Online dating: Men outnumber women on Tinder by 9 to 1

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07 Mar 2021, 5:36 am

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I find it curious so many men claim to getting multiple sex partners through these sites if there is such a disproportionate number of men?

I think a lot of men strike out. I think a lot of girls "play the field" and "shop around." They can go on different dates with different men.



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07 Mar 2021, 5:39 am

ezbzbfcg2 wrote:
cyberdad wrote:
I find it curious so many men claim to getting multiple sex partners through these sites if there is such a disproportionate number of men?

I think a lot of men strike out. I think a lot of girls "play the field" and "shop around." They can go on different dates with different men.


That makes more sense



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07 Mar 2021, 6:23 am

This subject is making me sick. :eew:

I think I remember why I decided not to participate. It's all sickening and weird, as in unnatural.



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07 Mar 2021, 6:25 am

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This subject is making me sick. :eew:

I think I remember why I decided not to participate. It's all sickening and weird, as in unnatural.


What exactly do you find so sickening?



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07 Mar 2021, 6:29 am

cyberdad wrote:
Xfilesgeek is exactly correct.

1. Attractive girls are usually taken
2. The single attractive girls leftover these days have friends with benefits. They have no reason to bed hop with strangers
3. Single attractive girls who choose to bedhop might be bored but they know where they can go to meet somebody f2f
4. The proportion of single attractive girls leftover willing to try tinder etc...is disproportionately small compared to men so they have the pick of the most physcially attractive and/or wealthiest men.

The idea there's some platform bustling with attractive looking women and few men is illogical.


Agreed. 8)



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07 Mar 2021, 6:34 am

ezbzbfcg2 wrote:
r00tb33r wrote:
This subject is making me sick. :eew:

I think I remember why I decided not to participate. It's all sickening and weird, as in unnatural.


What exactly do you find so sickening?

That it's some kind of a contest or a competition, or akin to a shopping experience (I also hate shopping with intensity). A healthy relationship can't possibly be birthed this way.

I also never became comfortable with the idea of pursuing multiple romantic interests at once.



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07 Mar 2021, 6:49 am

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That it's some kind of a contest or a competition, or akin to a shopping experience. A healthy relationship can't possibly be birthed this way.

I also never became comfortable with the idea of pursuing multiple romantic interests at once.

There is a difference between not being happy about reality and flat-out rejecting it. Living life in denial mode is actually worse than the "sickness" you feel when your ideals aren't met.

This is an accurate observation of the world. I didn't invent the term "meat market," but that's very much how these dating apps are used.

As far as "pursing multiple romantic interests at once," even if you go on a date, and it's perfectly innocent, you're still "feeling out" whether you and the other person could be compatible, "have chemistry," or if there's no desire for further contact. If both parties agree that a relationship isn't worth pursuing, are you saying it's "sick" of them to go on a date with a different person the following week?



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07 Mar 2021, 7:05 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
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Soooo...

The argument that dating sites have ruined dating because they give women too many choices is false?

I mean, if most women don't use dating sites, then they can't be blamed for modern women's preferences.


There's no argument about anything, relax and stop trying to project a narrative behind everything.

The thread was just a shared link.


I asked a question. I wasn't "projecting a narrative."

I'm genuinely confused as to how dating sites are simultaneously the devil that has ruined modern women's preferences, and a service that barely any women use.


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07 Mar 2021, 9:47 am

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I'm genuinely confused as to how dating sites are simultaneously the devil that has ruined modern women's preferences, and a service that barely any women use.


And .... the award for Best Question goes to ... XFilesGeek! :P (applause!)


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07 Mar 2021, 12:42 pm

XFilesGeek wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
XFilesGeek wrote:
Soooo...

The argument that dating sites have ruined dating because they give women too many choices is false?

I mean, if most women don't use dating sites, then they can't be blamed for modern women's preferences.


There's no argument about anything, relax and stop trying to project a narrative behind everything.

The thread was just a shared link.


I asked a question. I wasn't "projecting a narrative."

I'm genuinely confused as to how dating sites are simultaneously the devil that has ruined modern women's preferences, and a service that barely any women use.


Yeah the whole point of the article is a usage breakdown by gender of dating sites, nothing more.



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07 Mar 2021, 2:08 pm

ezbzbfcg2 wrote:
r00tb33r wrote:
That it's some kind of a contest or a competition, or akin to a shopping experience. A healthy relationship can't possibly be birthed this way.

I also never became comfortable with the idea of pursuing multiple romantic interests at once.

There is a difference between not being happy about reality and flat-out rejecting it. Living life in denial mode is actually worse than the "sickness" you feel when your ideals aren't met.

This is an accurate observation of the world. I didn't invent the term "meat market," but that's very much how these dating apps are used.

Why do you equate a rejection of dating apps with a rejection of "reality"? Do you see "reality" itself as one big dating app?


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07 Mar 2021, 10:14 pm

There's no surprise, here.


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08 Mar 2021, 3:31 am

XFilesGeek wrote:
I asked a question. I wasn't "projecting a narrative."

I'm genuinely confused as to how dating sites are simultaneously the devil that has ruined modern women's preferences, and a service that barely any women use.


Seriously you are bashing us men with on point logic :lol:



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08 Mar 2021, 6:01 am

ezbzbfcg2 wrote:
r00tb33r wrote:
That it's some kind of a contest or a competition, or akin to a shopping experience. A healthy relationship can't possibly be birthed this way.

I also never became comfortable with the idea of pursuing multiple romantic interests at once.

There is a difference between not being happy about reality and flat-out rejecting it. Living life in denial mode is actually worse than the "sickness" you feel when your ideals aren't met.

This is an accurate observation of the world. I didn't invent the term "meat market," but that's very much how these dating apps are used.

As far as "pursing multiple romantic interests at once," even if you go on a date, and it's perfectly innocent, you're still "feeling out" whether you and the other person could be compatible, "have chemistry," or if there's no desire for further contact. If both parties agree that a relationship isn't worth pursuing, are you saying it's "sick" of them to go on a date with a different person the following week?

May I interpret your name as initials for:
every zorro battles zorros
before effing cont. gratefully
too

To be continued...


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08 Mar 2021, 6:13 am

r00tb33r wrote:
ezbzbfcg2 wrote:
r00tb33r wrote:
This subject is making me sick. :eew:

I think I remember why I decided not to participate. It's all sickening and weird, as in unnatural.


What exactly do you find so sickening?

That it's some kind of a contest or a competition, or akin to a shopping experience (I also hate shopping with intensity). A healthy relationship can't possibly be birthed this way.

I also never became comfortable with the idea of pursuing multiple romantic interests at once.

I suppose that could be taken as a contest or a try to see with whom might one fit better. It could be a difference in personality match even if there was just one person. the only reason why someone might stay with a mismatch would be because of fear of being alone

Some guys might still get to choose. Getting all the women lol

If a woman bestows her kindness upon 9 men, and remains with 1, 9 are lucky and unfortunate at the same time. The woman spends a lot of time, the men just a bit. But she will always be able to easily have a man. While they grow old within unstable variety. History is repeating itself upon men.

Someone like you would make a good handsome dating candidate, darling, even on dating apps.


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