Mr_Winston wrote:
Given our fickle and shallow modern society in which we live, if most Aspies were good looking then the majority of us would have no trouble at all finding a relationship...
Looks-wise, we're no different to anybody else. One persons beautiful is another persons ugly.
Fickleness is based more with personality, not so much looks.
Aspies have problems with relationships because many NTs are screwed up, don't know what they want, are disloyal, dishonest, and make a stupid game of something as serious as deep human connection.
A lot of NT relationships are falling apart all around me because people are stupid and don't know what they want, or they're just stupid-stupid.
NT girls are fickle because they're stupid.
NT guys are fickle because they're stupid.
I'm not saying that all NTs are stupid, but many of them are.
Aspies are superior in both intellect, and the art of relationships.
The only reason why aspies have problems with relationships, is because we are logical, rational, pragmatic people. Our clear-cut, logical and emotional reasoing does not compute with the irrationalities and inconsistencies and blatant randomness of NT emotions.
Many NTs are cowards when it comes to relationships and they will not state their clear desires or intentions.
Many NTs cannot man up (or woman up) to say: "Thank you very much, but I am not interested."
They hide behind hints and lies that only other NTs can "
kind of" read.
Aspies communicate much better than NTs through blatant honesty, which many NTs find offensive or disturbing.
The only reason why we struggle with relationships is because we are too intelligent to "dumb relationships down" to the level of the NT. Our symptom of aspergers is such that we do not have the ability to be stupid in a relationship. We do not have the ability to be disloyal. We do not have the ability to play games.
Asperger's Syndrome? I THINK NOT!
We have Asperger's Ability!