Do you believe in the idea of a Soulmate?

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Indeed, even very compatible people have to go through the "slings and arrows" which are part and parcel of relationships.

There has been cases of professors who've had relationships with their students & some of those students do/did believe that their professor is their soulmate. I know that's not the situation your talking about Fnord but unfortunately those things do happen from time to time. The girl your talking about may of had the delusional disorder Erotomania. I question if I may have a minor version of that. I think this Superchick song describes it very well

They want to feel special... like love isn't rare and special enough already.

Ah, I've just realised that they want validation for their decisions. There will be days when they have doubts and this "twin flame" malarkey will give them that validation, "I must go on for it is meant to be" motivation.

^^Of course.

It's natural to want to feel special.

One of the irritations of my relationship is that my wife finds me so "ordinary."

"Ordinary" might sound unflattering, but can be very, very good. People who go for the whole "mystic" connection usually get brutally disappointed.

I'm a believer in the notion that "ordinary" aspects of things can be beautiful.

I guess my wife and I have been together too long---she's seen my good side and my bad side---and the conclusion is that I'm a pretty "ordinary" guy. Nothing special.

Even if I'm not "special," I like to be thought of as "special" by someone whom I share my life with.

Well, it is. It reduces us to animals during a mating season.

Many people claim to stand far above animals, so why so much talk about the necessity of sexual attraction?

Sexual attraction is natural in all animals, including humans. And including many autistic people.

It is when relationships are "only about sexual attraction" that the term "crude" should be applied.

I don't like to be called normal, and I certainly don't want to hear that I'm special in bed. I cannot even stand the mentality of most people my age.

As for soulmates, I don't care much about how dictionaries define it and I think that there is a lot more required for "real" soulmates than just being compatible, sharing interests and having a good time in bed.

I feel that "being compatible, sharing interests, and having a good time in bed" is at least 3/4's of an ideal relationship.

Certainly, but I'm sexually attracted to a majority of young girls, so it doesn't mean anything in particular.

You are just so prejudiced.

I don't see anything wrong with age difference, or difference in social position. Maybe he wasn't happily married, and maybe he would have liked her if he got to know her. We will never know.

No, but humans are wired to form bonds and to look for strong connections. They might think they have a soulmate.

write about what makes you happy as much as possible.

seems to me at least, that divorce courts all over the place are full of "soulmates." that said, i am sure i am not the only person who has noticed that there is a mysterious phenomena going on where relating to some particular sorts feels as graceful and easy as falling off a log, while other people immediately cause friction. the former group feel soulmate-ish to me, as rare as they are.