I professional zoned him
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The chap will have been fired by now, there would be too much of a chance that he could ruin the hotels reputation...
He took a risk with someone else's business and I have to agree that the outcome is not on you.
There is no way of knowing his intentions, but there were some negative signs, such as taking a risk with someone else's hard work to elevate himself.
I'm curious though, would you have accepted his offer of lunch if his gesture had been more modest (eg a free sandwich) and less grandiose (a hotel suite)?
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Sorry what rules are you talking about and what jurstriction? Normally fireable offences relate to contracts but also civil and criminal law. I was talking to the criminal threshold of sexual harassment not the civil threshold for being dismissed for sexual misconduct which is lower depending on jurisdiction.
How do you know this.? Do you knoe exactly how the upgrade was processed or what oppoval or authority was given for upgrades in general.
I didn't guilt trip anyone. That is her choice. I may need to re-read the thread to see if I missed something. Possibly I did.
I responded to what I understood from where I left off.
Sure.
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Nitpicking aside, it was unprofessional behaviour and there's nothing nice about doing something for someone with ulterior motives.
Nick - nobody says he wanted to rape her , but there's nothing nice about expecting a reward (even just her company or attention) for that kind of gesture and it's especially inappropriate with strangers and in a professional setting to boot.
This is why I taught my kids to never, ever accept any "free" things or favours from people they aren't really close to.
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I talked to a good friend last night who I have known since high school and she said that it sounded like it was a form of sexual harassment by giving my a nice room for sexual favors in return which I would never do with anyone who works at a hotel.
I also felt that it was not appropriate for him to be flirting with guests while on the time clock and like Nick007 was saying, I didn't want him to blow it for himself and especially since he is supposed to be getting a master's in physics right now.
I think this is the part that I had issue with, the assumption of sexual harassment as a justification for action.
A smart and well-trained HR group will know what to look for -- certain patterns of behavior, like giving someone a gift and "suggesting" to meet them someplace outside of working hours and away from the workplace.
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I'd like to point out that, as a hotel employee, he very well might've had access to spare room keys. If he thought he a a chance, it might've lead to him entering your room without your approval.
For future reference, be very careful about accepting "gifts" from random men.
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Again what exactly are you talking about here? You appear to be talking about either crime of harassment or a comoany code of conduct, and the motivation for such. Yet most of what you say isn't nessarily pertinent. However motivation only really relates to intent if they can demonstrate the harassing behaviour. But harassment could be proven or disproven independent of those factors.
However if we were to generalise repition is a fairly typical requirement of anti-harassment legislation for most clauses/categories. There is of course other legislation which regard to other interactions.
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