Ever "dated" anyone from this site?

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Well, something else though, I kinda take it back to a point in the sense that if you really meet someone's who's on point with you in every way its probably pretty easy to know what you have; in my own experience that's seemed impossibly rare though. I've also met a great deal of people, including women who I've dated, that where the way they project themselves online vs. who they are IRL doesn't line up - not in a way that they're lying but I think there ends up being certain topical grounds not covered that just expose themselves over time and eventually its pretty clear to me that something got lost in the translation.

The other thing that probably has me more jammed in that position than other people, even when I do meet someone who I like and who likes me - where we're also mutually physically attracted to eachother, even IRL, I've noticed how things can fall apart just because we have a lot of nonverbal static that seems to eat up what we want to accomplish and leaves us both confused. That's what scares me about talking to someone who's hundreds or even thousands of miles away and getting to the point of taking out money for a plane ticket, us meeting - I'd feel shallow to find out I'm not interested or don't think things would work out IRL and I don't want to do that damage to people. That's why I'd far rather be a friend to someone get to know them, even meet them on that basis, just because there's no harm and no foul and I worry more about them being hurt than them hurting me; I tend to be pretty hard on myself about that kind of thing partly because the biggest factors of dissonance that I seem to have with people are more about feng shue and flow nonverbally, kinetically, and just like I think I can meet someone who I think would be great for me and vice a versa online but find out otherwise I could just as often meet someone where I would have judged it as a bad idea in text but everything is there and they're even that elevated by who I am once all factors are collected that the friction isn't there anymore - we're pretty much flying in parallel (well, I haven't had the last thing happen specifically but there's so many things I have seen that have pointed in that direction pretty solidly).

I haven't dated anyone on this site or any Aspie site for that matter. I have went a couple of dates recently with someone from a online game I played, but it isn't serious at all. I would be open to making friends with some people and possibly dating someone from this site (can't eliminate it from possibility). Really don't post that much here though, compared to some other sites I visit more frequently. If I was more comfortable here I probably would be more likely to PM people and try to form friendships like I have on other forums in the past.

Renaeden and GA are good people. Very cool that they found each other on this site.

Dating is just hanging out with someone kind of like you would with a friend, but there is romantic interest involved. I go bowling with my cousin for the hell of it, but when I do that with a female I am attracted to at a set time and date.... it is a date. We agree ahead of time to meet up somewhere and do an activity that we agree will be enjoyable for both of us hopefully (well that is what I try to plan if I am the person suggesting said activity). Whether that is seeing a movie we both want to see, or playing video games at an arcade, it is a date if we plan ahead of time and both have somewhat of an interest in eachother beyond friendship.

I would imagine that the biggest issue in dating someone from WP or any other AS site is that it might necessitate a long-distance relationship. But then again, if two people get along very well, distance won't matter, because there will be a way for the two to be face-to-face if they put in enough effort.

Tim