To those who believe in e-relationships.....

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Angel_Maria
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16 Apr 2009, 2:41 pm

JennaJ wrote:
Angel_Maria wrote:
See i have seen both sides of this sitution.

One of my friends had an online "relationship" you know the kind where they rush home to talk to each other use web cams and microphones etc. She actually had a boyfriend at home. She never told this online romance this because she loved the fact she could be naughty with him while the bf was not around.

Now i told her many times this was wrong but she continued.

And i have also seen the other side of online romances.

My best friend met a man online and they started chatting everyday. They got along so well.

Now she lives with him and they are getting married in 3yrs time.

So i can see how they can and cant work it just depends on how you approach it


She is just a cheater anyway you look at it. In her case the affair didn't have to be physically consumated to be considered an affair. Poor guy she is dating (or was dating).


mmmmm i agree and i did tell her this before on many occasions but she just said that it did not count coz they were half way across the world.

Obvioulsy there was no LOVE there just the need for attention which is wrong.

I believe if you want a realtionship to work there must be love and trust!


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16 Apr 2009, 3:31 pm

Has tried online relationships, but I was only interested in sex, so I didn't even bother trying to get a real relationship with them.



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16 Apr 2009, 4:37 pm

After my divorce and before dating my current b/f i formed an extremely intense connection with someone online i met on a forum. It was very intense and it continued for months. We finally met in RL and it was as intense in real life as it was online.

But it fizzled out because neither of us were prepared to go for a long distance relationship.

They can work but most of the time the real life experience can't begin to match up to the online experience because with online you can fill in the blanks of that person you don't know about in your head and when we do that we tend to fill them in the most flattering way. In real life we are faced with who that person is in EVERY aspect and in those cases reality can't really match the fantasy that often occurs when you are having an intense online friendship or relationship.

The online thing can be so intense waiting for them to come online, getting that email or IM. The anticipation builds up so enormously. I have always stated that things are faster on line than in real life. It seems that a month of serious online communications with a person can almost equal six months of real life interactions (that is if the two involved are very tactical and express themselves well and often online).

The person i referenced above - our online thing lasted about six months and i swear it felt like we had been seeing each other well over two years!