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18 Feb 2009, 7:12 pm

I have read teh whole thread.

I don't really care, but the whole point of 'aspie affection' was to make it easier for aspies to find a 'date' without swamping this site with 'man wanted' or 'woman wanted' personal adverts.



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18 Feb 2009, 7:34 pm

Well-intentioned, but I think the OP was actually asking for advice on what she might be doing wrong, or a perspective on her issues. That's how I read it anyways.



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18 Feb 2009, 9:09 pm

I hope more females feel free to post threads like this here.


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18 Feb 2009, 9:58 pm

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IT'S A TRAP! :lol:


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18 Feb 2009, 10:27 pm

Flismflop wrote:
I hope more females feel free to post threads like this here.





I couldn't agree more.


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18 Feb 2009, 10:37 pm

I couldn't agree less, take it to Aspie affection, that is the dating/personals site affiliated with WP.



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18 Feb 2009, 11:07 pm

You already said that.



Who want to screw around with two sites, when you can do it with one? :idea:


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18 Feb 2009, 11:38 pm

Good Lord, girl. Place ads on free dating sites. You're female -- you don't HAVE to pay to advertise.

Go to a convention -- ANY convention. Dress cute. You'll be swarmed.



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19 Feb 2009, 12:18 am

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Hmmm.....Pennsylvania? :chin:

dude, you're in the pennsilvania :D

Wolf, I'd like to introduce you to Jawbrodt, nice guy, funny, good person

Jawb, metalwolf, nice chica, loves star wars and video games

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19 Feb 2009, 12:45 am

computerlove wrote:
jawbrodt wrote:
Hmmm.....Pennsylvania? :chin:

dude, you're in the pennsilvania :D

Wolf, I'd like to introduce you to Jawbrodt, nice guy, funny, good person

Jawb, metalwolf, nice chica, loves star wars and video games

:D


shut up I'm trying to figure out how close to jersey she is... :)



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19 Feb 2009, 12:49 am

:lmao:


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19 Feb 2009, 7:54 am

jawbrodt wrote:
Hmmm.....Pennsylvania? :chin:


Is that in Austia



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19 Feb 2009, 8:26 am

ToadOfSteel wrote:
computerlove wrote:
jawbrodt wrote:
Hmmm.....Pennsylvania? :chin:

dude, you're in the pennsilvania :D

Wolf, I'd like to introduce you to Jawbrodt, nice guy, funny, good person

Jawb, metalwolf, nice chica, loves star wars and video games

:D


shut up I'm trying to figure out how close to jersey she is... :)


:lol:



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19 Feb 2009, 9:08 am

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Come to think of it, there's a woman at my workplace like this as well - likely either depressed or an Aspie, or both.

The moment I saw her my first day at work, I developed a huge crush on her. However, I'm married, so I can only admire from afar, as it should be. She doesn't like me that way anyways, from what I can tell, so no worries there 8)

She's exactly what I like -- Chinese-American, certain look to her, very pale skin, a certain kind of face, intelligent, well-read -- while some people think she's pretty, she's not at the top of anyone's list by far. She's also 35 and apparently not in a relationship, though she may have had one in the past with a guy whose pic and facebook responses seem to peg him as an Aspie (they apparently are not together). She does some Aspie things (like twisting), and comes off as cold, disinterested, or sour.

I think it's a shame -- to me, she's gorgeous, and she does have a great smile and some good humor when you get it out of her. I think she is probably overly picky, but also probably one who is hard to live with or around -- for instance, she lives with her sister right now after moving out here from another state, but she and her sister are not on great terms (there's an age gulf as well).

From what I can tell on her facebook page, she doesn't have a BF, doesn't seem to spend a lot of time with guys, just female friends, but isn't gay (her friends are homely but not lesbian or masculine). I do wish she was happy, and I still lust after her a bit too much (in my mind) when I'm around her, because she physically reminds me of several ex girlfriends and crushes.


I am glad I am not married to someone that knows all of that about a girl he is infatuated with!

Merle


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19 Feb 2009, 11:27 am

Have to say MetalWolf, I empathize with the sentiment.

For me, I don't think it's a matter of my not being brave enough to make a move. It's more that I'm somehow just not running into single, straight, not-lame guys in my general interest group.

Although echoing a few other posters here, my last two dates I met through scifi fandom.

Good luck...

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19 Feb 2009, 11:33 am

sinsboldly wrote:
billsmithglendale wrote:
Come to think of it, there's a woman at my workplace like this as well - likely either depressed or an Aspie, or both.

The moment I saw her my first day at work, I developed a huge crush on her. However, I'm married, so I can only admire from afar, as it should be. She doesn't like me that way anyways, from what I can tell, so no worries there 8)

She's exactly what I like -- Chinese-American, certain look to her, very pale skin, a certain kind of face, intelligent, well-read -- while some people think she's pretty, she's not at the top of anyone's list by far. She's also 35 and apparently not in a relationship, though she may have had one in the past with a guy whose pic and facebook responses seem to peg him as an Aspie (they apparently are not together). She does some Aspie things (like twisting), and comes off as cold, disinterested, or sour.

I think it's a shame -- to me, she's gorgeous, and she does have a great smile and some good humor when you get it out of her. I think she is probably overly picky, but also probably one who is hard to live with or around -- for instance, she lives with her sister right now after moving out here from another state, but she and her sister are not on great terms (there's an age gulf as well).

From what I can tell on her facebook page, she doesn't have a BF, doesn't seem to spend a lot of time with guys, just female friends, but isn't gay (her friends are homely but not lesbian or masculine). I do wish she was happy, and I still lust after her a bit too much (in my mind) when I'm around her, because she physically reminds me of several ex girlfriends and crushes.


I am glad I am not married to someone that knows all of that about a girl he is infatuated with!

Merle


Do you ever window shop for something you have no intention of buying? It's a harsh truth, but most guys look, even when they're perfectly happy at home. I have no intention of ever trading what I have for that person, but it is a person I can't help but feel something for due to various factors. I've seen the same behavior from woman coworkers as well (including towards my long-married self), so I think this is just a human thing.

And in my case, I happen to be nosy and a people watcher. I just think it's such a waste -- attractive woman, not taking care of her skin or dressing well (because she works around tech dorks all day, I guess, but there must be more). I think she's unhappy, but she's not doing what it takes to be happy.