Advantages of being single

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ah, that's sweet Yameretzu

Yeah I can also think of one for the advantages of being single, your heart cant be broken.

I think the biggest reason for this thread is that most of us are in a place where we look arround us for years and years, high and low, and realize there is no one who's right for us (or at least they're so rare and distant that the odds of us meeting em or them not being married is almost negligable). When your comming at it from that angle, unless you really lay down the realities for yourself and keep yourself away from hope you're putting yourself in the path of a lot more hurt, a lot more depression, a lot more really hard moodswings, and it can just about steal a persons control, self-assurance, and pretty much destroy em. I'm probably not telling you anything you don't already know and odds are being aspie you probably have enough experience with this that you know what I'm saying. I guess the best we can really do is strengthen ourselves in our most likely positions of where fate will lead us - yeah, I used to never believe that things were beyond my control but more and more I'm realizing society thinks that much in lockstep, is that homogenous, and that def to us that at least in my own case I don't think anything will bring a change. Not my fault, I really don't even know that its theirs, it's just how things are and all I can do is try to make myself more comfortable with the thought of going solo for the next 50+ years.

I am in a relationship at the moment. I don't want to think about being alone.

Cool! Good luck with it

Good luck with it, thats a good one, I'm not making fun it's just were having a 'break' at the moment. I still see him though.

All my freshman friends have been "boy-hunting" and looking to get themselves in a big relationship. I think this is time-consuming to the max, let alone the time consumed in an actual relationship. I personally love being single as it is. I keep telling myself to worry about that kind of stuff later on in my life, and to just look into the peep hole before answering the door to a new relationship.

Doesn't really work for me but I like being single because:

A) I don't have to care about anyone else but myself....
B) I don't have to care about anything else but myself....
C) I don't care about anything else but myself.

I think I see a pattern here.

I'm not quite sure about that one...

I've been single for all but 3 seconds of my life (and I only consider that a technicality, not really a girlfriend), and just about every waking moment of my life is nothing but heartbreak. Everytime I meet someone new, within a day of knowing them (usually within a few minutes), I get the treatment of "My boyfriend works over at ________" or "My boyfriend just got a new ________", etc., points that are just insinuations that they HAVE a boyfriend and are therefore ineligible. (I guess I should just count my blessings in that I even pick up on said insinuations...) The other thing that happens is just flat-out rejection, which while easier to determine, definitly feels much worse than some random insinuation, although I get over it quicker... Either way, it is definitely possible for a single person to experience heartbreak (and much more likely to feel like a failure if said person is like me and never had a real relationship to begin with...)

Wow. Must've had an INTERESTING childhood.

This is a cool thread! Please don't ruin it with advantages of being in a relationship .
the main advantages are my freedom, i can do whatever i want without critics or insults from a woman. A relationship is only good for the time that you two are having a good time. In most relationships there comes much time of struggle and pain (should i refer to the divorce rate), (i wonder if you add all the advantages and disadvantages if a relationship would be advantagous or disadvantagous) and you know marriage is expensive, but a divorce is even more expensive (at least, from what i've heard). I am sure that i never will encounter the struggle of a divorce if i stay single . If i stay single i'll never have kids (and kids are very expensive too, you can buy lots of hobby stuff if you dont have kids), this can look like a disadvantage, but i'm convinced that the world is already overpopulated, and if i have a wife, we will probably decide to have kids like everyone. The kids will probably have AS and that makes sure that i'll have a hard time in raising them, the struggle will even be much harder if i know that i didn't had to make kids, and that it would even be better for our mother earth (but anyway, i dont have a very big footprint, i reuse everything possible (a creative mind always finds a way)).
And i have the impression that girls tend to insult you to hurt you if you dont do what they want you to do, if someone does that to me, i never speak to her/him again, its that simple, i dont care much about what people say, but more about intentions, i can feel bad intentions (irl, not over the internet), and that makes me run like i'm followed by the devil himself .
Another reason is that i know that i am not what most girls look for, i'm not a "winner" although i probably have more accomplished than most NT's, the problem is that i dont act like i'm a "winner". Most NT's tend to act like they are "winners" if they accomplish something even if its futile, there is a good reason for, because the reality is not very important, a more important thing is the way you make people see the reality. Anyway girls dont like loners like me (even if i have a lot of talents, am smart, very handy, some girls said me that i'm cute), they cant be proud of me in their group of friends because i dont ACT like a "winner", and downwards goes her social status. So if 'im not able to make a girl happy, i rather be single. I dont have opportunities for a girlfriend anyway so i dont have to bother with rejecting the other gender. I myself showed interest in a particular girl in a descent way for 4 times in my life i think, without reaction of course. I'm not going to beg on my naked knees for a girl to have a relationship with me, it looks stupid to me, but its a good way i saw, especially africains use this technique by glorifying the woman, so she'll feel very special and almighty, most girls dont see that h's just lying and he will subdue her in latter life, when she's hooked. Damn this post is to long.

You cannot apply logic to the pain of being lonely. Sure we can think of a thousand other reasons, but what is the point of it if your life means nothing to you.

I always think how my life would be so happy if I didn’t need anyone. Unlike NTs I don’t have any real class, status wealth envy, except the need to have these things find someone. I wouldn’t need anything more then what I already have to be happy.

This is a another proof that mother nature is stronger then all logic. This is also one of the reasons why we are human not Vulcan. I am almost curtain that a race Vulcans could never exist, Clingons maybe but not Vulcans.

11. She won't notice comment on your wierdness and strange aspie qualities.

I'll give you sex/affection, just understand that we are not in a relationship ok?

Nah I phrased that wrong. (and made it sound backwards from what I wanted to say)

To clarify: "Every second of my life (except for 3 seconds), I have been single."