Can you tell when you get hit on?

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23 Dec 2020, 7:44 am

Rexi wrote:

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League_Girl wrote:

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I think I just got hit on. My husband tells me I miss these cues so that is why he trusts me knowing I won't cheat on him. But I just got better at it now.

I can confirm
I have been trying to hit on you for 5 years.
Nothin'.

Are you serious or is this one of your jokes? Why would you hit on me when I am a married woman?

You are very autie.

Yes, it is a joke.
Most of what I say is a joke.

*I'm* a god damned joke!.

When I use the green smile, it usually means I am joking. :mrgreen:

Except when you use the red heart. That means you're turned on.

I'm pretty much never serious.

If I *am* serious, I'll take it to private mail.
Expect a PM from me soon. [joke] :mrgreen:

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23 Dec 2020, 1:37 pm

Thanks for the Birthday wishes!

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23 Dec 2020, 3:34 pm

I can tell when I'm being hit on, I used to get hit on quite a lot, still do occasionally.
I must have a 'come hither' look.

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23 Dec 2020, 5:43 pm

I have the look of a man who is perpetually in the "friendzone," but I've been a little more lucky than most who have that "look."

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23 Dec 2020, 6:53 pm

I think in my case it’s pretty obvious at a glance that I have a developmental disorder, so people don’t want to be seen as taking advantage of me and/or automatically discount me as a candidate because of that.

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23 Dec 2020, 7:22 pm

I am rubbish when it comes to woman / flirting etc.
I generally don't flirt, find it kind of distasteful or something. I don't really understand it.

Although I would say that I am not really the best looking man in the world.
Over the years, i have had some really beautiful lovely woman hit on me, but
I have turned down some of these opportunities due to my own rigid morality.

Some of the opportunities that i did not take the opportunity to take advantage of
is when I was in a long distance relationships with my crazy religious ex-wife before we were
married. But also when i was single, when I was at Uni, an absolutely beautiful young woman
bluntly asked me for sex and I turned her down because she had a boy friend who was not
at Uni.

I also had a really lovely girl ask me out at Uni, and through nerves, I turned her down too.
That also was a real blunder.

Also, when on a course for a martial art coaching qualification course, a really lovely
beautiful Spanish woman asked me out. Which i quiet stupidly invited the other guy from
my area who was on the course with.

Which she didn't think was cool and dropped us.

So yep. Not that it happens that much these days.
Although i also think that we as ASD people also miss out on opportunities to hit on potential mates too.
Its like we are logic robots who don't have any skill in this area. Not very good at getting what we want.

Sad for us. really. Although perhaps in some ways a protection mechanism.
Like Taoism. the way of no way, success in non popularity.

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23 Dec 2020, 9:08 pm

Sounds like you’re not as bad-looking as you think you are.

I’m not terrible-looking—and that of stuff has never happened to me.

Except when I was 15, and this Hispanic girl got aggressive because she thought I was smart.

Never as an adult.

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23 Dec 2020, 11:09 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:

Then I gotta wonder why lot of men don't hit on me or why I dont have hundreds of horny fans on my pages. My husband thinks if I would show my face and my body more.

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23 Dec 2020, 11:42 pm

madbutnotmad wrote:

I am rubbish when it comes to woman / flirting etc.
I generally don't flirt, find it kind of distasteful or something. I don't really understand it.

Well, I enjoy flirting, as you can tell.

It is a pleasant distraction and and interesting way to learn about a person.
For me, flirting is a entertaining psychological game.

The "trick" is to "know when to hold them, know when to fold them, know hen to walk away, and know when to run." :mrgreen:

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Although I would say that I am not really the best looking man in the world.
Over the years, i have had some really beautiful lovely woman hit on me, but
I have turned down some of these opportunities due to my own rigid morality.

Some of the opportunities that i did not take the opportunity to take advantage of
is when I was in a long distance relationships with my crazy religious ex-wife before we were
married. But also when i was single, when I was at Uni, an absolutely beautiful young woman
bluntly asked me for sex and I turned her down because she had a boy friend who was not
at Uni.

I also had a really lovely girl ask me out at Uni, and through nerves, I turned her down too.
That also was a real blunder.

Also, when on a course for a martial art coaching qualification course, a really lovely
beautiful Spanish woman asked me out. Which i quiet stupidly invited the other guy from
my area who was on the course with.

Which she didn't think was cool and dropped us.

Kay sera, sera...

madbutnotmad wrote:

So yep. Not that it happens that much these days.
Although i also think that we as ASD people also miss out on opportunities to hit on potential mates too.
Its like we are logic robots who don't have any skill in this area. Not very good at getting what we want.

I was hit on, when I was around 34, by a woman who was way outside my league, on a number of levels.
I reasoned that I had nothing to offer her, so I didn't take up the invitation.
I was still suffering from a breakup at the time.
In hindsight, it was the right thing to do, and I have no regrets.
I was a total mess.

But look on the bright side: "Life's a biatch, and then you die."
The misery eventually ends, for us all. :mrgreen:

madbutnotmad wrote:

Sad for us. really. Although perhaps in some ways a protection mechanism.
Like Taoism. the way of no way, success in non popularity.

Life is an abomination.
Once I'm out of here, I ain't coming back, trust me on that.

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23 Dec 2020, 11:44 pm

madbutnotmad wrote:

I

Some of the opportunities that i did not take the opportunity to take advantage of
is when I was in a long distance relationships with my crazy religious ex-wife before we were
married. But also when i was single, when I was at Uni, an absolutely beautiful young woman
bluntly asked me for sex and I turned her down because she had a boy friend who was not
at Uni.

I also had a really lovely girl ask me out at Uni, and through nerves, I turned her down too.
That also was a real blunder.

Also, when on a course for a martial art coaching qualification course, a really lovely
beautiful Spanish woman asked me out. Which i quiet stupidly invited the other guy from
my area who was on the course with.

Which she didn't think was cool and dropped us.
.

The probability of an attractive girl asking a man out is so rare that you should have videotaped it for posterity so that future generations can watch in awe.

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23 Dec 2020, 11:46 pm

League_Girl wrote:

kraftiekortie wrote:

Then I gotta wonder why lot of men don't hit on me or why I dont have hundreds of horny fans on my pages. My husband thinks if I would show my face and my body more.

You keep on advertising your website but don't give any details.
I gather it is a soft porn thing?

Yeah, the face is important.

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23 Dec 2020, 11:56 pm

Raleigh wrote:

I can tell when I'm being hit on, I used to get hit on quite a lot, still do occasionally.
I must have a 'come hither' look.

Is that avatar a selfie?
If so, it is understandable why you get hit on.

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23 Dec 2020, 11:57 pm

Pepe wrote:

Raleigh wrote:

I can tell when I'm being hit on, I used to get hit on quite a lot, still do occasionally.
I must have a 'come hither' look.

Is that avatar a selfie?
If so, it is understandable why you get hit on.

Girls love a man in a hoodie?

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24 Dec 2020, 12:11 am

cyberdad wrote:

Pepe wrote:

Raleigh wrote:

I can tell when I'm being hit on, I used to get hit on quite a lot, still do occasionally.
I must have a 'come hither' look.

Is that avatar a selfie?
If so, it is understandable why you get hit on.

Girls love a man in a hoodie?

Hoodies are sexy

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24 Dec 2020, 12:12 am

that1weirdgrrrl wrote:

cyberdad wrote:

Pepe wrote:

Raleigh wrote:

I can tell when I'm being hit on, I used to get hit on quite a lot, still do occasionally.
I must have a 'come hither' look.

Is that avatar a selfie?
If so, it is understandable why you get hit on.

Girls love a man in a hoodie?

Hoodies are sexy

Well if I only knew that 30 years ago :lol:

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24 Dec 2020, 3:49 am

cyberdad wrote:

Pepe wrote:

Raleigh wrote:

I can tell when I'm being hit on, I used to get hit on quite a lot, still do occasionally.
I must have a 'come hither' look.

Is that avatar a selfie?
If so, it is understandable why you get hit on.

Girls love a man in a hoodie?

That is why I haven't been circumcised.

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