Ever thought about becoming a homosexual?

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I have a feeling that, with a strong enough desire and an openness to change, I could become anything I wanted. Maybe I could become straight if I wanted, given enough time and silly reasons to change my mind. I just don't really care to be something I'm not.

I've had homosexual comments veered toward me when I was on the swim team(No one was homosexual, they just liked to make jokes) and I've been in some very strange situations in which a guy would make a funny move toward me(Like he was hitting on me).

And you know what, I DIDN'T IN ANY WAY LIKE THAT. I don't like it when other males hit on me; so my answer is a dead no.

But that doesn't mean that I am not open-minded about the whole thing....people should be able to like whoever they want to like. Just don't hit on me!

But responding to the topic- Mw99 I seriously suggest the brick theory I posted before .

I am in agreement with the vast majority of the gay community that homosexuality is something that one is born with.

However, frustration with romantic relationships in the past has made me wish that I could be bisexual, because if meeting a person who I can really connect with -- i.e. someone who I think really understands me -- is so extremely rare, it would be nice to not immediately cut my options in half because of an arbitrary genetic preference for women.

There's no science to conclusively prove that homosexuality is or isn't something you're born with.

There are arguments for either side.

However with that said, I would lean more towards thinking that one is born with it, but being someone who wasn't able to make up their mind when I was younger, I wouldn't say it's as clear cut as either side of the theory claims.

I'm 100% straight, but it took me a few years to be sure of it, so there's definitely a grey area.

Bisexual, yes. Homosexual, never. I really do like women, and if I was bisexual I'd far, far prefer women over men.

Absolutly not, I am hetero, I want to someday have a wife.

Its not a choice, its nature, nature selected me to be strait.

i was born indecisive

it's friday.... it's a gay day today

I think I mentioned this to an alter ego somewhere, but now I'm not so sure if it actually was.

You're old enough to be my mother (I would guess your age to be more or less double mine, give or take a couple of years). Think about that.

And I always knew where you're "coming from". Anything else you would like me to clarify?

I agree with this. I think that I could easily be classified as straight, bi, or gay depending on where I let my thoughts wander over an extended period of time.

Just recently I was contemplating exploring my homosexual feelings, but honestly, I don't see the point. I have some homosexual fantasies that I think would be a lot of fun to live out, and I would probably gain some confidence from the experience - you know, pushing the limits of your human experience and all of that - but in the end, I think it's a dead end for me. All I've ever wanted is "true love" with a woman. I could never see myself marrying/forming a domestic partnership (hahaha) with a guy, so I don't see the point in opening up a whole new floodgate of sexual desires. My heterosexual desires are more than enough to distract me as it is.

It'd probably make it easier to enter a relationship where I live if I was bi. But it's not a choice.

yea I have. Women are too much of a pain to deal with, no offence ladies, so if I could never bother with them again I would. So I considered men an option, then after honestly considering it I realized it wouldn't work. I dont find men sexually appealing. Plus, the idea of giving and especially receiving anal does not appeal to me

So yea I've considered it, but I'm completely straight. Now if only I could find a woman that doesn't turn every sentence into a cryptic message of intent

What it is that makes us gay, whether it's social influence or being born with it isn't the point, or at least certainly wasn't mine.

The point is, it is not a conscious choice that one makes.

You guys have talked about wishing you were gay, or considering it, or getting passing feelings. This is not you making the decision to be gay.

Homosexuality isn't a choice, just like heterosexuality isn't. You didn't hit puberty and think 'yes, I think I'll go for guys/chicks since that's what everyone else is doing.'

judging by the fact in a society where homosexuality is viewed as ok most of the people go for both genders, I believe most people are bisexual. Then merely choose to exclude one gender. Often the same gender but I'm sure there are people that for one reason or another feel they should be gay. That only a few are truely hetrosexual or bisexual.

granted thats just my personal theory

I was once told that we all start out bisexual and then differentiate at puberty in order to facilitate reproduction. I'm not sure where it comes from, but it seems reasonable. Children are exploring their sexuality much earlier than we usually realize. But to call them bisexual is probably a stretch. They seem to be born indifferent, not knowing about sexuality, and curious about themselves and others.

How this affects sexual development and what it might have to say about how we end up with our various orientations, I have no idea. I suspect that we all have a predisposition towards a certain orientation (usually heterosexual) but also some freedom to explore and change.

I don't think we're born bisexual. I think we're born asexual. All the more reason for me to think Freud's an idiot.

Homosexuality is a choice - a very important choice - the choice to be oneself.

At least that's how I see it.

The emphasis on choice is, to me, very important. It emphasizes responsibility. It is my active choice to pursue what I find myself attracted too, whether that be the cute girl who works at the corner store or my interest in Memento Mori/Hair-work Jewelery, honestly and with integrity.

It is also my choice to be open with those who are different whether they be gay, straight, aspie or neurouotypical.

I could choose the opposite but denial makes me grumpy and no good ever came from that.

Make a choice, make a difference!