How Many Girlfriends/Boyfriends have You Had?

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I've had three boyfriends, four if I count a goofy short online only thing (I typically don't)

I've been on dates with 2 others. There may have been one more but even now I'm not sure if it was supposed to be a date or not and he kinda messed it up anyway.

In that case, don't vote for the Conservative and Unionist Party at the next election.

none

I could really get into being married or in a serious romantic realtionship with two women at the same time but only if one's my current girlfriend & the other my celeb crush.


I never do

Two girlfriends in the past, here's hoping third time will be the charm with my current girlfriend.

Polygamy is the objectification of women.

The Conservative and Unionist Party is British, but it's not like the Republicans have done anything to defend marriage either. Conservatism today is crude libertarianism - at best. These people hate marriage, the family and Christianity. Neo-conservatism is no better than liberalism.

Technically none.

I was sort of seeing someone when I was 17, but he didn't want anything serious, so we were never officially boyfriend/girlfriend. We never held hands in public.

Had a coffee date with a guy, who I didn't really click with, but then found out he was interested in my sister. That was weird. Didn't go out with him again, though he started making it clear he liked me now.

Had a date recently, but he changed his mind and decided he wasn't actually into me even though he's known me a year already and should have realised that already and not asked me out. That hurt worst because I though someone finally, genuinely fancied me and wanted to be with me, only to find out he's "made a mistake."

That's it. These 3 I have noted because they were clear and direct interest.

Had a lot of false starts where someone seems to like me. But they lose interest, or they were never really that interested to begin with.

Had attention from married men which I was not happy about and whose interest I did not entertain.

For some reason I thought you were a very conservative atheist.

In the UK it's difficult to find other Christians. Most people my age are secularly minded even if they associate themselves with the idea of Christianity, and you're a lot more conservate than me or anyone i know, so I assume that it's more difficult at your age to meet someone like-minded, but you never know who you're going to meet. It could happen.

I was converted recently, during my hiatus from this site. It was a long time coming, and I resisted vehemently, but I'm a perfectly satisfied convert now. My convictions on social issues were almost wholly the same when I was an atheist, and I deeply sympathised with Christianity.

It is indeed difficult to find other Christians, especially of the serious, devout, churchgoing variety and especially at my age; I can only hope women my age will mature with time. Perhaps I won't get married, but celibacy is completely compatible with Christianity and indeed a great virtue. I suppose one has to focus on the next life.

I don't think I'm all that conservative, just that others have swallowed wholesale the nihilism of the 60s cultural revolution and stopped thinking about the issues on which, if they did reflect on them, they'd be led to conservative conclusions. There isn't really a language in which to express the truths of social conservatism anymore, at least not to the vast majority of people, so ignorant are they of the Bible, so dumbed down by comprehensive school education and so small their vocabularies. This isn't their fault, though.

I'm actually much further to the left on other issues; I'm totally in favour of vast nationalisation of public infrastructure, and support a generous and extensive welfare state. I'm also a complete egalitarian on issues of race.

How old were you when you turned to Christ?

I can't pinpoint a particular time, but I started going to church again a few months ago.

I thought I was a Christian before, but I didn't accept Jesus Christ into my heart until I was about 13 to 14 years old. Prior to this the Bible made no sense to me when I read it. Sure, I knew it was a special book, but I got nothing out of it. However, after this conversion event, when I read the Bible everything became alive. It is a book that has to be read by the spirit rather then the mind. All makes perfect sense from the spiritual point of view.

I believed in a weird, New Age kind of spiritualism till seventeen or eighteen, before converting to atheism after reading Dawkins, JS Mill and Bertrand Russell (the latter two intelligent, eloquent, principled and courageous atheists, the former a scientific has-been with an ego requiring the boost afforded to it by regurgitating to children the arguments developed by better minds in the nineteenth century when it was still a dangerous and radical position to take). I realised how vital Christianity was as a cultural force in western civilisation after reading Sir Roger Scruton and Peter Hitchens beginning in 2017. From there, one thing led to another and I was converted while in Ireland.

Hmmm, not a way of life that suits me at all.

What's the point of this life if you don't live the full human experience? Yes, yes, we can all make choices, we're allowed to be alone or not have kids if we want, but that's a part of Christianity I struggle the most with. What is life without love? Why don't Christian men care? Are the only ones who keep with it the ones with low libidos and standards so unrealistic that no woman can ever be good enough?

#notallmen I know some married Christians too.

I don't normally discuss this sort of thing, because I think it's rather coarse, personal and unchristian, but the fact of the matter is that my libido is far from low. I'd happily marry a suitable young woman if she came along, but such women do not exist, to my knowledge. Marriage is hugely important, but I know of no woman my age who wants it. You're right that my "demands", well known around here, are unrealistic, but how can I compromise on matters of faith? If just wanting a chaste, humble, Christian woman to wed is unrealistic, how can I lower that bare minimum?

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The light turned on.

I have seen many miriacles since I first gave my heart to Jesus. I don't go to church. I used to. Then God brought me out of church, and for a couple of years He brought a misionary couple from South Africa to the UK to teach me directly on a 2 to one basis... me being the one! Then after that God sent videos and things like that... Just the rightnones at the right time. Don't forget. My mind was eager to learn!

Well. Moving on and one by one my whole family turned to Christ, which if you knew my Mum and Dads past, both were miriacles! My Dad was one of the most worldly men... My Mum was dabbling with witchcraft in her teens...
And also both my brothers. All miriacles with their own stories.

Hurtloam. Only a few missguided Christian men may avoid you... Why should they avoid you? You have a beautiful nature to you.