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26 Aug 2019, 4:18 am

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It would be jolly handy wouldn't. It would save so much time. It would spare so much heartache.


No, it wouldn't. You don't want complete strangers to know your inner thoughts. When I'm talking about mind-to-mind communication, I make sure to mention regularly that this cannot and shouldn't work between complete strangers. Both of you will need to make a conscious decision that you are fine with sharing everything with them, and then you also need to work a lot on setting it up. It's a bit like the exclusive talk NTs use to confirm a relationship.



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26 Aug 2019, 4:30 am

rdos wrote:
hurtloam wrote:
It would be jolly handy wouldn't. It would save so much time. It would spare so much heartache.


No, it wouldn't. You don't want complete strangers to know your inner thoughts. When I'm talking about mind-to-mind communication, I make sure to mention regularly that this cannot and shouldn't work between complete strangers. Both of you will need to make a conscious decision that you are fine with sharing everything with them, and then you also need to work a lot on setting it up. It's a bit like the exclusive talk NTs use to confirm a relationship.


Twas a joke rdos.



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26 Aug 2019, 4:39 am

UnlikelySurface wrote:
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rdos can give you more concise information on his views but here's a long conversation about this topic that took place a year ago: viewtopic.php?f=6&t=368088&start=150
Warning, it's a pretty argumentative thread and originally not about this topic. The discussion about ND courtship seems to start on page 11 and the first explanation of what rdos means comes on page 12.
And a more recent one: viewtopic.php?f=6&t=378958&start=60
Less argumentative but goes less into rdos personal experiences. Again the initial topic was another and it is sprinkled into this conversation.


Thank you very much for the links, I'm sorry as I didn't intend to prompt you to dig through the forums for a year-old post. I thought you might just have the link handy or be able to say "it's that topic in <some subforum> with the subject <subjectline>" or whatever. I'll buy you a beverage of your choice if we ever meet in person. :)
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Another purpose of having no verbal communication is to force the brain to setup a mind-to-mind communication link. Once you have that, you can send & receive feelings, and with some practice also have "conversations"

Thanks for that description of your idea. It was interesting to read.

Combined with the conversations linked by NorthWind, I now have all the information I will ever need on this subject. Sorry if I semi-derailed the thread by asking.


Well, I usually omit some information. :wink:

To start with, my hypothesis is that NDs actually have many Neanderthal traits, and so the reason courtship is so different between NDs and NTs is that they are from different species. It's actually a lot more different than what I mention in discussions, but it also needs to be practical. The big issues are what parts of NT behavior NDs should definitely stay away from (I believe it is dating & asking out), and if there are shortcuts that still leads to healthy ND-ND relationships. Also, NDs can have healthy relationships without having a mind-to-mind communication link, but it requires a lot more work (not to mention that some probably have this link without knowing it).