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nick007
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16 Aug 2024, 6:56 pm
nick007 wrote:
The women in my extended family must be really weird then because a lot of em first met their boyfriends in public situations. ie both sitting next to each other on a plane ride for business trips, shopping at the same grocery store, or got to talking with someone at a festival. They had very social jobs as well.
I sat next to a woman on a 10hr plane trip from Asia. I was single back then and could not believe my luck, she was a 10 out 10 drop dead gorgeous. I didn't realistically fancy my chances but (as creepy as it sounds) she was my captive audience for 10hrs! I struck up a conversation and weird thing was she was not only a microbiologist she even studied and was in my same class back in Melbourne! despite having that in common, she was very careful not to lead me on and kept dropping her boyfriend's name in conversation. She also wasn't that keen to talk (in the era before mobile phones and laptops she pulled out a novel so she could pretend to be busy).
Weirdly (Like an episode of the Manifest) this happened to me a 2nd time a year later, I sat next to another attractive female microbiologist on a plane (but she was from New Zealand). the 2nd one was actually single but she kept ending every conversation we had with "It's so wonderful making new friends, it's just a pity we will never see each other again"
16 Aug 2024, 7:02 pm
JustDifferent wrote:
Men who just walk up to you on the street out of nowhere are creepy, though. As women, we are not stupid. We know it is 100% based on looks and I really want to be able to walk the streets without being treated as prey. I think a lot of men don't realize that women are instinctively defensive outside. We are always alert, especially for men. Men we don't know can be very intimidating if they approach us when we are outside all alone. That's why I would first try to earn a woman's trust. Once a woman puts you in the "creepy" category, it's done.
We men get the message
I think this has been repeated here several times by several posters. Of course there will always be the red-pill men and those who are extroverts who think this is still ok. I teach my daughter several ways to evade male attention on public transport but fortunately she's a total tom-boy so doesn't attract too much male attention except when she wears shorts in warmer weather.
16 Aug 2024, 7:07 pm
cyberdad wrote:
JustDifferent wrote:
Men who just walk up to you on the street out of nowhere are creepy, though. As women, we are not stupid. We know it is 100% based on looks and I really want to be able to walk the streets without being treated as prey. I think a lot of men don't realize that women are instinctively defensive outside. We are always alert, especially for men. Men we don't know can be very intimidating if they approach us when we are outside all alone. That's why I would first try to earn a woman's trust. Once a woman puts you in the "creepy" category, it's done.
We men get the message
I think this has been repeated here several times by several posters.It’s been repeated because many fail to get the message. New members could (and do) benefit from it as well.
16 Aug 2024, 7:12 pm
cyberdad wrote:
JustDifferent wrote:
Men who just walk up to you on the street out of nowhere are creepy, though. As women, we are not stupid. We know it is 100% based on looks and I really want to be able to walk the streets without being treated as prey. I think a lot of men don't realize that women are instinctively defensive outside. We are always alert, especially for men. Men we don't know can be very intimidating if they approach us when we are outside all alone. That's why I would first try to earn a woman's trust. Once a woman puts you in the "creepy" category, it's done.
We men get the message
I think this has been repeated here several times by several posters. Of course there will always be the red-pill men and those who are extroverts who think this is still ok. I teach my daughter several ways to evade male attention on public transport but fortunately she's a total tom-boy so doesn't attract too much male attention except when she wears shorts in warmer weather.It's not your daughter's job to "evade" attention or change what she wears so she won't be considered prey. It's everyone's job to teach their sons not to treat girls and women as flesh candy, and to be legally / morally accountable for the times when they do.
16 Aug 2024, 7:14 pm
TwilightPrincess wrote:
cyberdad wrote:
JustDifferent wrote:
Men who just walk up to you on the street out of nowhere are creepy, though. As women, we are not stupid. We know it is 100% based on looks and I really want to be able to walk the streets without being treated as prey. I think a lot of men don't realize that women are instinctively defensive outside. We are always alert, especially for men. Men we don't know can be very intimidating if they approach us when we are outside all alone. That's why I would first try to earn a woman's trust. Once a woman puts you in the "creepy" category, it's done.
We men get the message
I think this has been repeated here several times by several posters.It’s been repeated because many fail to get the message. New members could (and do) benefit from it as well.
I'm wondering if there should be a sticky thread on guidelines including sending unsolicited messages to female members on WP? isn't that creepy too?
16 Aug 2024, 7:16 pm
IsabellaLinton wrote:
cyberdad wrote:
JustDifferent wrote:
Men who just walk up to you on the street out of nowhere are creepy, though. As women, we are not stupid. We know it is 100% based on looks and I really want to be able to walk the streets without being treated as prey. I think a lot of men don't realize that women are instinctively defensive outside. We are always alert, especially for men. Men we don't know can be very intimidating if they approach us when we are outside all alone. That's why I would first try to earn a woman's trust. Once a woman puts you in the "creepy" category, it's done.
We men get the message
I think this has been repeated here several times by several posters. Of course there will always be the red-pill men and those who are extroverts who think this is still ok. I teach my daughter several ways to evade male attention on public transport but fortunately she's a total tom-boy so doesn't attract too much male attention except when she wears shorts in warmer weather.It's not your daughter's job to "evade" attention or change what she wears so she won't be considered prey. It's everyone's job to teach their sons not to treat girls and women as flesh candy, and to be legally / morally accountable for the times when they do.
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16 Aug 2024, 7:52 pm
cyberdad wrote:
JustDifferent wrote:
Men who just walk up to you on the street out of nowhere are creepy, though. As women, we are not stupid. We know it is 100% based on looks and I really want to be able to walk the streets without being treated as prey. I think a lot of men don't realize that women are instinctively defensive outside. We are always alert, especially for men. Men we don't know can be very intimidating if they approach us when we are outside all alone. That's why I would first try to earn a woman's trust. Once a woman puts you in the "creepy" category, it's done.
We men get the message
I think this has been repeated here several times by several posters. Of course there will always be the red-pill men and those who are extroverts who think this is still ok. I teach my daughter several ways to evade male attention on public transport but fortunately she's a total tom-boy so doesn't attract too much male attention except when she wears shorts in warmer weather.Don't you see how problematic your post is? You're not an ally, as you're claiming in another post. This is very sexist.
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