03 Sep 2020, 5:19 pm
maycontainthunder wrote:
Pepe wrote:
maycontainthunder wrote:
I've given this quite a bit of thought. "yes" to the question doesn't really say very much but the problem is I've been mostly mentally rewired so I don't find women attractive because the reality is even if I was the last man alive not one woman would want to be near me.
There are sex workers who specialise in "servicing" people with disabilities.
They are used to a different clientele.
There are also sexual surrogates, but I believe they are quite expensive.
The rules set by others prevent me considering this kind of thing. In any case, I seriously doubt that even the individuals you mention would go near me even if I had a clue what was happening.
I am 100% illiterate when it comes to women.
All you have to do is explain your problem with management. They will find someone that is suitable.
But you might be better off going to a "sexual surrogate".
It isn't cheap, though, I believe.
But think of it as an investment in your life.
Simples.
Quote:
Sex Surrogacy – get the facts
It is a common misconception that sex surrogacy is another term for sex workers/ prostitutes. What you probably don’t know is that sex surrogates spend almost 90% of their time with clients on non-sexual activities!
Here’s a quick fact session for those who want the abridged version:
Research conducted on sex surrogates found that sexual contact only constitutes 13% of their total time spent with a client. Mostly, the sex surrogate is involved in teaching non-sexual touch and intimacy techniques as well as education about sexuality, body image, assertiveness and communication skills building for a romantic or sexual context.
Sex surrogates aren’t just for those with physical or psychological disability. Sex surrogacy has shown great success when used as part of a treatment plan for single men suffering from erection and ejaculation issues, and single women who suffer from painful intercourse.
Sex surrogacy can be used as part of a rehabilitation plan for individuals who have sustained physical and/ or psychological injury, maintaining the sexual identity of those who had previously prioritised their sexuality. https://www.goodvibesclinic.com.au/sex-surrogacy
It is a common misconception that sex surrogacy is another term for sex workers/ prostitutes. What you probably don’t know is that sex surrogates spend almost 90% of their time with clients on non-sexual activities!
Here’s a quick fact session for those who want the abridged version:
Research conducted on sex surrogates found that sexual contact only constitutes 13% of their total time spent with a client. Mostly, the sex surrogate is involved in teaching non-sexual touch and intimacy techniques as well as education about sexuality, body image, assertiveness and communication skills building for a romantic or sexual context.
Sex surrogates aren’t just for those with physical or psychological disability. Sex surrogacy has shown great success when used as part of a treatment plan for single men suffering from erection and ejaculation issues, and single women who suffer from painful intercourse.
Sex surrogacy can be used as part of a rehabilitation plan for individuals who have sustained physical and/ or psychological injury, maintaining the sexual identity of those who had previously prioritised their sexuality. https://www.goodvibesclinic.com.au/sex-surrogacy
03 Sep 2020, 5:28 pm
Nades wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Nades wrote:
True. Not everyone can afford it but I guess it's still an option. As for the STD's I imagine it's not much of an issue. I think the risk for STD's is a bit overblown personally.
No they're not, there are literally hundreds of STD types; and those are the nastiest:
https://smartsexresource.com/about-stis ... -chances-0
Back in my younger years (and I mean young as I'm only 30), If I had a good year financially from my work and the houses, there was a well known ladies of the night house that occasionally called to me after a boring evening with friends. They were Polish, Hungarian, spotless I must say damn fine looking. You had to have a shower and use protection no questions asked regardless of who it was. They where much more picky on protection and cleanliness than the other "regular" women iv'e been with. Years later I'm still fine and know a lot more about WW2 and the invasion of Poland, Polish Christmas fish dishes, the Borderlands video game series and french bulldogs because it seemed to be a regular topic of convo for some reason with them. They were all very polite though to give them credit.
How often did you "invade Poland" per night?
I spend a lot of time at sex establishments when I was younger, and never had a problem with STDs.
That was about 15 years ago, and I am no worse for wear.
Just be smart, go to legal establishments, and "if it ain't on, it ain't on".
03 Sep 2020, 5:32 pm
Nades wrote:
Wolfram87 wrote:
Nades wrote:
They where much more picky on protection and cleanliness than the other "regular" women iv'e been with. Years later I'm still fine and know a lot more about WW2 and the invasion of Poland, Polish Christmas fish dishes, the Borderlands video game series and french bulldogs because it seemed to be a regular topic of convo for some reason with them.
Not gonna lie, that sounds a lot more interesting than I'd expect the average visit to a courtesan to be...
My mind was honestly blown when I heard they traditionally eat fish on Christmas. "You eat what? Seriously, Fish? but.....why?"
Half of the fun was wondering what they were going to say. It's actually worth considering if someone's virginity is bothering them a lot. There are some very decent escorts/call girls/ladies of the night that take being clean very seriously and are complete goofballs who will get into the most chilled of convos when you're both comfortable, Aspergers and all. They're also often pretty and I really mean hot if you look. There is no need to have good social skills, they initiate everything for you regardless of what one you go for. The only way you can really find the cliche unsavoury ones is if you go out your way to look for them by driving in shady parts of town but why would anyone want to do that?
Yup.
03 Sep 2020, 5:51 pm
Pepe wrote:
Nades wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Nades wrote:
True. Not everyone can afford it but I guess it's still an option. As for the STD's I imagine it's not much of an issue. I think the risk for STD's is a bit overblown personally.
No they're not, there are literally hundreds of STD types; and those are the nastiest:
https://smartsexresource.com/about-stis ... -chances-0
Back in my younger years (and I mean young as I'm only 30), If I had a good year financially from my work and the houses, there was a well known ladies of the night house that occasionally called to me after a boring evening with friends. They were Polish, Hungarian, spotless I must say damn fine looking. You had to have a shower and use protection no questions asked regardless of who it was. They where much more picky on protection and cleanliness than the other "regular" women iv'e been with. Years later I'm still fine and know a lot more about WW2 and the invasion of Poland, Polish Christmas fish dishes, the Borderlands video game series and french bulldogs because it seemed to be a regular topic of convo for some reason with them. They were all very polite though to give them credit.
How often did you "invade Poland" per night?
I spend a lot of time at sex establishments when I was younger, and never had a problem with STDs.
That was about 15 years ago, and I am no worse for wear.
Just be smart, go to legal establishments, and "if it ain't on, it ain't on".
Not has often as I should haha. There are some seriously tidy women like that who like what they do and take pride in it. They're all normal people inside. The worst that'll happen is that a very be going through the motions approach will be taken by them. Never would I imagine them being obnoxious to someone with aspergers. More than likely they'll be respectful and you'll have a surprisingly casual chat afterwards like you would with a new face at a socialist gathering. ....only naked. Being frozen in terror from being with a hottie for the first time or any woman for that matter just doesn't happen.
03 Sep 2020, 9:45 pm
Nades wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Nades wrote:
True. Not everyone can afford it but I guess it's still an option. As for the STD's I imagine it's not much of an issue. I think the risk for STD's is a bit overblown personally.
No they're not, there are literally hundreds of STD types; and those are the nastiest:
https://smartsexresource.com/about-stis ... -chances-0
Back in my younger years (and I mean young as I'm only 30), If I had a good year financially from my work and the houses, there was a well known ladies of the night house that occasionally called to me after a boring evening with friends. They were Polish, Hungarian, spotless I must say damn fine looking. You had to have a shower and use protection no questions asked regardless of who it was. They where much more picky on protection and cleanliness than the other "regular" women iv'e been with. Years later I'm still fine and know a lot more about WW2 and the invasion of Poland, Polish Christmas fish dishes, the Borderlands video game series and french bulldogs because it seemed to be a regular topic of convo for some reason with them. They were all very polite though to give them credit.
Not all of us have the good fortune to reside in Europe.
Pepe wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Nades wrote:
True. Not everyone can afford it but I guess it's still an option. As for the STD's I imagine it's not much of an issue. I think the risk for STD's is a bit overblown personally.
No they're not, there are literally hundreds of STD types; and those are the nastiest:
https://smartsexresource.com/about-stis ... -chances-0
Beg to differ.
Legal sex establishments, here in Australia, have mandatory, regular health checks.
No check,
No "jiggy jiggy".
I don't live in Australia.
Also, I don't just want occasional sex with random women whenever I can afford to spare enough cash. I want a meaningful relationship with someone I share a bond with. But that is not the topic of this thread.
03 Sep 2020, 10:14 pm
Romofan wrote:
I'm not a virgin, but its starting to feel that way again, its been 7-8yrs since my last time...
I can, unfortunately, relate to this
A big part of the problem is that when you are alone for a long time, you stop doing the little things that the other sex delights in, cuz why bother? You "let yourself go", as they say, stop obsessing over your grooming, your wardrobe...instead, your 'special interests', quirks, favorite foods, and cats---things that give you regular pleasure---take center stage.
I can, unfortunately, relate to this
A big part of the problem is that when you are alone for a long time, you stop doing the little things that the other sex delights in, cuz why bother? You "let yourself go", as they say, stop obsessing over your grooming, your wardrobe...instead, your 'special interests', quirks, favorite foods, and cats---things that give you regular pleasure---take center stage.
Umm...you do not know me...
03 Sep 2020, 10:22 pm
Umm...you do not know me...
No, I do not. I was piggybacking on your point to make a few of my own.
I apologize if that made you uncomfy 
03 Sep 2020, 11:20 pm
Romofan wrote:
Umm...you do not know me...
No, I do not. I was piggybacking on your point to make a few of my own.
I apologize if that made you uncomfy
No, I do not. I was piggybacking on your point to make a few of my own.
I apologize if that made you uncomfy
Cheer up.
I found it entertaining,
And that is all that counts.
AcidicBlue3127 doesn't "get me", btw.
I find it funny.
03 Sep 2020, 11:29 pm
04 Sep 2020, 12:10 am
04 Sep 2020, 12:38 am
Romofan wrote:
Pepe, you get it.
Life is too short
Life is too short
I get that you can't take life too seriously.
I don't know why so many do.
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04 Sep 2020, 2:47 am
Pepe wrote:
maycontainthunder wrote:
Pepe wrote:
maycontainthunder wrote:
I've given this quite a bit of thought. "yes" to the question doesn't really say very much but the problem is I've been mostly mentally rewired so I don't find women attractive because the reality is even if I was the last man alive not one woman would want to be near me.
There are sex workers who specialise in "servicing" people with disabilities.
They are used to a different clientele.
There are also sexual surrogates, but I believe they are quite expensive.
The rules set by others prevent me considering this kind of thing. In any case, I seriously doubt that even the individuals you mention would go near me even if I had a clue what was happening.
I am 100% illiterate when it comes to women.
All you have to do is explain your problem with management. They will find someone that is suitable.
But you might be better off going to a "sexual surrogate".
It isn't cheap, though, I believe.
But think of it as an investment in your life.
Simples.
Pepe, I advise that you look up the condition Enforced Celibacy which has to do with the belief that you can't do something and this becoming "locked in" to the mind of that person.
Even if I could talk to a woman I have zero confidence and with the above mentioned condition it would be utterly impossible for anything to happen.
04 Sep 2020, 3:30 am
auntblabby wrote:
if you are a normal aspie male and not gifted with otherwise superior genes, it needs to be said that we all have a "sell by date" where if we wait too long, the maleness is no longer there, so to speak. testosterone plummets in many men after the age of 40, and by the time i lost it [my 50s] i had to use the little blue pill just to function, and the pleasure just wasn't there. sensitivity was gone. endurance was gone. it was literally anti-climactic. female was definitely not only unimpressed but offended. so above all, shouted from the mountaintop- DO IT WHILE YOU ARE STILL YOUNG ENOUGH TO PERFORM, BEFORE IT IS LITERALLY TOO GODDAMNED LATE!! if you have to beg borrow or steal the money to get a pro sex worker, so be it, hire the blinkin' sex worker and get it done and over with. you'll be sorry if you wait too long.
Of two minds here.
1. "Do it" so you can move on with life.
Some aspects of psychological development are linear, meaning you need to reach a certain life milestone before moving on to the next.
2. Don't take sex so seriously.
It is a biological function, designed by the evolutionary process, with the "blind" intention to propagate, in most situations.
Essentially, we are simply a means to an end as a result of bodily chemical reactions.
Anyone else read Richard Dawkin's "The Selfish Gene"?
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