Folks, don't become like this guy

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Ok, How many times does playing music actually work to win back your girlfriend?

That guy is stupid anyway, don't be stupid like him.

Sorry, but I don't view, "I'm going to make a public nuissance of myself until my ex-girlfriend agrees to come back to me," as anything other than creepy.

It's unfortunate that Hollywood glorifies stalker-ish behavior as being "romantic.

Just about every woman I know has, at some point in her life, had to deal with a man who refused to take "no" for an answer. It's usually the same men who cry about how "nice" they are despite their conduct being anything but "nice."

I know that I'd be creeped out if anybody tried to do that to me. I wouldn't punch the person out though. I'd report the incident to the cops.

But he's harming no one, if left there alone to play until he rots then where's the harm in that? It's not like he's the only street musician in the world.

This thread is making me uncomfortable.

I'm sensing the insinuation that autistic male = creepy & that we should check ourselves before going out our front door.

Later...

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"Howard's idea, according to the Bristol Post, was to create a bit of a viral media storm so that his ex - who he refused to name but called Rapunzel - would "know just how much I love her.""

Sounds to me like he was trying to put her on the spot to pressure her into coming back to him. Does it make him a creepy stalker? Not really. But it is heading into the realm of manipulation and inappropriateness, if for no other reason than by making a public spectacle of their relationship issues.

But on top of that, while it's cute when you frame it as "I'm going to perform in your honor in the hopes you'll come back to me!" - you can also see it as "If you won't date me, I'm going to make a public spectacle of myself until you do!", which doesn't sound as nice. He went out of his way to make sure people knew what he was doing and why, and that inadvertently puts pressure on the object of his affection.

It's like proposing to someone in front of a thousand people. That's a lot of people to say "no" in front of. And based on the number of people in this thread saying "aww that's so romantic!", odds are there would have been people in her life saying things to her like "but that was so sweet, you should give him another chance!" and putting pressure on her to take him back, whether they realized it or not. And by doing that, whether he meant it or not, he was putting social pressure on her to take him back. "I'm gonna do this until you take me back" sounds like a childish threat hiding behind "love". Not cool.

Even though he left her name out, it's not like there aren't people who will know him / her and see this - like any of either of their friends who knew they dated, or anyone who saw them together. There are far more discrete ways he could have gone about this, that might have been far more appropriate.

As for getting punched, could very well have just been a rando drunk who didn't want to hear piano anymore. Violence is bad, sure, but "getting punched" isn't necessarily the horror some people seem to think it is. Not sure why the article included it, other than making a boring article sound slightly less boring.

Public proposal is the most stupid idea ever, I don't know why it got so fashionable.

This trend of making everything public and show off....stupid.