17 Jun 2020, 6:39 pm
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
cyberdad wrote:
Scared the girls away Boo
lol
It’s really a bitter truth that they have to accept and swallow.
Otherwise they will keep living this same drama.
I can see why some people think you are a rude bugger.
I'm impressed.
Erm,
You did mean that double entendre, right?
17 Jun 2020, 6:44 pm
SharonB wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Ladies, this really has nothing to do at all with your asperger or body language or the like...etc
It is simply something that happens all the time between men and women. For instance there's another thread right now started by a female who has a feeling for a male friend, it's just extremely common.
It is simply something that happens all the time between men and women. For instance there's another thread right now started by a female who has a feeling for a male friend, it's just extremely common.
I understand you are talking in general or "simply" terms. I have never had the hots for a friend (aside from momentary ovulation), so you are not talking about me and perhaps not about the OP either. All my physical attractions were to non-friends. I always wondered how much of that was psychological vs physiological.
Question for you: I work with all men. I consider two to be close friends. Do they have the hots for me? What about the guys friend from old that I reconnected with (or kept in touch with). Do they have the hots for me? Ha, ha, ha - probably - but they are old enough to know not to say anything? Or their testosterone has dropped?
Dunno.
How attractive are you?
A great personality will only go so far.
Also,
We are talking about people in their 20s.
I have the impression you aren't in that age group?
17 Jun 2020, 6:46 pm
sly279 wrote:
SharonB wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Ladies, this really has nothing to do at all with your asperger or body language or the like...etc
It is simply something that happens all the time between men and women. For instance there's another thread right now started by a female who has a feeling for a male friend, it's just extremely common.
It is simply something that happens all the time between men and women. For instance there's another thread right now started by a female who has a feeling for a male friend, it's just extremely common.
I understand you are talking in general or "simply" terms. I have never had the hots for a friend (aside from momentary ovulation), so you are not talking about me and perhaps not about the OP either. All my physical attractions were to non-friends. I always wondered how much of that was psychological vs physiological.
Question for you: I work with all men. I consider two to be close friends. Do they have the hots for me? What about the guys friend from old that I reconnected with (or kept in touch with). Do they have the hots for me? Ha, ha, ha - probably - but they are old enough to know not to say anything? Or their testosterone has dropped?
Are you single?
Careful.
She may be a cougar and have you for breakfast.
17 Jun 2020, 7:01 pm
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
SharonB wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Ladies, this really has nothing to do at all with your asperger or body language or the like...etc
It is simply something that happens all the time between men and women. For instance there's another thread right now started by a female who has a feeling for a male friend, it's just extremely common.
It is simply something that happens all the time between men and women. For instance there's another thread right now started by a female who has a feeling for a male friend, it's just extremely common.
Question for you: I work with all men. I consider two to be close friends. Do they have the hots for me? What about the guys friend from old that I reconnected with (or kept in touch with). Do they have the hots for me? Ha, ha, ha - probably - but they are old enough to know not to say anything? Or their testosterone has dropped?
I don't know if they do or not, you know them better.
I have a question for you tho: If you seduce them and offer sex to them, how many you think will say "no we are just friends"?
If they are NT men,
Not that many, I imagine.
I was in a situation when I was much younger.
A very attractive woman I worked with showed an interest in me.
Being an aspie:
I considered the situation.
Realised I was nowhere near her league and dismissed the advance.
Do I regret not accepting the invitation?
No.
I understood that the relationship would never have worked because I had nothing to offer.
I realised it wasn't in her best interest in wasting her time with me,
And in my mind, wished her all the best for, undoubtedly, a very satisfying life with someone who would look after her.
She seemed to be frustrated with my refusal.
I am a *true* aspie.
True aspies think like this.
Neurotypicals would have a great deal of trouble understanding how a "True" aspie, like me and Sheldon, thinks about romance.
In my particular situation, it was a case of once bitten, twice shy.
I learned from the first time,
Hence my decline.
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17 Jun 2020, 9:26 pm
Pepe wrote:
Neurotypicals would have a great deal of trouble understanding how a "True" aspie, like me and Sheldon, thinks about romance.
In my particular situation, it was a case of once bitten, twice shy.
I learned from the first time,
Hence my decline.
In my particular situation, it was a case of once bitten, twice shy.
I learned from the first time,
Hence my decline.
What is a true aspie?
I think all of us here are, except for Teach and Cyberdad?
Also I'm pretty sure the Sheldon character had a romance on the show.
17 Jun 2020, 10:39 pm
18 Jun 2020, 12:11 am
that1weirdgrrrl wrote:
Pepe wrote:
Neurotypicals would have a great deal of trouble understanding how a "True" aspie, like me and Sheldon, thinks about romance.
In my particular situation, it was a case of once bitten, twice shy.
I learned from the first time,
Hence my decline.
In my particular situation, it was a case of once bitten, twice shy.
I learned from the first time,
Hence my decline.
What is a true aspie?
I think all of us here are, except for Teach and Cyberdad?
Also I'm pretty sure the Sheldon character had a romance on the show.
A "True" aspie is one who hasn't been corrupted by NT ideology/doctrine/brainwashing/dogma. <woof!>
A "True" aspie aspires to become "The Idea Aspie", so defined by Tony Attwood.
There are very few around.
So few. <sigh>
Ms Robota might be "one of us, one of us..."
18 Jun 2020, 12:30 am
that1weirdgrrrl wrote:
Pepe wrote:
Neurotypicals would have a great deal of trouble understanding how a "True" aspie, like me and Sheldon, thinks about romance.
In my particular situation, it was a case of once bitten, twice shy.
I learned from the first time,
Hence my decline.
In my particular situation, it was a case of once bitten, twice shy.
I learned from the first time,
Hence my decline.
What is a true aspie?
I think all of us here are, except for Teach and Cyberdad?
Also I'm pretty sure the Sheldon character had a romance on the show.
Oops,
I forgot to mention what I thought about his relationship with Amy.
I don't blame Sheldon for being a cop-out.
He is, after all, at the whim of the scriptwriters.
The other thing is:
The romance added another direction that neurotypicals were interested in.
Yes, there were many romantic scenarios/adventures to explore,
But this was not part of Sheldon's character parameters in the beginning.
Yes, the character needs to develop, to grow, to become more real, more believable,
A storyline cliche,
But,
This was a perversion of Sheldon's true nature,
As defined throughout the beginning of the show.
Some aspies want to engage in a significant-other relationship,
Perhaps most,
But what about those of us who were never meant for such an indulgence?
I am one such aspie who felt "Betrayed" by Sheldon's seduction into less intellectual pursuits.
Sheldon "Talked the talk",
But did he "Walk the walk"?
No, he didn't.
Chuck Lorre, while a comedic genius, is not on the autistic spectrum,
And failed to understand that the obvious embracing of an NT social paradigm diminished Sheldon's autistic character, In addition to ignoring the valid life choices of others on the spectrum.
But I forgive him.
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18 Jun 2020, 1:22 am
Pepe wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
cyberdad wrote:
Scared the girls away Boo
lol
It’s really a bitter truth that they have to accept and swallow.
Otherwise they will keep living this same drama.
I can see why some people think you are a rude bugger.
I'm impressed.
Erm,
You did mean that double entendre, right?
Blunt honesty is often confused with rudness.
I am not here to sugarcoat any life facts tho. I mean 6 out of 6 female respondents confirmed the same life experience, none yet said otherwise.
Quote:
You did mean that double entendre, right?
18 Jun 2020, 1:46 am
Pepe wrote:
that1weirdgrrrl wrote:
Pepe wrote:
Neurotypicals would have a great deal of trouble understanding how a "True" aspie, like me and Sheldon, thinks about romance.
In my particular situation, it was a case of once bitten, twice shy.
I learned from the first time,
Hence my decline.
In my particular situation, it was a case of once bitten, twice shy.
I learned from the first time,
Hence my decline.
What is a true aspie?
I think all of us here are, except for Teach and Cyberdad?
Also I'm pretty sure the Sheldon character had a romance on the show.
Oops,
I forgot to mention what I thought about his relationship with Amy.
I don't blame Sheldon for being a cop-out.
He is, after all, at the whim of the scriptwriters.
The other thing is:
The romance added another direction that neurotypicals were interested in.
Yes, there were many romantic scenarios/adventures to explore,
But this was not part of Sheldon's character parameters in the beginning.
Yes, the character needs to develop, to grow, to become more real, more believable,
A storyline cliche,
But,
This was a perversion of Sheldon's true nature,
As defined throughout the beginning of the show.
Some aspies want to engage in a significant-other relationship,
Perhaps most,
But what about those of us who were never meant for such an indulgence?
I am one such aspie who felt "Betrayed" by Sheldon's seduction into less intellectual pursuits.
Sheldon "Talked the talk",
But did he "Walk the walk"?
No, he didn't.
Chuck Lorre, while a comedic genius, is not on the autistic spectrum,
And failed to understand that the obvious embracing of an NT social paradigm diminished Sheldon's autistic character, In addition to ignoring the valid life choices of others on the spectrum.
But I forgive him.
I'm just curious, would Nicola Tesla qualify as a true Aspie?
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18 Jun 2020, 2:47 am
18 Jun 2020, 2:49 am
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18 Jun 2020, 3:13 am
cyberdad wrote:
Pepe wrote:
that1weirdgrrrl wrote:
Pepe wrote:
Neurotypicals would have a great deal of trouble understanding how a "True" aspie, like me and Sheldon, thinks about romance.
In my particular situation, it was a case of once bitten, twice shy.
I learned from the first time,
Hence my decline.
In my particular situation, it was a case of once bitten, twice shy.
I learned from the first time,
Hence my decline.
What is a true aspie?
I think all of us here are, except for Teach and Cyberdad?
Also I'm pretty sure the Sheldon character had a romance on the show.
Oops,
I forgot to mention what I thought about his relationship with Amy.
I don't blame Sheldon for being a cop-out.
He is, after all, at the whim of the scriptwriters.
The other thing is:
The romance added another direction that neurotypicals were interested in.
Yes, there were many romantic scenarios/adventures to explore,
But this was not part of Sheldon's character parameters in the beginning.
Yes, the character needs to develop, to grow, to become more real, more believable,
A storyline cliche,
But,
This was a perversion of Sheldon's true nature,
As defined throughout the beginning of the show.
Some aspies want to engage in a significant-other relationship,
Perhaps most,
But what about those of us who were never meant for such an indulgence?
I am one such aspie who felt "Betrayed" by Sheldon's seduction into less intellectual pursuits.
Sheldon "Talked the talk",
But did he "Walk the walk"?
No, he didn't.
Chuck Lorre, while a comedic genius, is not on the autistic spectrum,
And failed to understand that the obvious embracing of an NT social paradigm diminished Sheldon's autistic character, In addition to ignoring the valid life choices of others on the spectrum.
But I forgive him.
I'm just curious, would Nicola Tesla qualify as a true Aspie?
Not sure of this term "true aspie." All the aspies I know in real life yearn to have a partner and children. It is a very diverse and broad spectrum after all. If Pepe wants to position himself as a " true, elitist, aspie icon" I will allow him his indulgence
I agree that Sheldon especially in the final episode completely went out of character in order to provide a schmaltzy ending. I of course was delighted being a schmaltzy person.
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18 Jun 2020, 3:29 am
Pepe wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
SharonB wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Ladies, this really has nothing to do at all with your asperger or body language or the like...etc
It is simply something that happens all the time between men and women. For instance there's another thread right now started by a female who has a feeling for a male friend, it's just extremely common.
It is simply something that happens all the time between men and women. For instance there's another thread right now started by a female who has a feeling for a male friend, it's just extremely common.
Question for you: I work with all men. I consider two to be close friends. Do they have the hots for me? What about the guys friend from old that I reconnected with (or kept in touch with). Do they have the hots for me? Ha, ha, ha - probably - but they are old enough to know not to say anything? Or their testosterone has dropped?
I don't know if they do or not, you know them better.
I have a question for you tho: If you seduce them and offer sex to them, how many you think will say "no we are just friends"?
If they are NT men,
Not that many, I imagine.
I was in a situation when I was much younger.
A very attractive woman I worked with showed an interest in me.
Being an aspie:
I considered the situation.
Realised I was nowhere near her league and dismissed the advance.
Do I regret not accepting the invitation?
No.
I understood that the relationship would never have worked because I had nothing to offer.
I realised it wasn't in her best interest in wasting her time with me,
And in my mind, wished her all the best for, undoubtedly, a very satisfying life with someone who would look after her.
She seemed to be frustrated with my refusal.
I am a *true* aspie.
True aspies think like this.
Neurotypicals would have a great deal of trouble understanding how a "True" aspie, like me and Sheldon, thinks about romance.
In my particular situation, it was a case of once bitten, twice shy.
I learned from the first time,
Hence my decline.
You have absolutely no way of knowing that you have/had nothing to offer, according to what scale of merit? NT's are not all mindless clones of superficiality. You may be happier unattached but that does not mean you have nothing to offer. You preferred not to try and ultimately feel that you had failed perhaps? Or that you know that you are incapable of a deep , emotional attachment? Why do you think you have nothing to offer?
My aspie always says that if he hadn't been so relentlessly persistent when I initially said he was too young, we would have missed out on so much joy. You never know until you try.
18 Jun 2020, 3:44 am
Teach51 wrote:
[NT's are not all mindless clones of superficiality. .
yes we are
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18 Jun 2020, 3:51 am
cyberdad wrote:
Teach51 wrote:
[NT's are not all mindless clones of superficiality. .
yes we areLol not entirely......
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