Love life once you get to your late 20s/early 30s

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"Attraction" isn't all about a pretty face.
I believe that is axiomatic.

Ahh, yes, "The silver fox".

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I know women who are much sexier at 60 than at 25.

Nonsense.....bosh.......bull crap!! !! to those purported “studies”! !! !! !!

I didn't say I agree with it, did I?

I’m talking about the studies...not you

But that's superficial - what about love?

Where's the pic with the neck beard? Please.

I lost it.

I was wearing tinted glasses back then, too. This was 1985.

My total "body count" has more than doubled in the past two years. Having sex with two or three different people in one weekend isn't super uncommon for me. I was 34 this march, but I feel like I'm akin to a fine wine, only getting more desirable with age.

Are you feeling ok? Any weird symptoms?

I hold far more bargaining power in regards to dating at age 31 than I did in my early 20's. Getting a date is very easy. Making it last? Not so.

I don't think so. I've never tested positive for any STI and I get tested pretty frequently.

No, I think he was referring to your avatar.

This is both true and interesting. I used to have literally no bargaining power at all, when it came to who I dated; I just dated the first willing girl. My first girlfriend was someone I wasn't attracted to at all, found her boring, and did 90% of the work in the relationship. This is understandable: I was ugly as hell and didn't have a car, so who was I to insist on having a choice. That same girlfriend insisted on me taking a 45-minute bus ride to the college's satellite campus where she was, in order to go out, rather than coming to meet me or meeting halfway. My next relationships were better; I asserted myself more with the girls, although I still dated whoever said yes. I didn't start truly vetoing the women showing interest in me until I was 28, when my looks improved, and I felt like I actually had a choice in who I dated.

The other part is finding vs. keeping. Early on, I truly believed that I could be a really great boyfriend; in fact, the best boyfriend a girl ever had. I knew enough about the serious, committed part from TV and real-life observations, both what to do and what not to do, to sustain it in my own relationships. It's the early, looks-driven, noncommittal, "hitting it off" part that was problematic for me; it required more social skills. So I went for girls who were desperate to get into serious relationships right away, hoping to fast-forward the early part as quickly as possible. Things never panned out that way, although they usually went as far as kissing, and occasionally even sex.

Around age 30, I realized that I'm not as good a boyfriend as I thought, and the only reason I wanted to get serious so quickly is because I lacked the social skills and the looks to sustain the early part of a relationship. In fact, I now go out of my way to avoid serious relationships with women, preferring to keep thing strictly platonic (low-level flirting is OK).