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15 Mar 2013, 5:44 pm

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the penis has to stand in


That is what it is for.


This is getting silly!


Well, we are returning to the original topic, which is what men want in a woman.


Fair enough (was that meant to be a joke btw?)

Anyway...

Men usually want no rows, which given that they often don't act how the woman wants, is unlikely!



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15 Mar 2013, 5:56 pm

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:? Well definitely I'm not fascinated by the whores in his music videos. I don't need to dress like a whore to get a guy's attention. At least I personally don't think so. I don't know. I just watch it because he's just dreamy.

it's not necessary to put the women down with insulting words just because you don't like their attire or behaviour - clearly he DOES like the way they are. and considering he's not such a nice person himself, it's curious that you're giving him a free ride but you trash the women instead.



I dont know. Part of me wants to dress like that to get a man to love me and not have them think that I'm a naive half Asian. Being half Asian also is bad in certain ways. Some men think Asian women are easy and that they are very submissive which is sad. So Asian women can get used in a way. So if I dressed in tight tops or tight bottoms and g strings and dance around like those ladies in Pitbull's videos maybe I may get more men attracted to me? But at the same time they dont look classy. I don't know. Should we women all dress like that to get a man as a potential husband?? Pitbull dresses well. I like the suit and sunglasses. The only negative thing I read about him is the punching of fan on stage but while I don't like violence at all, it was like the fan provoked him. But we don't have the actual words that were exchanged between the fan and Pitbull.


I don't think dressing like that is the key to getting a husband... You probably would get more male attention, but most likely the kind that you're not after... It's important that you are comfortable with what you wear. You can be comfortable, look classy and feminine all at the same time. If you feel that your dress sense needs updating it's ok to get inspiration from style icons or fashion of your preference, but it shouldn't mean turning into something you're not. It's sad that there are men are stuck with that mindset, but they don't change their opinion of you after having talked to you and spend time with you, I doubt that they are worth of your time anyway.


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15 Mar 2013, 5:58 pm

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Men usually want no rows, which given that they often don't act how the woman wants, is unlikely!


Oh, we'll take a row of women.



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15 Mar 2013, 5:59 pm

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Men usually want no rows, which given that they often don't act how the woman wants, is unlikely!


Oh, we'll take a row of women.


:lol:

A row of rowing women?



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15 Mar 2013, 6:19 pm

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There's no male equivalent of breasts hence the nearest equivalent is the penis, which isn't shown often



No, the Female equivalent of the Penis is the Vagina.


That's not what I said

I said what was the male equivalent of female breasts

There isn't one, hence the penis has to stand in


No it doesn't. Because no one wants to see it. This is circular and reductive. You're upset that people like to look at sexualized images of women's breasts, understandable, but you're trying to equate two totally different things.

"This movie needs more penis shots!" Said no focus group ever.

One, Breasts, sells movies, I guarantee you no one would have paid to see Swordfish if it wasn't for the fact Halle Berry had her boobs out for half a second in it.. and two, I mean, do you really want a repeat of when Dennis Franz walked around naked in NYPD blue?!



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15 Mar 2013, 6:23 pm

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:? Well definitely I'm not fascinated by the whores in his music videos. I don't need to dress like a whore to get a guy's attention. At least I personally don't think so. I don't know. I just watch it because he's just dreamy.


Well, you MIGHT move to the front of his line, if you just mentioned casually that you were a half-Korean virgin. :wink:


Nah he will be not interested. I think he prefers Latina woman. Plus who wants me? I don't have sex with every guy I meet. I want to share that with my husband on our wedding night. That's just how I am. :? :(


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15 Mar 2013, 6:24 pm

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There's no male equivalent of breasts hence the nearest equivalent is the penis, which isn't shown often



No, the Female equivalent of the Penis is the Vagina.


That's not what I said

I said what was the male equivalent of female breasts

There isn't one, hence the penis has to stand in


No it doesn't. Because no one wants to see it. This is circular and reductive. You're upset that people like to look at sexualized images of women's breasts, understandable, but you're trying to equate two totally different things.

"This movie needs more penis shots!" Said no focus group ever.

One, Breasts, sells movies, I guarantee you no one would have paid to see Swordfish if it wasn't for the fact Halle Berry had her boobs out for half a second in it.. and two, I mean, do you really want a repeat of when Dennis Franz walked around naked in NYPD blue?!


I never saw Dennis Franz the first time

I just feel women are more exposed than men
and feel sorry for men that they are that obsessed with seeing female flesh!
I'd hate to be such a victim of my libido



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15 Mar 2013, 6:25 pm

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:? Well definitely I'm not fascinated by the whores in his music videos. I don't need to dress like a whore to get a guy's attention. At least I personally don't think so. I don't know. I just watch it because he's just dreamy.


Well, you MIGHT move to the front of his line, if you just mentioned casually that you were a half-Korean virgin. :wink:


Nah he will be not interested. I think he prefers Latina woman. Plus who wants me? I don't have sex with every guy I meet. I want to share that with my husband on our wedding night. That's just how I am. :? :(


And what if your husband is no good at sex?



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15 Mar 2013, 6:27 pm

nessa238 wrote:
luvsterriers wrote:
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:? Well definitely I'm not fascinated by the whores in his music videos. I don't need to dress like a whore to get a guy's attention. At least I personally don't think so. I don't know. I just watch it because he's just dreamy.


Well, you MIGHT move to the front of his line, if you just mentioned casually that you were a half-Korean virgin. :wink:


Nah he will be not interested. I think he prefers Latina woman. Plus who wants me? I don't have sex with every guy I meet. I want to share that with my husband on our wedding night. That's just how I am. :? :(


And what if your husband is no good at sex?


Not sure. That's probably why I won't get married. Ok I'm going to stop now I'm getting depressed talking about sex before marriage and all because I know that men won't want me. :( :cry:


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15 Mar 2013, 6:28 pm

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luvsterriers wrote:
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:? Well definitely I'm not fascinated by the whores in his music videos. I don't need to dress like a whore to get a guy's attention. At least I personally don't think so. I don't know. I just watch it because he's just dreamy.


Well, you MIGHT move to the front of his line, if you just mentioned casually that you were a half-Korean virgin. :wink:


Nah he will be not interested. I think he prefers Latina woman. Plus who wants me? I don't have sex with every guy I meet. I want to share that with my husband on our wedding night. That's just how I am. :? :(


And what if your husband is no good at sex?


Not sure. That's probably why I won't get married. Ok I'm going to stop now I'm getting depressed talking about sex before marriage and all because I know that men won't want me. :( :cry:


Don't be silly

Everyone has doubts like that

You'll meet someone I'm sure

You've got an nice personality and are probably attractive especially with being of mixed race

I wouldn't worry about marriage at this stage, just experience life



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15 Mar 2013, 6:35 pm

nessa238 wrote:
luvsterriers wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
luvsterriers wrote:
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luvsterriers wrote:
:? Well definitely I'm not fascinated by the whores in his music videos. I don't need to dress like a whore to get a guy's attention. At least I personally don't think so. I don't know. I just watch it because he's just dreamy.


Well, you MIGHT move to the front of his line, if you just mentioned casually that you were a half-Korean virgin. :wink:


Nah he will be not interested. I think he prefers Latina woman. Plus who wants me? I don't have sex with every guy I meet. I want to share that with my husband on our wedding night. That's just how I am. :? :(


And what if your husband is no good at sex?


Not sure. That's probably why I won't get married. Ok I'm going to stop now I'm getting depressed talking about sex before marriage and all because I know that men won't want me. :( :cry:


Don't be silly

Everyone has doubts like that

You'll meet someone I'm sure

You've got an nice personality and are probably attractive especially with being of mixed race

I wouldn't worry about marriage at this stage, just experience life


*Hugs*

Nessa's right, everyone has doubts like that sometimes. You seem like a very lovable woman to me, I'm sure you'll find someone to share your life with :) Remember that you have to learn to love yourself first (which does seem to take some effort for a lot of aspies in these forums...) Concentrate on experiencing life for now and find things that make you feel happy and fulfilled :)


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15 Mar 2013, 6:36 pm

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Nah he will be not interested. I think he prefers Latina woman. Plus who wants me? I don't have sex with every guy I meet. I want to share that with my husband on our wedding night. That's just how I am. :? :(


Well, just don't tell him that last part up front. :wink:



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15 Mar 2013, 6:44 pm

ArrantPariah wrote:
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Nah he will be not interested. I think he prefers Latina woman. Plus who wants me? I don't have sex with every guy I meet. I want to share that with my husband on our wedding night. That's just how I am. :? :(


Well, just don't tell him that last part up front. :wink:


I don't want to lie. This is for any man. Ok now I'm listening to this song.

Just The Way I Am (Big Daddy Weave)

You know when I'm depressed when I'm cranking up Christian music big time.


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15 Mar 2013, 7:02 pm

luvsterriers wrote:
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Nah he will be not interested. I think he prefers Latina woman. Plus who wants me? I don't have sex with every guy I meet. I want to share that with my husband on our wedding night. That's just how I am. :? :(


Well, just don't tell him that last part up front. :wink:


I don't want to lie. This is for any man. Ok now I'm listening to this song.

Just The Way I Am (Big Daddy Weave)

You know when I'm depressed when I'm cranking up Christian music big time.
[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EPlaKeaoGq4[/youtube]

Try to cheer up! :cheers: A lot of good stuff and most likely love is still ahead you :)


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15 Mar 2013, 7:06 pm

Lilya wrote:
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:? Well definitely I'm not fascinated by the whores in his music videos. I don't need to dress like a whore to get a guy's attention. At least I personally don't think so. I don't know. I just watch it because he's just dreamy.

it's not necessary to put the women down with insulting words just because you don't like their attire or behaviour - clearly he DOES like the way they are. and considering he's not such a nice person himself, it's curious that you're giving him a free ride but you trash the women instead.



I dont know. Part of me wants to dress like that to get a man to love me and not have them think that I'm a naive half Asian. Being half Asian also is bad in certain ways. Some men think Asian women are easy and that they are very submissive which is sad. So Asian women can get used in a way. So if I dressed in tight tops or tight bottoms and g strings and dance around like those ladies in Pitbull's videos maybe I may get more men attracted to me? But at the same time they dont look classy. I don't know. Should we women all dress like that to get a man as a potential husband?? Pitbull dresses well. I like the suit and sunglasses. The only negative thing I read about him is the punching of fan on stage but while I don't like violence at all, it was like the fan provoked him. But we don't have the actual words that were exchanged between the fan and Pitbull.


I don't think dressing like that is the key to getting a husband... You probably would get more male attention, but most likely the kind that you're not after... It's important that you are comfortable with what you wear. You can be comfortable, look classy and feminine all at the same time. If you feel that your dress sense needs updating it's ok to get inspiration from style icons or fashion of your preference, but it shouldn't mean turning into something you're not. It's sad that there are men are stuck with that mindset, but they don't change their opinion of you after having talked to you and spend time with you, I doubt that they are worth of your time anyway.


You'd get attention....from men like Pitbull. Loud obnoxious annoying men who talk about how much sex and p**** they get. So hey, I'm allowed to go for my Perfume clone, and you can go for your Pitbull clone. We can all live our dreams.

(For the record, Pitbull has 3 "baby mamas" and believes in open relationships. srs.)



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15 Mar 2013, 7:07 pm

ArrantPariah wrote:
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Nah he will be not interested. I think he prefers Latina woman. Plus who wants me? I don't have sex with every guy I meet. I want to share that with my husband on our wedding night. That's just how I am. :? :(


Well, just don't tell him that last part up front. :wink:


Yep, start your relationships off with lies, as they'll end in lies anyway.