facial expression that makes him look mentally ret*d (even if he isn't)

Other deal-breakers, albeit I do not consider all of them to be superficial:
- smokes more than occasionally, gets drunk often or uses illegal drugs
- enjoys being cruel towards animals or to bully people who can't defend themselves
- hunts or fishes as a hobby
- is a perfectionist and expects me to be one too
- obsessed with social status and with 'what the neighbors think'
- is addicted to drama
- religious extremist or obsessed esoterics
- political extremist, no matter if left or right
- unintelligent
- disabilities that'd have a profoundly limiting effect on both of our lives if we lived together (it's a deal breaker for starting a relationship, continuing one if an accident or illness happened is a different matter)
- we do not have anything in common

(and of course the obvious ones, like being abusive)

You do know that psoriasis is not contagious don’t you? I have a good friend with it and she has been treated horribly at times by people because they were disgusted with her skin appearance. She has had shop people refuse to take money from her hand. Another woman I knew who lived in a hot climate always wore trousers and long sleeves because she was so embarrassed by her skins appearance.

If I’m going to comment on other people’s posts I guess I should add my own. Only real deal breaker is not appearance. I value honesty. My ex was adulterous and would take money from our household bank account. He brought home a variety of diseases. My current husband is shorter than me and makes less. In fact, I have been his supervisor at work. We met at work and continued working together for about 25 years. He’s a good man. (And he has a beard too. Never seen him without it.)