Does this mean your not good looking?

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Absolutely. You don't have to lift weights.

I haven't lifted weights in years.

You can bicycle, walk, jog, etc. Many other things are good for exercise.

Once I heard a woman at work say to a male co-worker that it's a shame he doesn't work out to build up muscle, because he is tall, and were he more musuclar he would look really attractive.
The guy later said to me when she was gone: "I am not impressed when someone works out at the gym or builds muscles. Everyone can do that. I am impressed by what someone has in their brain, because not everyone can just do something about their intelligence!" Haha I think the woman pushed a button with him, but he is right about what he said. Also he was in a relationship, has had other girlfriends and I also thought he was attractive. I don't think you necessarily need to go to the gym to be able to attract women.

While he's right, he should know that working out benefits the brain, too. Saying "I don't need muscles, I have my brain" is just the other side of the same dumb coin as saying "I don't need a brain, I have muscles!".

I'm sure he knows exercise is necessary for optimal health, but he doesn't find it necessary to impress a woman. The woman told him how he could be more appeasing to her eyes, therefore he made that defensive statement. Besides that, probably he knows he'd be too comfortable to work out.

I drink alcohol with friends on the weekend

Could drinking beer be sabotaging my gym gains?

Alcohol in general will do you no favours in that department. Beer and soda-like alcoholic beverages especially.

After a night of drinking I do an hour of cardio at the gym

Is that enough exercise too burn of the calories from beer?

An average beer is about 200 cal. Depending on the cardio excercise, an hour is about 400-600 cal on average.

Alcohol does your body no favors.

How heavy are the beers you're lifting? And how many repetitions?

He uses those heavy beer steins as barbells....

I use weight machines at the gym and do push-ups at home afterwards.


On the machines I do 3 sets of 5-20 repetitions depending on how I feel on the day

That's cool. Not bad.

Hello, kraftiekortie.

I disagree with you because you don't have to build big muscles to build strength or power.

Look at Olympic weightlifters and boxers in lighter weight classes, they are not bodybuilders and yet they have more power.

Where did I claim that one had to "build big muscles" to gain strength.

I said the opposite, actually.

I know really scrawny people who are actually quite strong.

I'm 5'8" and have weighed 240lbs at my heaviest and all the way down to 145lbs at my smallest (within like a 15 year span). I now currently weigh around 160lbs and I'm fine with that. I used to lift weights and jog regularly up until 2 months ago when I started working at a tire shop where we change tires, work on vehicles etc. Pretty much every day at work I walk almost 5 miles during the shift and always lifting tires and such. The job keeps me somewhat active which is good. I would much rather be my current weight than like 190+ anyday. I believe though that my ability (or lack of lol) of attracting women has to do with the way I handle myself.

For example, I've come across some women that when they FIRST met me (or saw me) would attempt to flirt but my lack of social skills quickly chased them away or they became disinterested. It happened when I was heavy and when I was smaller too. I'm not too much worried about it at the current moment because I still have 2 1/2 more months to go before I can attempt to date again....long story but in a nutshell it was strongly suggested that I not date for 1 year. When the time comes though I will probably go back on the dreaded dating sites/apps because that's the only place I might stand a chance.

I was married for 10 years (I met her online in 2002 in an MSN chatroom lol) but it was a rocky relationship from the start. Two unstable individuals with no plans or goals, bouncing around cities and states, living in the car at one point and being completely homeless for a few weeks another time sleeping in the woods etc.

Ok I will stop rambling but my point is, I believe the social aspect plays more of a part than physical attributes BUT the physical must be important too because (at least for myself) I wouldn't want to date a 500lb woman. I went out on one date with a woman (she was quite hefty, I looked like a twig next to her) but I enjoyed it because of her personality. Obviously she didn't feel the same way after that time, I went overboard with trying to do stuff with her and I never saw her again. I feel like a dick now because of it because she drove almost 2 hours to meet me. I met her on POF lol