Do You Seem Gay?

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People have thought that I was gay on more then one occasion, but I’m straight. I just have a lot of odd mannerisms and an androgynous personality. When I was a little kid I use to play with boys and girls. I even played with My Little Ponnies and Barbie dolls; as well as cars and army men. My parents didn’t force any stereotypes on me.

After Junior High most all of my friends have been girls, with the exception of my cousin Tyler who is probably my best friend. I don’t trust other guys, and girls often times have a lot more to offer then most guys do.

I am bisexual.Alot of people at my school thought I was a lesbian and for the wrong reasons,too.And get this:this PANSEXUAL girl thought that I was a lesbian jus because I liked to play with long hair.-sighs-

-SpaceCase

Pansexual? Oh, you mean bisexual?

I'm STRAIGHT and I like to play with long hair! it's fun to do, damnit! I haven't done it in FOREVER but if a long-haired friend asked me to briad their hair, I'd have fun doing it!

Yeah, I kinda wonder if that has any relation to parasexual, quasisexual, pseudosexual - nah, I looked it up, I think pansexual seems to be used as a term for transgender.

I'm straight, and very obviously so. All the time a little "ooh, he's hot" comment will slip out so it's pretty clear. I've been called gay though, but only because I'm in GSA, but that's prob. something different entirely...

PANSEXUAL One who seas no difference in gender when it comes to the look for the "one" (sorta like bisexual)

*bites nomaken (lovingly)*

one aspie acquaintance of mine (i know from personal experience that he was 100% straight) said that he always kept his hair as short as he could because, on the few occasions he had allowed it to grow, people told him he looked like a girl.

at school people teased me for seeming gay but on the gay-scene people have assumed that i'm straight. so it just seems to be the in-crowd's way of letting me know that i'm unwelcome.

Yes. I've always been tomboyish and never had a boyfriend so I'm sure I get mistaken for gay all the time, but at my school everyone's too polite to say anything to my face.

PANSEXUAL is like when you open the kitchen cupboard and... woah baby! *drool*

You mix with that many gay people?

From what I've seen and heard, judgementalism and bigotry are almost second nature to many gay people. Not the usual bigotries (eg racism, fascism, etc), rather the 'body perfect' fiction (which is also beginning to infiltrate mainstream society), socio-economic indicators, etc.

For my part, I did get problems about alleged 'effeminacy' when I was younger, often picked on quite mercilessly, though where the real harm was done has been in adult life, since many jobs have been ruined and made miserable through this misapprehension on the part of my work colleagues.

We often hear from some people about how the pro-gay messages in the mass media are dominating things (and to some extent, I think they probably are (it seems to be a kind of 'official position' on the part of governments and 'opinion formers' to present it as being as legitimate as heterosexuality)), but there is a lot of very tangible and very real hatred towards it in the general public, even when it is presumed erroneously that someone is gay.

There again, it could just be a useful 'stick' with which to beat someone. They know I'm odd, but they can't figure out exactly why I am 'different'.

With me at least the gay guys I've worked with have had a wide variance. About a year and a half ago we had this guy who was kind of an uptight cocheese who'd pick the flycrap out of pepper with people' work, was a manager in training in training (double-rookie), and acted every bit the part.

On the other hand we've got two guys at work right now, one's in a metal band (from what I hear kind of like Mudvein or Helmet) who doesn't seem the part at all and who's really cool to talk to. The other guy has probably the best personality IMO if not clost to it of all the guys that I work with right now - good attitude, has things in perspective, very well adjusted.

I think the hardest thing for a gay guy with AS would be to find gay guys who aren't stuck up because they themselves would most likely be hanging on the very fringes of the scene, probably not want contact with the mainstream crowd for the same reasons cited already, and probably would be tough to meet, much in the same way it's tough for two shy or alternative straight people to meet (well, there is stuff like EHarmony but still, those processes still feel a little too wierd and unnatual for a lot of people).

For the record, (again) I'm queer. Back in the early ninties I checked out the whole club scene as aa part of the coming out process. What I got from the club scene is that it's really not that much differant than highschool, only in the club scene, the people are older, more liable to be drunk, and more liable to be under the influence or addicted to drugs. However, the same childish cliquishness is there. --It's very much a ghetto mentality.



Judgementalism and bigotry are very much second nature to humanity as a whole I believe. Gay people have plenty of the usual bigotries as well. However you are talking about the whole quest for "The Body Perfect". That's not so much a 'Gay Thing' as it is an 'Insecurity Thing', coupled with a 'Having a lot of Money Thing'. A lot of people seem to have an insecurity with the aging process, and will go to great and expensive lengths to minimise it. Notice how most of the people who are having the body augmentation/plastic surgury are older, as well as fairly rich. If I was rich enough, and into the whole club scene, as well as having an IQ about 20 points lower I would probably consider it too.

However, I am none of the above, and I am fairly shocked that not only has Silicone based Life been found to inhabit the universe, but that they are amongst us! Seriously though, I don't think that anybody has done any serious research into the long term effects of Collagen/Botox injections, or Silicone implants. What are the people who are getting them now going to look like 20-30 years from now?
Ever see the movie Brazil? Seen any pictures of Micheal Jackson from the past couple of years? Heh, heh



I don't know where you live, but the US Government government, (or at least the Executive and Legislative branches) are dead opposed to homosexuality being as 'legitimate' as heterosexuality. I also live in South Carolina, which before I moved here hastily scrambled to pass rulings that marriage is between one man and one woman, and that gay unions/marriages that were performed out of state would in the eyes of the State of South Carolina be considered Null and Void.

As far as the media (Much as I dislike them, I admit their position is correct) portraying homosexuality as just as 'legitimate' as heterosexuality, good for them. --At least they're correct in one small area.

people make assumptions about me because I hate wearing dresses and I work in a male dominated profession. but Im straight despite what they think!

Like your avatar. "Where the Wild Things Are" was a favorite book of mine as a child too.

If I seem gay, eh?

Only when people confuse 'being openminded' with it.

I can't say I really care, when people call me gay (where I come from it's actually very common to call someone gay, trying to provoke him or her in a sort of 'not actually offending' way) though.