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It doesn't matter, the gap between me and the first child would be too big, when the child becomes 10 I will be 49, when he/she is 20 I will be almost 60. Not only I would lack the energy to raise him/her well and sharing all the activities but I would also curse him/her with an old parent that, in a third world country, will have to look after while they're still very young.

It would be so selfish to bring someone to life at this age. Darkseid is right, it's too late.

And that's ok Ettina, you don't have to be super positive all the time, one has to accept some failures in life.

Walk down any street near Central Park in NYC, or the paths of Central Park itself, and you will see many gray-haired people pushing strollers, and sometimes even running with strollers.

I had much more energy when I was 49 than when I was 29. I was sickly when I was in my 20s. I had a consistently high pulse rate in the 90s then. I became healthy when I hit my 30s.

The hill (to my subway station) that I walk up when I am 60 now, is much easier to walk up than when I walked up that same hill when I was 29. In case anyone wants to Google Map it, it's the hill after about 127th Street and Union Turnpike going west towards Queens Boulevard. It's not that bad of a hill---but it was very tiring when I was 29---trust me.

Humans’ health and stamina usually worsen with age.

Maybe you were fat in 20s.

I wasn't fat throughout most of my 20s. I only gained weight in my early 30s. I was about 130 lbs at age 21. Maybe about 150-160 by age 30. Then I went up to the upper 180s by the time I was 32. Then I lost about 45 pounds at age 33, in 1994. Then I ran marathons in 1995, 1996, and 1997, staying in the 140s all through that time.

At 60, I'm not running as fast as I did in the 1990s----but I can still do an 11-minute mile for at least 5 miles without getting out of breath.

Until I lost all the weight in 1994, I could barely run a mile. And I could barely run a mile in my 20s, when I was at normal weight.

Yes. I did. And every time I was refused on the basis of "I like you as a friend."



I know women who I have friendzoned by for over a decade, and that never changed. And nobody who has friendzoned has been interested in having sex with me in any situation, including friends with benefits.



You don't know those women are the children's mother. They could be their grandmothers, aunts, caregivers, etc.

You had to be there, Dorkseid. That’s all I could say.

I know a woman who had twins at age 55.

Age is just a number. 60 is the new 40. Just take a look at life expectancy, people who are in their late 30s - early 40s today can easily live well into their 100s, be functional until the last moment. We have much more understanding and knowledge at this point, there are tons of research studies in open access. If you put effort into learning about health and apply what you have learned, you can improve both your life span and your life quality. What you are doing by giving up at this point is self-fulfilling prophecy.

None of that means anything. I'm not into women 40+. I'm just not attracted to them. It doesn't matter if they can still get pregnant or have high sex drives or whatever; I'm not interested. Growing old together with someone is different than getting together with someone when she's already over 40. If a woman could have twins at 55 then great for her, but that doesn't make me attracted to her. Never being with anyone under 40 is as terrifying to me as never being with anyone at all.

Maybe you'll change your mind once you actually do get together with someone. That's all I can say.

I feel like you haven't experienced how "young" an older woman can be. And how "old" a younger woman can be.

What I do know is that all the women in attracted to are younger, and none of the women my age appeal to me at all.