connection between aspergers and asexuality?

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Y'know, i don't think as many people are asexual as they think, they may just have a lower sex drive. Some people have lower or higher sex drives than other people...how do you know how low or high your sex drive is if you've only ever been you?

My libido is definitely very high.

I define "asexual" has not having an interest in genital contact with another human being for the purpose of arousal. See asexuality (dot) org on the www for this perspective.

I have never even dreamt while asleep of having sex which makes me think the condition is real. I believe asexuality does exist and it's not that rare.

Interesting Story: When I was 12, I went through a physically normal puberty, but the fantasies never came. From everything I had heard, I expected that I would "wake up" one day and feel aroused by the opposite sex (or at least the same sex). It never happened. On the advice of a therapist, I had about 15 sessions with a sex surrogate therapist to try to develop my libido (I even met personally with Dr. Master's of Master's and Johnson)! Though the desire for genital sex remained very weak, I get aroused by several paraphilias (fetishes for harmless objects) which are symbolic to my psyche and keep my life interesting. (though in the past I was very ashamed of them).

It has not kept me from having a committed relationship (though not always easy). I’ve been in one now for 8 years -- just without sex.

I do think it's connected to Asperger's, maybe because Aspie's are interested in "parts of things.” Thus we may be attracted to an item associated with the person, but not the person.

Well, this is my first post, and I hope I haven’t said to much. As a newly self-diagnosed Aspie, I am honest, sometimes to a fault. And I tend to share too much and not save something for a follow-up share, but I'm still learning.

I'm not completely asexual myself, but I have very little interest in sex. I don't like the messiness of it and I think that is connected to my AS.

I'm not sure about aspie men but as an aspie woman, I find men still find me sexually attractive.

Don't think there's any correlation at all, although there has been a lot of claims on these boards of asexuality. I believe a lot of those are fake claims made by those who don't want to admit they want what they can't have. Like when a parent takes a toy away from a misbehaving kid and the kid says "I didn't want it anyway".

I don't understand why people have trouble believing that a condition they don't experience (i.e. asexuality) might still exist.

I don't like eating hamburgers, and I have trouble believing that most people do like eating them. But I accept it on an intellectual level from watching people eat hamburgers that people like them.

Now, to use the previous post's reasoning, it follows that I really do like eating hamburgers, but " I say I don't like hamburgers, because I don't think I can get them."

Why can't it just be that I don't like eating them and they don't do anything for me? I'm "a-hamburg-al".

Why do a lot of members here want relationships I'm under the impression that lots of Aspies have problems finding relationship partners yet lots of Apsies are still interested for relationships. If we didn't want what we couldn't have; we would not be interested in relationships as well. For the record I've had chances to have sex but turned em down cuz I didn't want & I think lots of other aseexuals have as well from what I've heard on asexual sites.

I'm thinking about all kinds of perverted stuff all day long but like many Aspies I don't get any. Maybe that's why I think about all the time.

Nice assumption a little too straight forward, but I don't think you can put a blanket over it and call it a day.

I've been laid, had girlfriends, break ups, friends with benefits.

But that's all in the past, that's not me. I have lost interest in sex, all of it and it doesn't bother me one bit. Been celibate for going on a year.

I'm not a bad looking guy, not conceded, just saying no need to hide. I just don't want to be a part of it. It's so refreshing and empowering when you realize you don't need it, but hey I must be hiding, right?

I have made a decision,and its just the way I want it. How many people can admit that?

For what it's worth, I made a poll in the adult section on this subject.

http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt142127.html

My feeling is that aspergy people have a tendency to be asexual, or super sexual.

I am not asexual. I have desires, but I've never been in a relationship. Maybe I just have a very low sex drive.

I am a 28 y.o total virgin, no kisses, nothing.

I thought I may have been asexual for a while, but when I found out I was AS, I figure it was more to do with my social retarded-ness, and involuntary celibacy (no woman will touch me with a ten foot pole).

I am massively behind where my peers are at, sexually. Others my age are getting married by now. I can't possibly catch up with them. I have never been in a relationship, and women at my age will see that as a warning sign. 'Is he just asexual, gay, a creep, or what'?

To those of you who make rude and judgemental comments asexuality does exist and it is an orientation like being straight or gay we just don't feel it. If you are interested that is great we aren't please check out www.asexuality.org it will help you to understand better. All aspies like all people are different but as others have said more of us are asexual although some aspies are sex crazy too just accept we are all different and we know how we feel or don't feel.

I'm not asexual as Ive always had a strong sex drive. But there was a time when I was younger when the thought of being close to someone or in a relationship seemed alien to me. The thought of it was too disturbing and just plain distant. LIke thinking about death in the far future.. Just something I wasnt capable of seriously pursuing. I'm sure there were women who believed I was asexual during that time.

I have some interest in trying out sex but thats all it isn't an emotional or like i need it now kind of thing for me when I was a teen and the girls were going on about relationships and sex etc it was just so foreign to me like apparently being asexual is to others (we are all different). I don't know why it is higher for aspies but I reckon the heightened lower senses thing makes sense. WE all struggle with our sexuality or lack there of in my case it isn't 100% asexual but I am about 95% i reckon. Relationships and sex are just not things I need or desire to survive.

Well that doesn't make a lot of sense, since on WP of all places it's certainly not uncommon for someone to not "have" access to sex.
Added to that that there's no requirement to talk about such things at all.

A bit like saying people who claim to be gay just can't "get" women.
The underlying presumption, of course, is that to not desire sex is so rare or non-existent an anomaly that it's more rational to consider the individuals who identify in that way LIARS.

In any case, over at AVEN, there does seem to be an extremely disproportionate number of asexuals.
Many many Autistics have issues with intense physical and emotional sensations,
in fact one of the symptoms on a tentative list being developed of female-specific Autistic traits is to either love sex or hate it.