Does anyone else find cheating super hard to understand?

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Yes, but again what is cheating? My husband has Aspergers and is extremely good looking, he gets quite a bit of attention from the ladies, but I don’t know what actually happens when he visits the same supermarket on his own sometimes and there always seem to be a shop assistant who fancies him. I can pick these things quite well and in he always smiles at her, so why does she think he wants more than being friendly.

I find out over time, that he checks them out and he knows which ones fancies him, then he will go to their checkout. Why does he feel the need for this? He does it behind my back, but in front of our children if they are with him. So yesterday I found out that there is this one lady who he has obviously notice that she fancies him. She ignored me and was all over him. So the second time I am with him. I went to go to her checkout, which I have no problems with her, I thought I would chit chat like you do, but before we got served he walked to another checkout, he couldn’t face her in front of me, but he went to her checkout in the past with our children. But all this time he is looking at her and she blushes and smiles. He has an effect on her and he is enjoying it. As no one is at her cashier she gets up and walks past us and stops and looks at my husband waiting for a response, he looks at her and smiles, she walks away, then comes back again standing there, I ask her if she needed anything she goes red again and walks away and sits back at her cashier, still looking at my husband, it was uncomfortable. My husband is enjoying the whole thing. Why does he encourage them? I find it humiliating. Now I don’t want to go back to that supermarket.

What does all this mean, it has happened several times, with other women, when he goes out alone. I find out later that he seems to latch onto the women who fancy him. Then they think he wants a relationship with him.

When we got home I calmly ask him about, he gets annoyed and says he doesn’t know what I am talking about.

I’m never allowed to talk about other women, ever.

I can’t have sex with someone I dislike.

This tends to be my sentiment and well. I don't understand exerting all of the effort required to sneak around. It seems much simpler to either fix the unsatisfactory relationship or end it

Flirting with no intent is stupid, in my opinion.

A female acquaintances once told me “very good-looking men are a headache”. ; so she prefers the less good-looking men. lol

I take intentions and romance pretty seriously, but casual flirting is pretty harmless. I've been lead on many times because I'm way too optimistic, but whenever it's back and forth meaningless flirting, I really don't get any butterflies. It's just playful and it feels fun.

When a woman flirts with me, I tend to take it seriously as a default. Later on, I might understand that it didn’t mean much in a truly amorous sense.

I’ve made mistakes of this nature in the past...and I still do.

I can’t separate sex from regard for a woman.

I can’t have sex with someone I dislike.

If I want a “release,” and “no one is available,” I rely on myself.

Lol my ex husband loved the thrill of "sneaking around." Many NT men do it seems, I know quite a few. Some of my male friends say they can separate sex and emotions completely and they don't consider it cheating, they just need sexual variety. This does not mean I approve because I don't.