Any tips for online dating sites?

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Glad to see the old thread back. I grow tired of people asking the same threads every few months.

Moved to a new area and started doing the online dating again, and I have to say, it's gotten a little more difficult since I last did it seriously 4 years ago. There seem to be fewer new members and a lower response rate. Several women I met off there and later befriended say the same thing. The appeal of online adventures and high hopes have waned, and internet dating sites are more widely seen as havens for the bored and lonely.

Online dating isn't dead though. The same main rule applies as before, and that rule is to be active. Write a lot of emails, respond timely, set dates, exchange contact info asap, etc... Online dating is not an easy alternative to IRL and will require the same effort (unless you're a woman looking for a quick fling, then you'll be hounded like a drop of blood in a shark tank). I guess what I'm trying to say is that it's easy to get lost and forgotten in a sea of profiles, so the faster you can turn an online relationship into an IRL one, the better.

Yup. That's how society works. Granted, I've sent messages out to guys too because I like talking to people. Half of the messages in my inbox were started by me, the other half were started by the gent. The one where I got the date was from one when the guy started it first.

The_Face_of_Boo - But if all men boycott it, how will the desperate girls get any male attention from those sites?

I am addressing to the men on this board....

Okay!

yea, they're terrible ,no?

Awwwwwww, I'm sure they're nice people who can find someone someday. I just don't know if some online dating sites would serve them justice or not. >.>

I'm not terrible! I am pure frickin evil!

Sound advice actually. Guys outnumber girls on those sites by a wide margin. I went on sexsearch.com one time and put in that I was a girl and then again as a guy. Basically, on that site, guys outnumbered girls about 500 to one. Its not that bad on conventional sites, more like 4-10 to one. Its not hard to figure it out.

I did actually get a date on a dating site and it was a date from hell. It lasted about an hour. The rest of the girls I've gone out with I met in person.

PS- Isn't the correct spelling "Face of Beau"? AKA Captain Jack.

I think the best advice I can give about dating sites is to NOT rely or expect to meet anyone good on them. I've been using lots of dating sites for over five years. I think most dating sites S#CK for dating. I do not understand why dating sites are so popular considering how few people reply. The pay sites are scams & most of the messages people get on the free sites are from scammetrs. Most people are probably better off trying to meet people offline true friends, family, work, school ect instead of using dating sites. I still use dating sites but I am NOT expecting to find someone off em. I still use a couple cuz of forums & stuff & cuz I have nothing else going on so I have time.

Don't. It's a half-a**ed approach all around, and you get what you put in. Time and energy could be much better spent. I peruse them once in a while then remember why I stopped trying to use them. It seemed to accentuate the superficial aspect of meeting someone to me.