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19 Jul 2020, 6:11 pm

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Flirting is the thing I struggle most with in the online dating world, I dont want to come off as the creepy guy saying innapropriate stuff but also dont wanna sound like i dont like them, so a lot of the time i just end up making pleasant conversation and trying to get to know them that way. More often than not I end up in the friend zone, or the chat just fizzles before it goes anywhere. Wish they had coaches for this sort of thing.
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19 Jul 2020, 6:24 pm

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Flirting is the thing I struggle most with in the online dating world, I dont want to come off as the creepy guy saying innapropriate stuff but also dont wanna sound like i dont like them, so a lot of the time i just end up making pleasant conversation and trying to get to know them that way. More often than not I end up in the friend zone, or the chat just fizzles before it goes anywhere. Wish they had coaches for this sort of thing.
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Yeah, early on it's probably a safer bet to just make pleasant conversation. But the opening to flirt that you mentioned earlier sounded safe, too. You had a bit of rapport with her already and it was a cute flirt, not coming across too strong, too fast.


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19 Jul 2020, 6:41 pm

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Yeah, early on it's probably a safer bet to just make pleasant conversation. But the opening to flirt that you mentioned earlier sounded safe, too. You had a bit of rapport with her already and it was a cute flirt, not coming across too strong, too fast.
and it still didn’t work out. It’s like it would take a series of lucky guesses on what increases her interest in me for me to ever be in an actual relationship. One wrong guess and it’s an automatic ghosting penalty.


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19 Jul 2020, 6:56 pm

CubsBullsBears wrote:
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Yeah, early on it's probably a safer bet to just make pleasant conversation. But the opening to flirt that you mentioned earlier sounded safe, too. You had a bit of rapport with her already and it was a cute flirt, not coming across too strong, too fast.
and it still didn’t work out. It’s like it would take a series of lucky guesses on what increases her interest in me for me to ever be in an actual relationship. One wrong guess and it’s an automatic ghosting penalty.


I'm sorry things didn't work out how you had hoped.

I had times when I felt like I had a great connection with someone, but ultimately they didn't feel a connection to me. So things fizzled out.

Just try to know that a better connection can exist, because if the girl feels a strong connection to you and you also feel a connection to her, it would be a better relationship for you both.

Try not to take it as a failure. There are a lot of emotions and intangibles involved that are difficult to quantify.


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