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I want a Baby Yoda though

If I was in a better life situation and approaching marriage, I would be more open to the idea of parenting. My current situation? Absolutely not.

Having or helping to raise children doesn't make much sense if you haven't even moved out of home yet. I wouldn't think it would make you a good role model anyway.

For me personally, it's extremely unlikely that I would ever get seriously involved with a single mother. I'm not interested in raising or even cohabitating with children who share no biological connection to me, much less pouring my resources into their development and always coming second because the non-related kid's needs are put first. I don't like the idea of stepchildren or half siblings or anything like that.

I don't have any greater love for people who are "close to me in biology" over people who are "not related" to me.

It's true that a wife with children would "put the children first" over the husband in many cases. Which is probably how it should be. I wouldn't like it---but it makes sense. She is the mother of her children.

I've had relationships with a few people who had children. I never felt like she "preferred the children over me." I always felt like my girlfriend gave me the proper attention, and gave her children the proper attention, too.

My mother had a boyfriend who wanted to become a "father figure." I wasn't too much into that because I already had a dad. And he was kind of a jerk.

If he wasn't such a jerk, I probably would have accepted him as my "second dad."

I wouldn't mind "passing my genes"----but this is not a primary thing that I think about constantly. Kids who are adopted also need love. I am so against the overriding preference given "biological" children over "adopted" children.

Brother Marknis, do you have family living outside your home state?

If so, what you could do is make contact with those family members who treat you "the right way"
and tell them everything.

she showed interest in you first, how? she opened her mouth in front of you first?

I fear that the past relationship may well be the only one I’ll ever have.

its reminder how me personally, I never enjoyed being in control of my own destiny

I didn't get married till I was 34 and I ended up meeting a wonderful 24 year old AS girl and I have been married for 11 years. The right person doesn't have to be your age so don't limit yourself to someone your age.
Yes It is more difficult for an AS to find someone because it takes a person you can look past your differences and see what is truly special about you.

it reminds me, I've seen a couple of self-improvement or dating coaches say they find it too bad, unfortuneate that social-skills aren't taught in school or at home, never truer words have been said.