Guys to overprotective of there girlfriends?

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I think that some people think bars, pubs and clubs are exclusive pick up places. I don't think they are for most people.

I think Jamesy gets confused sometimes and thinks that because people go to these places to socialise that they are place where you also make friends.

They are places where already established friends or boyfriends and girlfriends go out to have a good time. It's not where most people go to actually make friends.

As for men being protective over their gf's, I think some would be. It depends on the relationship. Some women would be more than capable of looking after herself in this situation and some women would also take offence to a man thinking that he has the right to protect her.

Also Jamesy, you need to be careful for your own safety when approaching people in this way. And I don't just mean in case a man decides to start on you. I mean someone could also see your vulnerability some day.

There are some very savvy women out there as I am sure you're already aware.

Stop accusing Jamesy. I already asked him if he interacted with this particular woman beyond eye contact (which autistics indeed struggle with) and he said no. He literally done nothing more.

As you dug up already, Jamesy could do with moderating his time better in bars but for this interaction he didn't actually do anything serious.

Just give it a rest.

I only frequent bars once or twice a week

Sorry Jamesy I was going off your op with my response. I did look at the whole thread.


I've been in physical fights in pubs when I was younger for over doing it with the old eye contact. I've learnt to regulate in as I've got older.

Is even going out once a week to much?

I don't think it is.

I'm wondering if there is a book somewhere about how to conduct yourself as a single man out on the town.

It would be a good book for anyone to be fair.

Once a week is also not bad at all.

One of my friends goes to the bar every day and drinks pint after pint of stella. He's got autism as well.

If i drank pint after pint of stella every day I'd be too cross eyed to make any kind of eye contact at all.

I'm not saying that as a possible solution BTW.

I'm a 5% minimum guy myself. If I'm gonna drink I make it count. I need to keep in mind I have to drive home so only a pitiful single pint it is.

Grabbing myself a pack of four on the way home makes me cross eyed at home though.

Looking at how often OP goes to the pub, he could do better but so, so, so many people go far more often. I just can't really say you have an issue with amount you drink Jamesy. Once or twice a week just seems.......modest.

Bars just aren’t good places to meet people if you are autistic.

I gave up going to bars 40 years ago.

f**k, autism is so bad.

Then talk to guys maybe they will be gatekeeper

my husband is very overprotective of me but thats because he knows im autistic and cant recognise others intentions very well so he thinks i might be led astray or something

i suppose its good i have a man like that to look out for me

It’s probably best just to avoid bars.

I don’t think that women “need protecting” but bars are not exactly known for being safe spaces.