Why do guys hate fat chicks?

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...which I consider a gross highjacking of the word "voluptuous", which is technically meant to mean "pleasurable". The same with "curvy". When I think "curvy" or "voluptuous", I DO NOT think of an obese lady.

I see obesity the way I see any other type of physical abnormality, or deviation. Like a strange walk, or a severely hunched back. It's not as if I'm turned off by these things, but when looking for a mate, it's not as if I'm exactly drawn to these things either.

Aww thanks Taupey.

Hey there, I've been reading this thread and first of all congratulations on the weight loss. There are some guys who don't focus too much on physical appearances, so not all guys dislike us. It's just difficult finding these guys.

We just need to keep up with our new lifestyle changes and find different physical activities that aren't repetitive and that we actually enjoy. You seem to have a good personality and good physical features, so I'm sure the right guy will come along if you put yourself out there.

For example, I'm not the prettiest girl in the bunch, but when I talk more and smile, guys seem to show more of an interest in me. Before realizing this, I used to just be really quiet and closed up when guys would try to initiate a conversation or hit on me (so it really pushed them away). Good luck, and again, congratulations on all of your hard work.

Last edited by Stellar on 25 Jul 2010, 7:11 am, edited 1 time in total.

@Stellar - Thanks for your support. I guess attitude is everything, right?

(1) Because other guys will give you grief if you date a fat chick
(2) Because if she is already fat even before she meets you, if you develop a serious relationship, what will stop her from hetting even fatter?

This is a valid reason too. Social status counts for a lot on a subconscious level. Girls are naturally ranked on physical attractiveness. Whether they'd admit it or not, any guy would be much more excited about being approached by an attractive girl than an average looking one.

Same thing goes for a guy's popularity. Most girls would be way more excited to be approached by the life of the party than the loner in the corner. Even if thier looks and personality wern't that much different.

So I'll be ignored forever because I'm not gorgeous? Fantastic. :/

It's definately a disadvantage. You're not totally screwed though; you just have to work harder to counteract it. I know a few heavier girls who did that successfully by taking more initiative and not waiting to be asked out.

I don't understand how people can equate being fat to being ugly...

Body weight can come and go, but if your face ain't so pretty, there's nothing you can really do about it.

And I know I'm only judging from one picture, but I don't see anything wrong with your face at all.

Because fat people and ugly people are treated the same. It's like we're not human to the beautiful thin people.

@deadeyexx - I have asked guys out. They usually look at me in disgust. Like "ewwww, who the hell would ever want you?" and it makes me sad. I've had two boyfriends in the past 5-6 years. They treated me terribly. The longest relationship I've had was 2 months. I guess guys get bored of me easily, which I don't understand cuz I'm freaking crazy (in a good way). D:

^ So if this bothers you so much, why aren't you thin? It is a choice you know, despite what you may think.

Here's my grocery list from last time I went shopping:

Cornflakes, kefir, orange juice, swiss cheese, peanut butter, polenta, rice, rice pasta, bananas, cherries, grapes, caesar salad, almonds, raw revolution bars, eggs, carrot sticks, soy protein shake, chicken, salmon, corn soup.

If you aren't eating food that's been around for 30,000 years, you aren't eating correctly.

And work out! You could be thin in 9 months, if you had the motivation and the self control.

Try the paleo diet and ADHD medications like adderall (if you are diagnosed add/ADHD) as well.

I'm ADHD/AS and usually just eat a can of tuna and a handful of nuts most meals and I am steadily dropping weight.

Also try to color coordinate what you wear.

Other onservation: Guys date heavy girls because they think they are easier. Sad but true.

You make it sound so easy, but it's not. You can't just drop all your weight that fast. 9 months? There's no way I could lose 100 pounds that fast without resorting to surgery.

I am eating right, sir. With college going on, I didn't have much time to exercise. I had to sacrifice physical activity for my grades. I don't know how I'll keep up my exercise regiment once I go back to school. Two weeks ago, I started exercising for an hour a day, 5 days a week.

@RICKY5 - I am on adderall and celexa. Adderall controls my appetite but celexa makes me gain weight anyway. Since I'm so emotionally unstable, I cannot go without the celexa. I tried and almost committed suicide. So I eat small portions of food that's good for me and am still fat anyway. D:

Well, it just dawned on me . . . it could be something in the area you live that could be causing weight as an allergic reaction. My whole family eats right, and gets 15+ minutes physical activity a day, yet the only time my parents seemed to lose weight was when they kept the same routine and diet, but in a different state. It could also be some form of medication (assuming you're on any) that could be doing it: for example, my mother is heavy (but trust me, she can't stop moving and is always doing something), her physical reveals only that, "She is the healthiest bowling ball the doctors have met," but her thyroid is screwy, and her medication directly affects weight gain. Shoot, I've found that some medication that "causes weight loss/high metabolism," can cause you to gain weight, because you're hungry more often (my mother's case as she tells it). Just be mindful of what you're taking, and where you live . . . for all you know, it could simply be an allergic reaction to something in the air and in the food/medication you take in. Different people, different bodies, different reactions to the same daily stuff.

I don't hate fat women. Not at all. I'm just not attracted to them.
I was brainwashed at a young age with supermodels and all that stuff about what a woman should look like. At that impressionable age is when men are more or less programmed to like a certain look or body type. After that, it's hard-wired for life and not changeable. You can't argue with the penis. Either he salutes or he doesn't. I feel bad for fat women sometimes, that a shallow society has left them in the dust, but I can't take that intellectual feeling of injustice and convert it to a hard-on. There's just no attraction.
As for the stereotype that weight is a choice and fat people are just slobs who don't take care of themselves, people need to put that s**t to bed. There may be a few such people, a percentage, but studies show that even in fat people who are trying to diet the small intestine is hyperefficient, that is, it squeezes every calorie and fat molecule out of the tiniest meals. Skinnier people have less efficient small intestines (lucky for them) and a lot of potential energy is lost in digestion.