AS or NT: Which do you guys prefer?

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Yeah, and they'll probably never stop because they're too slow to realize that if its like that they're trying to get a need fulfilled that only they can do for themselves. Like relying on someone else to make you 'whole' or feel complete, someone else can help to a point but its unlikely and very much above and beyond to think that someone else will have the answers to your existence right along with all the rest (of course then again if your wise enough to not do that you can easily fall off the other end of being unattractively cerebral, its really a lose-lose so you have to figure out where your self-esteem rests at and which route you'd be the least incontent with).

I judge people on a case-by-case basis, not by generalizations.

ehh... cutting off EVERYONE who isn't explicity liberal is really cutting yourself off from a lot of people. Me, I personally don't care what any potential girlfriend would think politically, as long as she knows the truth: George Bush has the intelligence of an amoeba, and Dick Cheney is the antichrist. Other than that, left-right political leanings don't bother me too much (or, rather, they bother me equally...)

The only other thing is that anyone who pisses on my country's constitution should be deported.

I've never met an aspie girl in person, so my answer would have to be NA. Given the genetic risk of LFA, I think with an aspie I wouldn't have biological children.

Still no leads?

Nah.

Tim

Have you ever considered that, some day, you might get tired of South Park, or that South Park might be taken off the air?

Here's another thing too which I think keeps life complex in this area, no matter what sort of social mold someone might seem to meet on the surface you can never really be sure. I've met all kinds in my life and its amazing how some of the most unlikely's can really surprise you.

I would be interested in AS/AS relationships...
No idea and in no position to state what I'd prefer.

But they do say opposites attract... I guess to an extent that's somewhat true... I nearly got with someone with a different type of strength in character to me who's NT. lol nearly.

She doesn't seem happy.

I'm going to have to side with Tim on this. Being with someone who shares your struggles in life is more likely to understand you and accept you than someone who is different than you. That's just a simple fact of human nature, because it's instinctive to fear what you do not understand. That's the plight of Aspies (espicially us males) living in an NT world. However if you happen to come across a tolerant NT woman (like the one I'm dating), then it should work just as well. The most important thing for me, as well as many of you guys I suspect, is acceptance, and I think there's a better chance of being accepted by an Aspie woman than an NT woman.

Ragtime also made a good point. NT women play a lot of games, and it gets so annoying after a while trying to read her mind. When I'm with an NT, I always find myself wondering if there’s anything wrong that she's not telling me about for whatever reason.

I'm not saying that an AS/AS relationship is without its flaws. There are fewer of them diagnosed than males obviously, 4:1 being the most optimistic ratio that I've heard so far. I've also found that the Aspie women that I've met so far fall into one of two categories. There are the one's that are really sweet, kind, open, and adorable, like jess162k7 (love ya girl!), and then there are the one's that are really moody and depressed that never return my calls or seem very friendly at all. I've only met like six of them so far, so I'm not trying to pose any theories here, but I thought I would share that observation from my experiences with them with you guys who have never met any Aspie girls yet.

It all boils down to acceptance and compatibility really. So you might have to settle for one of those "normal people” if you can't catch that beautiful Aspie flower,

I think in the event that an aspie does end up with an NT its one of a few things - either he's like her or she's like him in ways that are much closer to the point than where the whole AS/NT line sets it (ie. very much the same in the ways that aren't AS/NT governed) or on the other hand the NT partner just sees something in their AS characteristics or they themselves that makes them very interested or curious, and most importantly they'd have a great deal of respect for their AS partner as I'd hope they're AS partner would have for them.

I know how you feel on this. If I'm around an NT alot (for whatever reason), I just tell them to be honest with me, even if it's something like "I think you suck". I would rather get an honest answer than a sugar-coated one. Nevertheless, people still try to deceive me.

I am very woman and very aspie, maybe I should say autistic. I LOVE the way AS men make me feel!! ! I am not talking about how I feel in bed with an AS man. Before you even get there (in bed), which I totally understand men need sex...and it should be given to them without playing any games, like hard to get, that's so NT and disrespectful...so before getting to have sex with someone, a woman needs to have a certain feeling of being ready. I think that AS women, or at least me, need a lot of mental stimulation (and it's not coming from talking, it's something else, even the quietness of an AS man I take as mental stimulation). The same strange way that stimulant drugs quiet the minds of people with ADD, that are already stimulated to extreme. I can quiet my mind (that is always in overdrive, even when I sleep, it seems), quiet the mind to be able to be with someone close, physically, without getting a sensory overload (I don't know if you people get those a lot, but I do). A brilliant mind and a very deep soul (that I noticed in AS people), plus an extra feeling I get from AS men, just turns me on so bad. The geeker the better. But AS men should be careful about the messages that they give. Some of them are so unpleasant (like acting grumpy) that even an AS woman can "get" it. I understand that you don't want to be touched all over your body or...any other thing that puts you in sensory overload, for example, or you get nervous at certain things (movements, smells, talking loud etc.), but explain the person you're with what is it that bothers you. I think that a lot of áspies don't even know they are autistic and they just don't have the chance to see that the things that make their lives miserable are correctable or at least logical and they can work at correcting it. I don't mean to insult anyone, I am just talking about my experiences. Nobody can get into somebody's mind and it is so much better to say what bothers you, so I don't do it. Blah, blah, blah, sorry for the rambling. What was the question anyway? What do women preffer? AS or NT?

I say AS men rule!

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I would use much more descriptive language, but I am a foreigner and I should keep my mouth shut out of respect for the country that adopted me.

There's nothing to respect about America's current leadership... other than how low they can set the bar. That's the great thing about America. You can make fun of/hate the leaders all you want without fear of repression (as long as it's just words, without any action taken on those words), and you can still respect the country...

And seriously, the world needs more people like you...

Thank you!

I thought a little about your post and while I am not a coward, I AM actually afraid of repression (now my Citizenship is being one year delayed...for some strange reason that seems to be that I divorced my abusive American husband...and I don't need any more "reasons" like cursing Bush & Co.), I lived thru terrible repression in Communist Romania and it was a reason why I left, along with acceptable rapes, starvation, black-mail to work for the government etc. I am more afraid to say bad stuff about the "Puppet" because if you say something like that to regular American people, they can literally BLOW in your face and as an autistic, that's just like they put a spark on my open gas tank. I don't like confrontations, because I get out of control. And of course, I get really nauseated by stupidity and injustice, I am not being arrogant, I mean it. How can someone that calls themselves human (with an intelligence) can like Bush and all the criminals behind him? Eight years with Bush were like going back to cave man times for me. I wondered sometimes if it would have been better getting raped physically in Romania than getting raped spiritually here...Anyway, I am getting hot here and it's not the right kind...

Thank you!