Disasterous Internet Relationships

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When feelings between people of the opposite or same sex escalate online, they will start talking to each other on the phone, send presents, and if they feel ready, they'll save up some money in order to meet each other in real-life.

Yup; that's pretty much exactly how it worked between me and Nortala. Only with IRC rather than phone because it costs a lot of money to phone the other side of the world every day......

I went on a date with a friend from messenger, we seemingly knew each other well enough online and they only lived an hour away. So we met, had a strange kind of tour of a nearby town and said goodbye. About a week later they told me they were so happy because they had a new partner that was also an online friend. I got the feeling that they had went out with me as a kind of litmus test to see which one they would choose. No surprises there. Although, they did stop talking to me after that.

Well the ratio of male to females with aspergers syndrome is about 3:1, but many say women are less likely than me to be diagonsed, I doubt 99% of Aspie are voluntarily or involuntarily celibate, it is a far higher percentage than in the NT population, but not that high.



Being HFA, I knew I had autism since I was 12 and I felt for a long time, I should not date let alone have a serious relationship, because I was Autistic and regarded myself as mentally disabled. I thought like you living asexually was the right thing for me.

That kind of thinking was why I had virtually no self esteem about myself and my abilities for a long time. I've only realised in spite of my HFA, I am a pretty attractive guy would make a great lover and husband to a woman. I am good looking, I'm a kind and sweet, I am getting a university education and will be able to get a job as an accountant. I am a better guy than some guys who are in relationships.

Yeah, but unlike you I have never even completed junior high properly and I will never get out of a town with no single women over 19 and where people see me as a ret*d.
I don't see why Aspie boys should be taught "normal" social skills and be tricked into believing they could get a normal social life or a girlfriend. I believe they risk to much trying to be social or to try dating.

It's a spectrum, both within the AS as to the particular expressions we each have, and also in terms of intensity. Some folks are able to interact in a fairy normal way. Or they fake it; whatever works for each person. I don't neccessarily like talking to people but I can do it.

As to the original question... um I'll vote and get back...

edit: other. Never have been, never really thought about it, but have recently been wondering if it would work.

Eh, never been too interested in an online relationship. I almost tried it once, but... it kinda creeped me out. :/

If I'm gonna have a relationship, I'd rather I met them offline first.