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13 Jan 2008, 3:19 am

Rob_Somebody wrote:

I don't know i end up pulling some really hot girls in my opinion... but they all end being crazy, cheaters, liars, dumb, users, or all of the above.

So i would agree no girl is out of your league, the hard part is introducing yourself to their life.

ditto

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13 Jan 2008, 6:56 am

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Try and drown her.

Treat 'em mean, keeps 'em keen?

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13 Jan 2008, 9:09 am

Women of great beauty are out of your league; they have plenty of men at the ready where to choose from, and unless you are at the top of the pile, you are out of luck.

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13 Jan 2008, 11:33 am

Mw99 wrote:

Women of great beauty are out of your league; they have plenty of men at the ready where to choose from, and unless you are at the top of the pile, you are out of luck.

Pretty much. Most people, sadly care about leagues, so most girls won't date a guy if they're beyond his league. As for more ordinary girls, it's all about social skills - which in my case means that all girls with a pulse are beyond my league.

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13 Jan 2008, 1:09 pm

Mark198423 wrote:

It's all in the title really!

How do you tell if a girls too attractive for you? Any advice/ideas?

Compare her to other girls in the room. Go for a medium-attractive one. The hottest girls seem to be the most messed up anyways.

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13 Jan 2008, 1:22 pm

Here's another thing too, the adult world can turn your grips on this awry just by who you do and don't surround yourself with (generally once you kinda have your friends and such you tend not to feel like you have much choice in the matter).

As of now I think the best thing I can say is just gauge how someone reacts to you. Two different people could be in two completely different mindsets when they meet you, maybe have two totally different outlooks on life. Not that I've ever really been lost on that fact, just that again the realities of who you surround yourself with can really chip away at you if you forget about it.

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13 Jan 2008, 2:07 pm

Space wrote:

Mark198423 wrote:

It's all in the title really!

How do you tell if a girls too attractive for you? Any advice/ideas?

Compare her to other girls in the room. Go for a medium-attractive one. The hottest girls seem to be the most messed up anyways.

Very attractive girls almost never have what I would call good personalities - they are used to having to fend men off with a stick, and so they become either frivolous and spoiled, or resentful at being seen as a piece of meat, or manipulators, or become extremely aggressive and dominant (intelligent blondes, in my experience, usually belong to the last type, or are a blend of the 1st and last types). To some extent it's not their fault, but it's not mine either. Of course, some of the ugly ones are delusional, or bitter, etc (the good ones are the ones that have decided 'screw society, they're not my conscience'), so in terms of personality your best bet probably are unremarkable-looking girls.

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13 Jan 2008, 2:38 pm

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Just ask the girl out and see if she says yes, for God's sake.

X2. Yer a monkey not a monkey! Risk aversion if you're wondering whether you should change lanes five feet off another car's rear end in heavy traffic at 80mph is good, you have a lot to loose. Risk aversion when asking someone single out? Fahgetaboutit! *insert you know which corporate logo here*

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13 Jan 2008, 2:47 pm

pbcoll wrote:

Mw99 wrote:

Women of great beauty are out of your league; they have plenty of men at the ready where to choose from, and unless you are at the top of the pile, you are out of luck.

Someone is on top of the pile. You really can't know that it won't be you.

Question for Space and pbcoll (or anybody who wants to answer):

When you say "hot" or "attractive", I'm getting the impression that what you mean is a girl who is very "with it", all dolled up. Are you just unable to recognize the same sorts of girls (who have equally nice bodies and attractive faces) without trendy clothing, hairstyles, and makeup? Are the adornments that important, that it makes other girls with the same body type only "medium attractive" if they don't dress that way? Or are you saying that you think that all girls with pretty faces and nice bodies are out of your grasp, regardless of how the girl is dressed or what social circle (or lack thereof) she is in?

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13 Jan 2008, 2:50 pm

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Yer a monkey not a monkey!

Sorry for the double post, but I just read this article. Thanks for posting it. It helped explain something I've been feeling recently.

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13 Jan 2008, 2:55 pm

gwenevyn wrote:

Question for Space and pbcoll (or anybody who wants to answer):

When you say "hot" or "attractive", I'm getting the impression that what you mean is a girl who is very "with it", all dolled up.

When I say 'hot girl' I can mean any type that is attractive to me. That can be someone from pretty much any social circle and widely varying dress sense. They definately couldn't be placed in the same box and not all would be attractive to others I know.

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13 Jan 2008, 3:05 pm

Mark198423 wrote:

gwenevyn wrote:

Question for Space and pbcoll (or anybody who wants to answer):

When you say "hot" or "attractive", I'm getting the impression that what you mean is a girl who is very "with it", all dolled up.

When I say 'hot girl' I can mean any type that is attractive to me. That can be someone from pretty much any social circle and widely varying dress sense. They deffinately couldn't be placed in the same box and not all would be attractive to others I know.

That's cool. I can understand that because I've always felt that way about guys, too.

It seems like some of the others have more of a standardized concept of attractiveness though. Like when they talk about "really attractive" and "medium attractive" girls, it seems like we're supposed to know what they're talking about. A lot of people talk that way, not just here. I'm curious about how that works.

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13 Jan 2008, 3:11 pm

Damn those NTs and their methods of implicit standardization!

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13 Jan 2008, 4:03 pm

gwenevyn wrote:

It seems like some of the others have more of a standardized concept of attractiveness though. Like when they talk about "really attractive" and "medium attractive" girls, it seems like we're supposed to know what they're talking about. A lot of people talk that way, not just here. I'm curious about how that works.

I can understand having different levels of attraction. I find some girls more attractive than others that I may still be attracted too. This is individuals though, not types.

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13 Jan 2008, 4:12 pm

Pretty much if you can find someone who you really feel at home with, things glide smoothly, and your both dedicated to making them glide smoothly - as long as the physical attraction is there enough to stay there (which definitely doesn't take a model) that's much more valuable than having someone who's not like that. At that point, the quality of what you have between you means way more than another potential prospect's looks. Quality relationships are priceless.

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