Guys my type aren’t into me

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20 Stone is 280 pounds, by the way.

Americans usually don't know that 1 Stone = 14 Pounds.

What’s that habe to do with what they preferred? Just cause they with a fat oerson doesn’t mean they don’t prefer thin men.

I dont know what stones are

I don't know, second-guessing strangers isn't my territory. They look as happy as thin couples but who knows maybe they should all hit the gym and throw themselves into the fray, leaner and more savvy and full of projection.

I think it's porn/the internet/the media.
Of course when you're watching a movie (I'll show how dated I am I don't care) you can say 'I prefer Angelina Jolie over Julia Roberts' or 'I prefer Brad Pitt over Leonardo Di Caprio'. Truth is though, if the average person hadn't seen a lot of movies/porn/photoshopped photos and someone that hot was hitting on them, they'd generally really enjoy it. Assuming of course appropriate sex, not Brad Pitt hitting on a straight bloke for eg, and not creepy behaviour.
In the olden days, most people knew people from face to face. Even magazines weren't photoshopped.
We see so many people now that we can be fussy sometimes. Which works when picking which movie to watch on TV (although I tried this with one show and it wasn't my sort of TV show and I felt shallow for trying it...). It doesn't work when choosing a partner.
I think this is magnified in aspies who might spend more time inside and not mixing with other people, so don't see a broad range of the general public every day. Most regular people (which is what OP looks like to me) will look ugly if you're used to looking at photoshopped models already chosen for their looks every day, or even photoshops of your friends.
Same with a woman who thinks she can have a fashion type. It's because there are so many images of people bombarded at us every day that we get the sense there are more people out there than there actually are. If she likes that style herself personally, they could get into it once in the relationship. For me, things like values and similar intelligence are more important.
Of course, there is a certain level. I just deleted a load of aesthetic standards I have which goes to show that I, too, am media saturated. And if the choice is between someone who is beautiful versus someone who is average, everything else being equal, I'll choose the beautiful one. But I think people were more satisfied in the past. One could dehumanise it and say it's like having a choice of baked beans - you go for luxury. But, people are people and sex/kissing only lasts so long. Better to fall for someone who can be a best friend, too.
Everyone I know who's in a relationship is uglier than the sorts of people you see in the media, especially the American media, but quite a few of them are still attractive compared to the sorts of people you see irl. They don't go into it seeking love. They seek friendship, get a friend, are of the appropriate sex to one another, fall for each other, it becomes a date then a relationship. Usually seeking friends involves having friends introduce them. I guess we're just old school that way. All my relationships were like that, too.

I feel you completely missed my point

Honestly, and this is the "tooth" (per Lily Tomlin)

I like women who are slightly overweight, and shapely. I like them better than thin women.

Someone like Nigella Lawson, rather than somebody like Twiggy.

I’d prefer a thin woman.
Twiggy women are underweight
I’ll date and be happy with a average-chubby woman.
But if someone asked me what I prefer I’d say thin. It’s what I find most attractive. I’d love to date a thin petite woman. That’ll never ever happen though. I don’t dislike averag or chubby women.
Most of the single women left require a fit thin man, quite a few men won’t take anything less then a thin woman.
I don’t see need to limit oneself like that they’d probably be perfectly happy with average or chubby(fat) people.
I’m just arguing symatics I think.
There’s probably few people who prefer fat people over thin but the majority don’t.

Life’s about accepting what you can get and be happy with rather than waiting for what you’d prefer.

Most guys would prefer a sports car, most drive sedans, are they unhappy? No but it’s not what they’d prefer.

This lady isn’t honey she’s just thin and fit and short. I find such women cute. Had a w lady like her work at my store for a while and she was super cute.
Probably why I tend to like Asian women.


The op is pretty and attractive too.

Here’s a thin athletic guy

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I would prefer a sedan, to be honest. Maybe it's because I'm old....

If I won 50 million or more tomorrow I’d buy a $300,000 Porsche 911 turbo.

We’ve taken it off topic sorry op

We could all try broadening our appeal by refining our outward appearance, from what I've seen most people who follow that course end up stuffing their regime down other people's throats but don't seem any closer to getting into a happy relationship themselves. Are they better off than the couples who are accepting of each other as they already are? Surely most sane people sidestep the whole dilemma and are attracted to all sorts of different people. As you say yourself, you like most women.

My first thought is that it's easier to change your (superficial) appearance than it is to change your (deep) preferences.

But who knows.... I was always more into girls on the nerdy-rocker-goth spectrum. Very feminine girly-girls usually annoyed me, so I never dated one--until I met my now-wife. (Actually, some of her super-girly stuff still annoys me, but she does have a degree in physics.) 13 years, 2 kids... so there's no way to say.

Teddy bear types, pillow tummys, real people and sedans. Yes.

Not my style, but I respect everyone's choices. Life would be boring (not to mention unfair) if we all liked the same things.

^Agree with this.
I prefer somebody with a fuller figure than thin.

Unfortunately the best bet is to become what they want, or it really limits who you can get.

If you aren’t open to change, it will limit your dating pool.

What about gaming guys? I’ve always thought you were cool because you seem to like Nintendo.