Airborne wrote:
billsmithglendale wrote:
All this condom talk is appalling, but I guess pretty normal from guys who haven't experienced it yet and don't really know what they're talking about.
Rest assured that:
A) Girls (normal ones, anyways) don't think about sex like guys do, and don't value it the same way.
B) You're not getting any the first 5 minutes you start hanging out. You're probably not getting any the first month you start hanging out.
Really. Try 6 months if your lucky.
C) You're going to have to talk to her, be a normal human being, and not bring up sex or anything like that until she does, and even then, go at her pace, not yours
Exactly. Girls dont think like like guys do about sex and what not like you said in A.
I can't blame you for being inexperienced, but it's time to bring some reality to the conversation.
Even a really sexually aggressive girl won't let you nail her if you're some shiny new virgin -- maybe if you were some experienced Casa Nova.
This made me lol. I like to call those kind of guys "Don Juan's"
My first GF was sexually aggressive (and maybe disturbed), and did so some of the things guys fantasize about, and I still had to wait a while to get intimate. Just adjust your expectations accordingly, and get sex out of your head for now, because she'll pick up on that right away, and it's not attractive to women. For guys, someone wanting to have sex with them is attractive and rare. For women, it's the norm, too much so, and something they use to get what they want, usually love, attention, affection, material goods, etc. She's not going to give you what you want on the front end of the relationship, you're going to have to prove to her you like her as a human being, and not just a means to an orgasm.
Fine post my good sir, could not have said it better. I hope the OP takes this to heart.
Your compliments much appreciated, and yep, Don Juan was the name I was searching for
BTW, if you're waiting 6 months to get some, you're waiting too long. Half a year is waaaay too long to have a GF and not get any. For a virgin, I think maybe 2 months is the limit, and for an experienced guy, 4 dates (or 4 weeks). If nothing is warming up by then, Sayonara!