WHAT ARE YOUR DEAL BREAKERS WHEN IT COMES TO RELATIONSHIPS?

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Thank you very much. I appreciate that. I never want to be see as being dogmatic in these matters.

I guess I'm "hard core" in the sense that I have no belief in spiritual things whatsoever.

Yeah I was being a real dingo this morning, but now I got my energy fix. My actual intelligent answer is that everyone is different and it's kind of pointless to try to judge what will kill another unrelated persons relationship.

Preferences are individual...other people might be in happy relationships with a particular difference, but it doesn't mean I would want the same for myself.

Being like so many of my fellow individuals with ASD I have a strong urge to categorize things. At some point in the past I came to the philosophical conclusion that human beings are a species of individuals and no single person can be accurately judged by a stereotype unless they themselves admit to upholding it. I still get the urge though sometimes to categorize people though and am prone to doing when I'm not fully functional, please polity remind me of this if you ever catch me doing it again.

Mine would be
-they hate metal music
-they wont go to concerts
-are totally anti-marijuana(certainly prefer guys who actually smoke it to)
-If they are abusive
-If they are super right wing, I just don't see that working out...I'm too much of a socialist.
-If they have a super clean cut almost 'sterile' appearance
-They are 100% opposed to going out and having a beer, or staying in and having some beers.
-If they never want to spend much time together or do a lot of activities together
-Don't have any of the same interests as me, I think its cool if they have some interests hobbies that are new to me and vice versa so we can sort of trade off and maybe even expand each others base of interests.
-And of course if they cannot tolerate cigarette smoking at all, since I do smoke.

My deal breakers are:

-Plays MIND GAMES- these are the worst
-Is arrogant
-Pushy and materialistic
-Looks at other girls while on dates
-Being too liberal
-Bad money management
-Trying to get other people's attention all the time
-Belittling
-Hypocritical or sexist
-Fanatically religious
-Smoker, Heavy Drinker
-Does drugs
-Talking all the time
-No direction in life
-Kids
-Previous marriages or ex's that would harass me
-Overly flirtatious
-Pity themselves
-Being too attentive which can be obnoxious as I need my downtime
-Being too muscular
-Talk a good game with nothing to back it up

I'm sure there are many other more superficial things that I hate, but these cover the personality aspects pretty well.

My deal breakers are of the following:

1. Making me be something I'm not. I don't want to be with someone that wants me to be a different person. If they want me to be someone else, they should move on.

2. If they're abusive towards others, especially my family and pets. I don't want any more abusive people in my life if I can help it.

3. If they're a narcissist. My biological father is a textbook narcissist, and i don't want to be with ANYONE like my biological father.

4. Acts like they're better than other people because they follow a certain religion/diet.

5. Unwillingness to comfort and help me when I need it.

6. If they're unwilling to even TRY to find a job. I understand if you're having trouble finding a job, but I want you to at least TRY. I don't want to be with someone that is too lazy to work AT ALL. And that excludes people who are incapable of getting and keeping a job.

7. If they don't manage their money well.

8. If they make fun of me for things I can't help.

Get a room...

I am an excessive drinker in medical definition effective as of last week. My doctor told me to stop due to elevated liver count. Alas! Most of you will never love me! *returns to drinking non-alcoholic Krombacher Weizens with an amused sigh*