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04 Dec 2019, 11:44 am

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I drive to Austin whenever I get the itch to do so. I just still struggle socially even when I am there. I wonder if the fact I don’t live there makes people consider that a deal breaker for even platonic friendships.

Just try not to miss it if a social person offers you inclusion.
It may not be the ideal group, you may feel an oddball in it, you may not get any dates, but it's the easieest way I know to work on your own social network.


I fear that people want friends less as the years go on. I am too old for the 20’s crowd and too young for the 40’s and above crowds so I am the odd man out wherever I go.



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04 Dec 2019, 1:20 pm

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I fear that people want friends less as the years go on. I am too old for the 20’s crowd and too young for the 40’s and above crowds so I am the odd man out wherever I go.

"Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter."
I socialized with 20-30yos when I was in high school. My close friend and his father enjoy the same events together.

I would probably feel safer with the older group but that may be just me, I genuinely enjoy aging.


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04 Dec 2019, 1:29 pm

^ Also, lots of people are in their 30’s, roughly the same number as are in their 20’s or 40’s. :P

Anyway, we can be friends with people from different age groups and backgrounds who have different beliefs than our own. You might just need to avoid talking about politics or religion.



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04 Dec 2019, 2:07 pm

I fear that the people I encounter in my daily life think I am a loser for being single and they don’t want me to have one.



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04 Dec 2019, 2:34 pm

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I fear that the people I encounter in my daily life think I am a loser for being single and they don’t want me to have one.

You mean people from your town? Why would their opinions matter?


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04 Dec 2019, 2:44 pm

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I fear that the people I encounter in my daily life think I am a loser for being single and they don’t want me to have one.

You mean people from your town? Why would their opinions matter?


Yes and I can’t prove them wrong so their opinions hurt me.



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04 Dec 2019, 2:45 pm

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I genuinely enjoy aging.


You're f---- weird.



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04 Dec 2019, 3:03 pm

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I genuinely enjoy aging.

You're f---- weird.

That probably makes me fit WP better.
But really, the older I get, the less I care for what other people think and this feeling is GREAT!


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04 Dec 2019, 3:11 pm

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You're f---- weird.

That probably makes me fit WP better.
But really, the older I get, the less I care for what other people think and this feeling is GREAT!


Well, we will see how you'll think after few years! After starting to have white hair and back ashes.



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04 Dec 2019, 3:22 pm

I do have some white hair.
My back problems have been there since I was 8.
Of course deteriorating health is not something to look forward but for now it's been totally worth it!


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04 Dec 2019, 3:25 pm

I wish I could stay my present age. Oh well. I wouldn’t want to go back and relive my teens or 20’s anyway unless I could take my current experience with me.



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04 Dec 2019, 3:45 pm

I wish I had been aborted if I knew my life was going to be a spiral of failure.



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04 Dec 2019, 4:11 pm

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I wish I had been aborted if I knew my life was going to be a spiral of failure.


I think we all know which character from Winnie the Pooh that you’d be. :wink:

Life could be worse. You could’ve been born a dung beetle. I think that would be much more unpleasant.



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04 Dec 2019, 4:30 pm

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But really, the older I get, the less I care for what other people think and this feeling is GREAT!


You're less weird than you think - I'm roughly twice your age and feel the same. And we're not the only ones, it's something I've seen with a surprising amount of people over the years: it's incredibly liberating for those who can let go and start living out of the terror of "what would people think?" :thumright:

Some of them even changed their lives in rather... spectacular ways in their '40s or '50s and achieved a kind of freedom and happiness they never dreamed possible :)


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04 Dec 2019, 4:34 pm

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But really, the older I get, the less I care for what other people think and this feeling is GREAT!
You're less weird than you think - I'm roughly twice your age and feel the same. And we're not the only ones, it's something I've seen with a surprising amount of people over the years: it's incredibly liberating for those who can let go and start living out of the terror of "what would people think?" Some of them even changed their lives in rather... spectacular ways in their '40s or '50s and achieved a kind of freedom and happiness they never dreamed possible.
I care about what my wife and my boss think, and that's about it. Not everybody. Not nobody. Just those two important people, and only because I choose to care. The rest are unimportant.



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04 Dec 2019, 4:40 pm

^ They're both your bosses :mrgreen: