I am not allowed to date or talk to women romantically

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the American federal government due to the program I am on....its because I can only have a certain low amount of money in the bank account at all times.I have to spend my money because the U.S. Federal Gov requires me to.The Feds dont allow me to save money.

^ And because of this you can't have your own account, with your name on the documents?
I don't see any connection.

Right my parents have to manage my bank account due to government policy on this program.Having my own bank account would not help me save for an apartment or anything because I am forbidden to save money by the Federal Government because I am on that program from the government and I am pretty much stuck on that program.Its because I can only have a very small amount of money to my name at all times and my parents get the checks and i dont and they have forbidden me from using that money on dating sites.

Living in a different country, I totally don't get the idea of this program. It looks like designed to keep poor people poor and dependent people dependent
Anyway, the question was, is there any formal reason for you to have a "guardian" like that? Logically, you can manage your account within the requirements of this program yourself, without your parents involved.

Maybe some well-informed US citizen could help with resolving this.

I'm not recommending OP does this unless they get violent towards him, but if my parents where the same, I would have given them an absolute pasting they would never forget with the leather belt and buckle treatment and all.

Your parents are just empty vessels to get your own financial way with and nothing more. Once you get what you need from them cut them off and tell anyone who asks why you never visit your parents they died in a house fire or something.

It's the same in the UK. Once savings get above a certain threshold it makes someone in receipt of benefits no longer eligible for them. I believe the limit here might be 16k.

this whole situation has pretty much made me lose all hope and maybe I will just have to accept this as my lot in life until my mom and dad die.

That's not a good idea. That's actually a very bad idea.

What's the limit for your savings? With actual numbers we could think of something.

And, was there any formal reason for your account to be controlled by your mother? You didn't answer it.

Maybe you should contact some social workers for help?

I think this sounds like a smart idea. I do not trust the parents in this situation. This feels like manipulation and abuse. An outside perspective and proper guidance may help the OP find a safer/better life.

The limit is a not enough for anything like a nice used car or a house or apartment.I dont know the reason.Its just been a really long time.Social workers wont help me because we live in such as a low-service state for the disabled.Maybe I should just be content that i will be dirt poor until my parents die.

SSI has a $2k savings limit. It looks like SSDI doesn't have a limit. They're two separate programs based on when one gets benefits in relation to how much (or how little) one has worked (ish). That's the extent of my knowledge on them.

I am on SSDI disablity but for some reason its not working as advertised for me in relations to the savings limitations.

$2k? But that's useless for any independence or safety! A minor unexpected repair can cost more!

Try to find some social workers anyway. There are various NGOs. And, again - can't there be only your name on the documents? Even when living physically with your parents, you should control what's yours. No other way to learn adult living.

Well at my house the rule is their house their rules so they control all property and assets in the property.I am not even allowed to use my debit card very much or order things online from Amazon.

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You talk about respecting your parents due to religious requirements, but are your parents actually being good Christians? This isn't a matter of them just treating you unfairly; this feels like abuse. I urge you to seek out counsel from a social worker/case manager or even look for local resources. There are likely some housing support options available for you out there.

Not sure if these resources might prove helpful:
https://www.autismhousingnetwork.org/housing/
https://autisticadvocacy.org/book/accessing-hcbs/

Well my church requires me to obey my parents and respect them and i could get kicked out if i seeked counsel for a lawsuit for my advocacy.I dont want to be homeless or live in section 8 or lose my inheritance because if i get written out of the will I am really up a creek for the rest of my life.And another reason why i dont want to live in a autism housing situation is because I may not be able to find a good church community and it could be more unsafe than here because of various reasons.The social workers in the area wont help us.We have been trying for years.