Would you date an NT?

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Yeah, you're not funny, Malcolm. JK you're alright.

Malcolm,
Vetivert is laughting at you, me, and SINsister all at once.

actually, i was laughing at something completely random. possibly. or was i? who knows? but it's great that you're all trying to read my mind - i feel all warm and luuuuuuuurved up, now.

Ya know, the thing is (for me, anyway) that the issue in question isn't even an option - it's a utterly moot point. In "real life", the only guys - NT or otherwise - who take any notice of me are CREEPS. Granted, some of them are kind creeps...like the random 50-something-year-old guy at the local pub last night who gave me some silly punk rock rubber bracelets he'd had lying around in his car and had no use for anymore...but I digress.

although the opinions expressed on this thread state that people would not distinguish between a non-AS person and and AS person when it comes to a relationship it kind of distresses me to read that some would dismiss a relationship simply because the person does not have the same 'condition' if that is the correct term ( i do not mean to upset anybody here )

As has been stated in the thread a person is still a person whether they have AS or not and AS - NT relationships do work as long as the people understand each other.


Baby

For some of us who have trouble taking care of ourselves, I would think that having an AS partner would help only if that AS partner were higher functioning. I could just picture it now:

Me: Did you pay the electric bill?
Her: No, did you?
Me: No.
Her: Ok. (Goes back to what she was doing)

I know this my sound stupid, But could someone please tell me what a NT is?

I'll say it like this - I would only date an NT on this term; if I was really that 1 in a million and did that much for her just by being me that I was still worth it to her - regardless of the smack people would talk to her about dating a guy who's 'different', regardless of the smack her friends would talk to her, and regardless of what her family would think of her.

That's one of the reasons why I really have a hard time passing over NT women - I know that my disability, even if it's pretty mild, invalidates me. I could technically be a good partner, I could technically be a good provider, I could technically be a good protector or even parent, but technically is as far as it goes. As far as conforming enough to the norms, thinking the way someone is supposed to, being what a guy is supposed to be interest and lifestyle wise, having the stereotypically proper guy personality (in all the good and bad ways), I have none of that.

I may have my good points but it really seems like in the end that conformity is God and that unless she's a pretty far outside the box who's enough of an introvert that she just wants piece, rest, and doesn't care if her boyfriend or husband doesn't visually or gesturally come of as a legitimate adult, any other girl who wants anything traditional would be miserable with me (and again, thats compounding with what her friends would have to say about it). IMO to be a proper adult, to be an appropriate match for anyone, and to be in a relationship, in my own case and regardless of my social skill level, I would really have to cure myself of AS because it really seems like no matter how many people may like what I have to offer on the work aquaintence or platonic level I get some real quick and sharp responses when I test the waters in other ways, something to the nonverbal effect of "Hey....back off. Yeah, you're a nice guy and your intelligent but your also an invalid and second-class citizen. Know your place". I'm really thinking more and more that the majority of this really boils down to natural eugenics pushed by base instinct and of course it really seems like pettiness is one of those things in society that really seems to serve the natural selection process just because no ammount of personal success really seems to clear someone of it who's been marked.

If an NT did really wanna be with me I'd really wanna take it slow, take the time to have her get to know me as much as I knew her, and make sure she not only knew exactly what she was getting into but that it's still what she wanted.