I want an aspie girl like the one in Americas NTM to find me

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I guess you are right. Even if I find a girl who meets all the ideal features I'm looking for, and even if she likes me, there is no guarantee there will be a meaningful connection between the two of us. My mistake was to assume that such a connection would naturally follow after finding and being found by the "ideal" girl. The moral of the story? There is a new criteria my ideal girl must have: "being able to help establish a meaningful connection between the two of us."

I'm fat and beautiful.

I guess it comes down to what kind of communication you need.

Personally, I am looking for something a little more meaningful than the mindless drivel that most nt's seem to thrive on.

You're talking to the completely wrong person about this then.

When people describe me they mostly use comments like "How could a guy so good looking be such a nerd?" or more frequently "He is just eye candy; but beyond that he is nothing else."

It is true that good looks are 100% useless if your personality doesn't match the way you look. And you cannot fully understand this until people will just stare at you and then start laughing at you 10 minutes later.

I guess I just judge everything how I perceive it though.

And you see how you got into an argument with yourself about not being an idiot? I think you are slightly narcissistic. My reasoning is that I am also narcissistic to some some extent.

Are you serious or being sarcastic ? Why a gorgeous model like heather would even look at you ? Are you rich? Do you look like a male model?
I do not think so.

wake up

Then be a successful aspie, my man.
Thoughts of pain are all delusional - immerse yourself in the world of risks... you can be a successful aspie... and I don't neccesarilly mean in the work world but as a guy getting girls and that.

lol

When I was good looking, I received a healthy amount of attention from women, and more than one time I heard some of the girls who had already approached me tell girls who hadn't approached me not to bother with me.



When that happens, don't you wish women had never approached you/stared at you? If you ever get tired of being humiliated by women, become ugly. Women rarely pay attention to ugly men (which means they won't bother laughing at you).

Yeah you are asking too much. Maybe you could go look for her and ask her to date/marry you, I think that plan would have a higher chance of success.

I agree with Brian003 that good looks are not very useful to a male if he doesn't have the social skills to back them up. You could take an ugly guy with great social skills and a very good looking guy with none, and the bad looking guy will probably get tons of girls because he knows what to do. Men are supposed to "persue the woman," so a girl may think, "hey that guy is sexy" and maybe give him a glance and smile, but if the guy doesn't know how to approach her/talk to her right, he won't get a date. Then you could have a guy who just walks up to her and is much less good looking, but is a slick talker, and he will talk her into bed that night. It's guys who are good looking AND have good social skills that can really get any woman they want.

or you could act like a jerk, which doesn't require a lot of social skills. (they say women like jerks)

Who are they, and what have they done with my socks?

I find social encounters with aspies incredibly intriguing... I mean if I can relate to one, it's like sizing up for me you know like them dinosaur creatures do... the ones nicknamed headbangers... can't remember their real name.

Hey although I can't speak for Mysticaria, as someone with numerous piercings myself I do realize that i think of them more as part of my body than as something seperate.
Also its generally something thats personal on some level for the person.
Also theres a difference between constructive criticism and what you did. Constructive criticism would have been being somewhat tactful and just getting your point accross, not preaching, just stateing your opinion and maybe makeing a helpful suggestion or two in a non-conflict oriented manner.

You pretty much went out and cut her down for no damn reason with your comments. Which were put forth in a rather snide and dickish way, so at least understand how people can react harshly or defensively to that kind of thing, cause it is kind of mean whether you meant it that way or not.


As for Mysticaria, I rather enjoyed your picture things. Your a verry pretty girl and if I weren't currently with someone I cared deeply about....and if you didn't live in canada lol, i think I or any guy would be lucky to come accross a counter culture alt-pinup beauty such as yourself.

Model Mayhem? I'd never heard of this. Your pics look good, though the avatar of one of your mm friends immediately disturbed me..



Agh!

Well, she does have a point.

But still, the way you respond DOES make it seem to me like you are narcissistic.

If that is rude/mean then it is only because it is the way that I have interpreted your writing. It isn't anything personal.

I was rereading this thread and noticed that I never replied to Pugly's latest comment. Before I address Pugly's comment, I'd like to say wow!, my way of thinking has changed quite drastically during the past month. Basically, Pugly, I want to be with a woman who will accept me for who I am. I want to be with a woman who will appreciate my quirks and my aspieness. I want to be with a woman who will share my feelings and my way of thinking. I want to identify with her dreams, goals, ambitions and offer her a level of empathy noone has offered her before. I want her to feel like I am the only person in the world who understands her. I want her to be herself in spite of whatever flaws she might have. I want an emotional connection between the two of us. Isn't that what love is about?