25 Feb 2009, 8:52 pm
SpazzDog wrote:
I find this thread very therapeutic. I'm glad to know I'm not the only one who has these problems. It's even better knowing females are having problems too. After being around so many young women in college who were so sexually liberated they could do anyone they want, always got what they wanted, and had a school system tailored to their needs while I was pushed through special ed my whole life and not properly prepared for college, it started to get to me. So I really began to feel like there was this superior social class in America, a matriarchal class. While I'm not saying my observations are illusions, I received the messages loud and clear about what it means for someone like me to be a male in this society, it's refreshing to hear it's not completely lop sided.
Don't despair! I totally go for your type and I'm totally not one of those cliche'd artsy types that you mention. I like art, but I'm real down to earth about it and have no airs about being "cultured".
I can relate to that. I'm studying to be a physicist (but the sort of stuff I want to do as a physicist is more philosophical, but that's a totally different story) and it's hard for me to find anyone who can match me on my level of intuitive understanding of the "bigger picture". I have a totally different way of seeing science than other people. Also I'm a social misfit, so if I ever did cross paths with someone who'd make a good match with me, being as socially inept as I am I'd probably totally miss the opportunity.
I turn 28 pretty soon and I"d totally go for a woman whose 27 (or 35 for that matter) and "average". There's someone who's "average" that works in my department that I want to ask out. The only thing which has held me back is I don't want her to learn too much about me and thus tell the rest of the staff and then the professors. It'd be embarrassing! Some things are better left unknown. I'm not perfect, but I'm most certainly a decent guy. It's just there's this hard shell around me. It's hard for women to get to know me. But if one ever does she'll be overwhelmed with the passion I keep buried deep inside of me. I'm a romantic by nature. It's so sad too. So many women want that in a guy but they don't try to get to know me (or have these weird expectations that I don't meet right away and so I'm discarded) and they miss out. And here I am totally unable to know how to make myself known to them.
Ligea_Seroua wrote:
The types thing isn't just mere stereotyping though....for instance in my case there is a only small demograhic of men who like anaemic pale, small women with waistlength redblonde hair...and unfortunately they tend to be cliched, pseudo-arty types.
Don't despair! I totally go for your type and I'm totally not one of those cliche'd artsy types that you mention. I like art, but I'm real down to earth about it and have no airs about being "cultured".
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some of the many reasons I am likely to remain a spinster now is I take science seriously but enjoy making fun of it [ . . . ]I am therefore not likely to meet anyone age appropriate or a serious scientist, and even if I did, what are you meant to do with them? I can't see how relationships work when human beings are like kryptonite to AS 
I can relate to that. I'm studying to be a physicist (but the sort of stuff I want to do as a physicist is more philosophical, but that's a totally different story) and it's hard for me to find anyone who can match me on my level of intuitive understanding of the "bigger picture". I have a totally different way of seeing science than other people. Also I'm a social misfit, so if I ever did cross paths with someone who'd make a good match with me, being as socially inept as I am I'd probably totally miss the opportunity.
MissConstrue wrote:
Anyway, I know I'll remain a spinster because I'm now 27 and most guys like their women younger not to mention hot and outgoing. So from my perspective of being a female, it ain't all good or easy. I think many guys assume all females look great when they categorize women in general on here. It ain't great for the plain janes who are already struggling with social skills and self-esteem.
I turn 28 pretty soon and I"d totally go for a woman whose 27 (or 35 for that matter) and "average". There's someone who's "average" that works in my department that I want to ask out. The only thing which has held me back is I don't want her to learn too much about me and thus tell the rest of the staff and then the professors. It'd be embarrassing! Some things are better left unknown. I'm not perfect, but I'm most certainly a decent guy. It's just there's this hard shell around me. It's hard for women to get to know me. But if one ever does she'll be overwhelmed with the passion I keep buried deep inside of me. I'm a romantic by nature. It's so sad too. So many women want that in a guy but they don't try to get to know me (or have these weird expectations that I don't meet right away and so I'm discarded) and they miss out. And here I am totally unable to know how to make myself known to them.
"Also I'm a social misfit, so if I ever did cross paths with someone who'd make a good match with me, being as socially inept as I am I'd probably totally miss the opportunity. "
I'm a social outcast too, and if I met a woman suitable for me to be with, I'd probably miss the opportunity.
P.S. asking your coworkers out on a date is a great way to get yourself fired. don't do it over email or phone message because then you are leaving a paper trail for your boss.
25 Feb 2009, 10:38 pm
02 Mar 2009, 5:01 pm
SpazzDog wrote:
Learning2Survive wrote:
P.S. asking your coworkers out on a date is a great way to get yourself fired. don't do it over email or phone message because then you are leaving a paper trail for your boss.
I don't work there, I'm just a student.
if you are just a student then frikkin go for it, man!! !
02 Mar 2009, 5:49 pm
02 Mar 2009, 6:13 pm
Homer_Bob wrote:
What about an article that states "guys having trouble finding any decent women?" That is what I wonder. If the women want to go after the over confident jerks, then no wonder they think there aren't any decent guys. Real nice guys don't seem to be good enough for them.
homer wth i sent you frikkin pm dude you always ignore pms from people? btw red sox win only cuz they got the most money.
03 Mar 2009, 11:27 am
Learning2Survive wrote:
Homer_Bob wrote:
What about an article that states "guys having trouble finding any decent women?" That is what I wonder. If the women want to go after the over confident jerks, then no wonder they think there aren't any decent guys. Real nice guys don't seem to be good enough for them.
homer wth i sent you frikkin pm dude you always ignore pms from people? btw red sox win only cuz they got the most money.
The Red Sox have the most money???? What are you kidding???? The Yankees have a lot more money then the Red Sox and everyone else. If the Red Sox had the most money, they'd have Mark Teixeria.
C.C Sabathia + A.J Burnett + Mark Teixeria = over 400 million for three damn players.
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03 Mar 2009, 11:29 am
Homer_Bob wrote:
Learning2Survive wrote:
Homer_Bob wrote:
What about an article that states "guys having trouble finding any decent women?" That is what I wonder. If the women want to go after the over confident jerks, then no wonder they think there aren't any decent guys. Real nice guys don't seem to be good enough for them.
homer wth i sent you frikkin pm dude you always ignore pms from people? btw red sox win only cuz they got the most money.
The Red Sox have the most money???? What are you kidding???? The Yankees have about 70 million more then they do.
C.C Sabathia + A.J Burnett + Mark Teixeria = over 400 million for three damn players.
hey i haven't been keeping up with sports lately - how's that Japanese kid doing - what's his name Mastuzaka..?
03 Mar 2009, 11:31 am
Learning2Survive wrote:
Homer_Bob wrote:
Learning2Survive wrote:
Homer_Bob wrote:
What about an article that states "guys having trouble finding any decent women?" That is what I wonder. If the women want to go after the over confident jerks, then no wonder they think there aren't any decent guys. Real nice guys don't seem to be good enough for them.
homer wth i sent you frikkin pm dude you always ignore pms from people? btw red sox win only cuz they got the most money.
The Red Sox have the most money???? What are you kidding???? The Yankees have about 70 million more then they do.
C.C Sabathia + A.J Burnett + Mark Teixeria = over 400 million for three damn players.
hey i haven't been keeping up with sports lately - how's that Japanese kid doing - what's his name Mastuzaka..?
He's in the world baseball classic.
03 Mar 2009, 1:11 pm
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