I think I'm the only one on here who actually has a BF/GF

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That was rather unnecessary. Please refrain from using that language towards a teenager


To be honest about the post I'm sorry I saw no problem with it. I believe too many people read into it honestly I think a bigger problem is all the negativity. In this portion it should be about questions relating to love and dating and more commonly it’s a place for some people to whine as to why they do not have a girlfriend. Personally I don't mind people asking how to get the reaction they want but too many just say "I'm (insert diagnosis here) and can't get a girlfriend." Any attempts at giving advice are met with "no that won't work" "no you’re not listening to me" etc etc... I hope rather naively that this will change in the future.

Why?

Don't do that again.

Whatever people has been saying about the title being insensitive, this post has some merit.

Of course there's many who's not involved with somebody, but many people on this forum makes it out to be worse than it is. Alot of Aspies has bfs/gfs. I have and it isn't easy, but it isn't easy for the NT either. Realising I have Aspergers has made my life much easier. I know my limits and I can warn others. I can tell them what's going on. And if my bf respects me he'll try to understand. Being NT he can't understand of course. But even NT/NT relations isn't all rosy. Aspie people are more aware off the fact that relationships takes har work.

Hey, it's no real problem for me . Sure, when I saw the title I was a little put off, but I was more keen on looking at what you had to say and wanted to happily respond "Nope, you're wrong on that one . I have a boyfriend too, and he has Aspergers just like me! " When I saw your post, I understood that you were just enjoying the fact of having a new relationship and all and I thought your mistake was kind of cute, I can see myself saying that at your age.

I don't blame the other readers for their reactions. Some of us tend to take things quite literally , but as long as we sort out our misunderstandings, it should be fine. As for those who have made the more hostile remarks: I get where you're comig from, but give her a break.

By the way, this is off topic, but can someone tell me what "OP" stands for?

I gots two boyfriends...both pretty spectrumy...

it's like a weird form of romantic socialism.

There's probably something like 100 times as many people here who have boyfriends as there are people here who have girlfriends.

girls just don't know what they are missing

I am still a strict monogamist.

I used to be.

You sure aren't, in fact im about to go cuddle mine right now. and I met him on here too.

i have a girlfriend, been with her 8 months, she has mild OCD

a lot of the girls have partners
most of the guys don't, I don't but I am not concerned really
love is stupid and here is the wrong place to find someone IMO

I'm happy for anyone who can get and maintain a relationship in this day and age, be they NT, AS, schizophrenic, whatever. I know it's wrong to generalize, but it does seem in this day and age that the notion of a proper, meaningful relationship, is becoming obsolete. In this I mean being in a mutually caring relationship, not the parasitic ones where people are only together for what they can get out of their partner, be it money, gifts, an ego-boost.

So, good on anyone who's in a proper relationship, for whoever you're with, whether you're a monogamist or a consenting polygamist, and however long it lasts.

What is considered a proper, meaningful relationship?

Currently single but I've had three past relationships.