Complimenting a lady, where do I go from there?

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I will be at the library today. We’ll see what I can find out if I see a ring on her left ring finger then that’ll settle it as no. If not, then I’ll probably be asking for more advice. Stand by my council:).

Don't blatantly look for rings. Many women don't like that kind of thing.

Just try to engage in a conversation with her.

Many European women wear their ring on their right hand, and I believe this is also the custom in India ... but of course she might not wear one at all. This is why you can't rely on the presence of a ring. She could have a boyfriend / girlfriend and no ring, or she might be single and not interested. You have to get to know her by talking.

And don't call her "radiant" while you're talking to her.

Just talk to her like you would talk to a friend (though without the extremes that sometimes happen when guys talk to guys).

Nah, the library is the perfect place for the look lookaway game and not for talking. He would both find out if she is compatible and interested that way.

I wouldn't visit the library more often. She will notice and might not like it.

I would ask her casually, "So, how has your day been?" and try to relate to her job and how she would feel in that job, then relate an example where you did similar work and felt the same way about it and about the people in it.

I have asked her before how she was. She answered and then went on her way.

I have asked her before how she was. She answered and then went on her way.

OK.

Is that a sign she is not interested. There was an event going on at the library and I asked her about it. She told me what was going on. I didn’t see a ring on her finger by the way.

Next time:

Hi, how are you today? (Your normal interaction).

I realised I haven't introduced myself. I'm ________________ . I'm a student at _______________. I come here because I like to learn about _________ (or) because I really like the quiet atmosphere, etc. Have you worked here long?

I'm married and I don't wear a ring. But I'm a very rare exception.

If she smiles at you and doesn't avoid eye contact, then I think it's safe to say she is probably comfortable with the compliments. Maybe after awhile you can test the waters and she if she's interested in hanging out sometime. You can try giving her your phone number and seeing where it goes from there. Don't be pushy or weird about it though, let her contact you.

If I see her again this evening before boxing class, I’ll introduce myself to her, if she says she can’t talk, then I guess that’ll be that. I


I have tried everything there is to try. I’m running out of ideas.