How do women view me?

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I've tried approaching women many times. I have never not gotten rejected.

I don't think there is any single answer here.

I've known quite a few people who probably sort into the same kinds of boxes that you do (pattern of easy friendships but few romantic relationships) and the reasons, and results, can vary quite a bit.

Most of the time the person is non-threatening, easy to talk to, shares interests, and attractive enough to feel pleasant around, but not so attractive to inspire immediate lust.

I have seen some turn into long term, serious relationships. And I've seen others go through life in an unending pattern of rinse and repeat.

Let's start with this: I'm from the school of "never date someone you work with," as I believe most women are, so relationships with coworkers are to alwasy be assumed to be purely platonic. For people who follow that rule, co-workers are, from day one, non-threatening because they are off-limits as long as you work together. Too many of your examples involved women you worked with, and that likely has a huge effect on the equation. Don't even consider the possibility of attraction and dating until one of you has left the job.

After that, my guess is that the difference comes from the following factors:
1. Whether or not the starting page is equal, or at least honest. From the standpoint of expectations, but also of attractiveness and ease to be around.
2. From there, sheer luck seems to turn the equation: you met the person with whom attraction for both of you grows as you get to know each other.
3. Finally, someone took the initiative: ultimately, when number 2 happens, someone will have to say it. From what I've heard, it is usually approached from the angle of being clear that keeping the friendship is the priority, but you are wondering if they have ever considered if there could be something more there. I do believe it has to be a conversation, and not a move. I can't think of any successful relationships that came from a "friend" making a move (they may exist, I just don't know of them).

I say don't give up, but also don't try to force things that aren't there. When it comes to friendships with women who are not co-workers, do better at encouraging communication about goals and feelings, because that will also make it more natural to discuss changes in feelings if they arise.

One thing to consider is that sometimes our subconscious creates the life we secretly want for the moment, instead of the one we consciously think we want. Relationships are intense with a lot of give and take; your subconscious may be uncomfortable with the idea, and prefer the ease of female companionship that doesn't involve so many emotions and expectations. Of course, the best romantic relationships are also "easy," so having mutual attraction develop in a fun, easy and light situation can be very convenient.

I wish you the best of luck.

Work is the only way I've met anyone in the past ten years. Eliminate women I meet through work as an option, and there is literally nobody left.

Also, this pattern was just as consistent back when I was in college and meeting women there.

Its all academic by this point anyway. Its too late for me to find anyone now. I can no longer relate to women my age because of the disparity in life experiences. They've all been through so many relationships, including marriages and divorces, and have been raising kids that are now old enough to be graduating from high school. Besides, I'm not even attracted to women my own age anymore. Every women I have been attracted to in the past several years has been at least a decade younger than me.

I would say they probably view you in a superior way to how you think they view you. I will give you a few tips to get a girlfriend
1 Don't be too nice
2 Don't be too available
3 If you spend too much time with someone and you havent made your move they will think you are just friends. Maybe she said you were friends to see how you reacted. I had a girl who said we were friends but I told her she was gorgeous etc and that soon changed.

They will play the games, you don't need to understand them but be ready for them.

I've never engaged online in a way that led to making friends and meeting offline, let alone hooking up or dating.